Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 The occupational Therapist for my son is going to start Therapeutic Listening. They listen to different sounds and music through ear phones a few times a day. He hasn't started yet but I will let u know how it goes. Also my son is seeing a behavior therapist who is role playing with him on how to socialize with kids. This has definitely work well. He is seeing things differently. Savasnia <Savasnia@...> wrote: I would like to know what programs you have used including books, videos, role playing scenarios, and or curriculum to teach your Asperger's child social skills? Have any of them had positive results? Thanks, Jeanette Ally Check out the all-new beta - Fire up a more powerful email and get things done faster. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2007 Report Share Posted February 6, 2007 The occupational Therapist for my son is going to start Therapeutic Listening. They listen to different sounds and music through ear phones a few times a day. He hasn't started yet but I will let u know how it goes. Also my son is seeing a behavior therapist who is role playing with him on how to socialize with kids. This has definitely work well. He is seeing things differently. Savasnia <Savasnia@...> wrote: I would like to know what programs you have used including books, videos, role playing scenarios, and or curriculum to teach your Asperger's child social skills? Have any of them had positive results? Thanks, Jeanette Ally Check out the all-new beta - Fire up a more powerful email and get things done faster. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2007 Report Share Posted February 7, 2007 We are currently doing ABA, used sign language and PECS last year with so far phenomenal results.Savasnia <Savasnia@...> wrote: I would like to know what programs you have used including books, videos, role playing scenarios, and or curriculum to teach your Asperger's child social skills? Have any of them had positive results? Thanks, Jeanette ______________________________________________________________ If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or faraway. Henry Thoreau Don't be flakey. Get for Mobile and always stay connected to friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 You do not mention what age level you are looking for but Kids Creek (’s Creek & Medloc Bridge) have some great social skills groups. My twins have attended the 4-6 year old group class twice & have loved it. I have tried many places but I believe this place surpasses every other group I’ve tried. Call 770-337-4387 and ask for McGriff (one of the owners). The other group is for older kids. Nicky From: autism [mailto:autism ] On Behalf Of Pendleton Sent: Wednesday, April 18, 2007 4:52 PM autism Subject: Social skills Is there anyone who knows of a social skills camp in North Fulton? I know there's one in south Atlanta but that would be too far for us. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2007 Report Share Posted April 18, 2007 I sent out an email regarding a social skills camp to be held at Eaton Academy in Roswell. I have attached the flyer. From: autism [mailto:autism ] On Behalf Of Pendleton Sent: Wednesday, April 18, 2007 3:52 PM autism Subject: Social skills Is there anyone who knows of a social skills camp in North Fulton? I know there's one in south Atlanta but that would be too far for us. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 Hello. No advice to give but I'm lloking at a similar situation years down the road. My 8 y/o has absoluetly NO SOCIAL SKILLS. We try to explain things to him but he just does'nt get it. We too worry about what your going through now. Good luck.doreenbudetti <doreenbudetti@...> wrote: Hi,I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!!! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendish. She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 I cannot believe that the parents of this boy could not be more understanding with them having a boy with Aspergers, too! My goodness! If she wants an email friend her age, let me know. My Asperger's son is 18, talks constantly, is super-friendly, super-kind, and totally wants to be popular, too, but is shunned by "normal" kids for the most part. I'm sorry for your troubles...but maybe a new friend would help? Just an idea. Email me if you think she'd like to make a new friend. We are in Massachusetts. Blessings...<>< Rene Coston http://homeschoolingforlove.blogspot.com "I believe in the sun even when it is not shining, in love even when I am alone and in God even when He is silent." social skills Hi,I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!! ! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendis h. She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 P.S. He also likes everyone, so him wanting to make a new friend will be a definite! Blessings...<>< Rene Coston http://homeschoolingforlove.blogspot.com "I believe in the sun even when it is not shining, in love even when I am alone and in God even when He is silent." social skills Hi,I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!! ! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendis h. She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 This sounds just like my husband. I'd be interested in any advice too since the situation has become intolerabledoreenbudetti <doreenbudetti@...> wrote: Hi,I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!!! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendish. She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 Your situation is not hopeless. It seems that you haven't found the proper treatment situation at this point. If you look to your state psychological association, look up licensed clinical psychologists (Ph.D., with adequate training), and check out practitioners (first brief talk on the phone to screen out a bit first, and then set up an appointment with someone you think is a good fit). Your daughter will not gain from a socialization skills group - what she needs is individualized planning. (Remember that you are a consumer, and that if after a month or so, the psychologist is not doing well by you, then switch to a different practitioner.) Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 > > Your situation is not hopeless. It seems that you haven't found the > proper treatment situation at this point. If you look to your state > psychological association, look up licensed clinical psychologists > (Ph.D., with adequate training), and check out practitioners (first > brief talk on the phone to screen out a bit first, and then set up an > appointment with someone you think is a good fit). Your daughter will > not gain from a socialization skills group - what she needs is > individualized planning. (Remember that you are a consumer, and that > if after a month or so, the psychologist is not doing well by you, then > switch to a different practitioner.) Good luck. > Thank you for your help I really appreciate any and all help I can get.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Hi, > I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must > add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she > has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand > her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. > She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around > her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but > wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is > immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great > person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a > support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became > friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!!! boyfriends for short time, then back friends- boyfriendish. > She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys > parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, > I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I > am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her > for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is > it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. > it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with > everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. >Thank for reading and listening but you just have to stay on top of everything but it is just impossible. When they have " NO social skill " you just cant't teach that to them which is so frustrating as a parent. No 2 situations are never the same so they just don't realate like other kids. She does or says stuff that other kids her age 18yr think where did she get that from- weird -doe then it over one friends and all a lone. I try to be their for her but she doen't want me really she wants someone her age to hang with. Not going to the movies with mom but we do it because I am all she has. It just breaks my heart but I so understand how others her age find her to difficult to be around. Thank again for all the advice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 Doreen, One huge question re your 18 yr old and restraining order, etc.: is she under your guardianship or is she legally responsible for her actions in terms of being an adult? The reason I ask is that it seems to me you need to get legal advice re guardianship of her as an "incompetent adult". If she has these issues and has had them, etc. it may be that she is looking at future incarceration due to adult actions. Is she considered disabled due to her diagnosis and functional abilities? Priscilla Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2008 Report Share Posted January 17, 2008 Dear Doreen, As awful as guardianship and having someone declared incompetent is, it may protect her. The question is: are you then liable? My daughter, who is 39, got well from autism, and then went back into it after a pesticide exposure around 20. She has gotten much better over the years, and Asperger's is trying. She too is very stubborn about 'her ways'. That said, I have found only prayer to be effective once you're at this stage (and, of course, at any time!). There's a saying: "A mind that's changed against its will is of the same opinion still." However, prayer works on a different level, and it so helps the one praying too. Prayer and a super-healthy diet and exercise are the three things that I've seen to have the best healing effect. I so feel for you and know what that frustration feels like. Prayer is like going to a higher court! Love, Francine In a message dated 1/16/2008 11:42:35 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, doreenbudetti@... writes: Hi,> I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must > add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she > has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand > her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. > She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around > her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but > wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is > immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great > person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a > support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became > friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!!! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendish. > She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys > parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, > I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I > am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her > for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is > it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. > it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with > everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening> > > > > > > ---------------------------------> Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search.>Thank for reading and listening but you just have to stay on top of everything but it is just impossible. When they have "NO social skill" you just cant't teach that to them which is so frustrating as a parent. No 2 situations are never the same so they just don't realate like other kids. She does or says stuff that other kids her age 18yr think where did she get that from- weird -doe then it over one friends and all a lone. I try to be their for her but she doen't want me really she wants someone her age to hang with. Not going to the movies with mom but we do it because I am all she has. It just breaks my heart but I so understand how others her age find her to difficult to be around.Thank again for all the advice Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 > > Doreen, > One huge question re your 18 yr old and restraining order, etc.: is she under your guardianship or is she legally responsible for her actions in terms of being an adult? The reason I ask is that it seems to me you need to get legal advice re guardianship of her as an " incompetent adult " . If she has these issues and has had them, etc. it may be that she is looking at future incarceration due to adult actions. Is she considered disabled due to her diagnosis and functional abilities? > Priscilla > > > --------------------------------- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. >It is funny u should mention this because I went to an exiting Senior high School to get Vesid for her. It like special college-- They said I need to look into Three things SSI because she doesnot work or drive. gaurdianship so I can be in control of things as she just doesnot understand the system and medicaid-medicare because once graduates can not carry her on family insurance if not a student. Does all this sound right? Thanks for all the help Doreen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 > > Doreen, > One huge question re your 18 yr old and restraining order, etc.: is she under your guardianship or is she legally responsible for her actions in terms of being an adult? The reason I ask is that it seems to me you need to get legal advice re guardianship of her as an " incompetent adult " . If she has these issues and has had them, etc. it may be that she is looking at future incarceration due to adult actions. Is she considered disabled due to her diagnosis and functional abilities? > Priscilla > > > --------------------------------- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. >It is funny u should mention this because I went to an exiting Senior high School to get Vesid for her. It like special college-- They said I need to look into Three things SSI because she doesnot work or drive. gaurdianship so I can be in control of things as she just doesnot understand the system and medicaid-medicare because once graduates can not carry her on family insurance if not a student. Does all this sound right? Thanks for all the help Doreen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 I am sorry this is late. I was out of commission for a bit. I daughter was arrested, she is bi-polar. She was arrested for hitting me. Luckily she ended up in the phosp rather in juve. I contacted the public defender for her and explained that at the time her moods were cycling, and that these were her diagnoses. He had the pdoc write a letter stating my daughter's diagnosis, that yes she she needed to be held accountable but her bp, OCD, etc. needed to be taken into account. The defense attorney dealt with everything ahead of time. I spoke to the probation officer, and they made sure what they were thinking for comm service would work for her. Everyone worked with us, right down to the judge. had consequences for her actions, but yet her mental health was taken into account. She got 6 months probation/24 hrs community service. She has NO desire to go thru that again and I know she has thought twice about it. You daughter's diagnosis should be taken into account. Also, there is a book out there called I believe "A 5 is against the law" Written for kids with ASD who don't understand social situations and that some things they do are against the law. I have "A 5 can make me lose control" for my 11 yr old because his anxiety is so bad. I can honestly say that my daughter being arrested was a good thing for her. is emotionall/socially immature however she had to understand that she had to be held accountable for her behaivior. You situation is different because your child dosen't understand social issues. I would defintely speak to her doctor and get a letter and also arm yourself with info on ASD to provide those who are working on your child's case. I'm s orry this is so long, I hpe this helps Sue . social skills Hi,I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!! ! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendis h. She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.516 / Virus Database: 269.19.4/1226 - Release Date: 1/15/2008 6:19 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 I am sorry this is late. I was out of commission for a bit. I daughter was arrested, she is bi-polar. She was arrested for hitting me. Luckily she ended up in the phosp rather in juve. I contacted the public defender for her and explained that at the time her moods were cycling, and that these were her diagnoses. He had the pdoc write a letter stating my daughter's diagnosis, that yes she she needed to be held accountable but her bp, OCD, etc. needed to be taken into account. The defense attorney dealt with everything ahead of time. I spoke to the probation officer, and they made sure what they were thinking for comm service would work for her. Everyone worked with us, right down to the judge. had consequences for her actions, but yet her mental health was taken into account. She got 6 months probation/24 hrs community service. She has NO desire to go thru that again and I know she has thought twice about it. You daughter's diagnosis should be taken into account. Also, there is a book out there called I believe "A 5 is against the law" Written for kids with ASD who don't understand social situations and that some things they do are against the law. I have "A 5 can make me lose control" for my 11 yr old because his anxiety is so bad. I can honestly say that my daughter being arrested was a good thing for her. is emotionall/socially immature however she had to understand that she had to be held accountable for her behaivior. You situation is different because your child dosen't understand social issues. I would defintely speak to her doctor and get a letter and also arm yourself with info on ASD to provide those who are working on your child's case. I'm s orry this is so long, I hpe this helps Sue . social skills Hi,I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!! ! boyfriends for short time, then back friends-boyfriendis h. She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.516 / Virus Database: 269.19.4/1226 - Release Date: 1/15/2008 6:19 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 I would suggest that for anyone facing this issue, do not back down and do anything and everything to avoid criminal charges. In this day and age, it is far too easy to just accept a plea to make it go away, but these pleas (especially ones involving aggression) can come back to haunt them. For example, it is near impossible to obtain financial aid with many crimes on your record. By the time they get to college, it will oftentimes be too late to do anything about it. I see far too often that people don't fight. I know it is expensive but if you get someone who is a fighter you can many times make a positive step. Also, make sure that everyone knows about AS. Educate the police and the prosecutor. I am an attorney and I also worry about my 7 year old with this. He is teased relentlessly and, like anyone, will reach out against his tormentors, thereby making him the problem. It is very tough and we all need to be effective advocates for our children. N. WaltersOn Jan 30, 2008 11:06 PM, vickie <blackfoot124@...> wrote: wow I dont know what to really say.I dont understand what having her arrested was to prove they being parents of a child with similar dx. should understand the problems that all of us face (parents ,children etc...).you prolly already have but can she get people to work with her .my friend has had the problem with her son think he is the same age is pdd but hs is also hearing impaired he had aides and that press charges .i do not know where you are located at so i dont know what the rules are .they should have some kind of org that can step in and help you with the legal issues and maybe a councilor to help her with the self esteem . sounds like she now has anxiety something she didnt need.if you want i can ask my friend if i can give u her addy and you can talk to her about it.(the legal) the school she is in is it a special needs school or a mainstreamed school (public)if it is a public see if u can get her placed in a special needs school (intermediate unit ) shed stay there til 21 then graduate. my son is in one and my other will start in it also this sept, since these kids all have disorders of some kind there is no prejudices i noticed they seem to all support each other ,i am sure there are some kids who dont know the other kids cuz of the age differences usually if an " insult " is said it is cuz of them not knowing social skills and speak with out thinking.i wished she didnt have to go through this and i know it hurts to watch them go through it . i would talk to the school also about the friend issue they could set up like a buddy system for her so she has someone with her and maybe help her out in how to interact with others.the school my son attends he has like 2 social skills classes a day i think it is .he still has a lot to learn but i can see a difference in the yr & a half he has been attending .wishing you much luck with this Vickie Vickie WwW.SparkleTags.Com Re: social skills Hi, > I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must > add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she > has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand > her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. > She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around > her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but > wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is > immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great > person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a > support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became > friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!! ! boyfriends for short time, then back friends- boyfriendish. > She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys > parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, > I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I > am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her > for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is > it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. > it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with > everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening > > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- --- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. >Thank for reading and listening but you just have to stay on top of everything but it is just impossible. When they have " NO social skill " you just cant't teach that to them which is so frustrating as a parent. No 2 situations are never the same so they just don't realate like other kids. She does or says stuff that other kids her age 18yr think where did she get that from- weird -doe then it over one friends and all a lone. I try to be their for her but she doen't want me really she wants someone her age to hang with. Not going to the movies with mom but we do it because I am all she has. It just breaks my heart but I so understand how others her age find her to difficult to be around. Thank again for all the advice Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2008 Report Share Posted January 31, 2008 I would suggest that for anyone facing this issue, do not back down and do anything and everything to avoid criminal charges. In this day and age, it is far too easy to just accept a plea to make it go away, but these pleas (especially ones involving aggression) can come back to haunt them. For example, it is near impossible to obtain financial aid with many crimes on your record. By the time they get to college, it will oftentimes be too late to do anything about it. I see far too often that people don't fight. I know it is expensive but if you get someone who is a fighter you can many times make a positive step. Also, make sure that everyone knows about AS. Educate the police and the prosecutor. I am an attorney and I also worry about my 7 year old with this. He is teased relentlessly and, like anyone, will reach out against his tormentors, thereby making him the problem. It is very tough and we all need to be effective advocates for our children. N. WaltersOn Jan 30, 2008 11:06 PM, vickie <blackfoot124@...> wrote: wow I dont know what to really say.I dont understand what having her arrested was to prove they being parents of a child with similar dx. should understand the problems that all of us face (parents ,children etc...).you prolly already have but can she get people to work with her .my friend has had the problem with her son think he is the same age is pdd but hs is also hearing impaired he had aides and that press charges .i do not know where you are located at so i dont know what the rules are .they should have some kind of org that can step in and help you with the legal issues and maybe a councilor to help her with the self esteem . sounds like she now has anxiety something she didnt need.if you want i can ask my friend if i can give u her addy and you can talk to her about it.(the legal) the school she is in is it a special needs school or a mainstreamed school (public)if it is a public see if u can get her placed in a special needs school (intermediate unit ) shed stay there til 21 then graduate. my son is in one and my other will start in it also this sept, since these kids all have disorders of some kind there is no prejudices i noticed they seem to all support each other ,i am sure there are some kids who dont know the other kids cuz of the age differences usually if an " insult " is said it is cuz of them not knowing social skills and speak with out thinking.i wished she didnt have to go through this and i know it hurts to watch them go through it . i would talk to the school also about the friend issue they could set up like a buddy system for her so she has someone with her and maybe help her out in how to interact with others.the school my son attends he has like 2 social skills classes a day i think it is .he still has a lot to learn but i can see a difference in the yr & a half he has been attending .wishing you much luck with this Vickie Vickie WwW.SparkleTags.Com Re: social skills Hi, > I am new and reaching out . I have an 18year old daughter who has had ADHD forever. (must > add she is adopted-never really think about that). She also show traits of Aspergers as she > has no socialization skills at all. My heart goes out to her because she just does understand > her surroundings at school. Does not know what is appropriate to say? She just likes to talk. > She is getting to become very aggressive because she is so tired of all the negativity around > her when she is anywhere her classmates are at. She has no friends, never invited out, but > wants to be so popular but cant becuz no one wants her around. And I mean NO ONE.. She is > immature for her age about 12-14yrs old- and they just hate her but she really is a great > person. Also has no commen sense about things. Long and Short we enrolled her in a > support group- loved it- met a similiar boy with Aspergers (Worst than hers) and became > friends, WE THOUGHT GREAT!!!!!!! ! boyfriends for short time, then back friends- boyfriendish. > She got mad at him last week.-she got aggressive (has no problem solving skills) boys > parents had her arrested. >>Restraing Order ... Now really has no self-esteem. She is stupid, > I should be dead, I hate myself, Everyone hates me, I am going to jail for life,....on an on. I > am living a nightmare. We have consoulers, M.D doctors, and physcitrist that have seen her > for years. No one can get threw to her about anything. Once she decides something that is > it. Also very OCD on things. Anyone have any support on how to get threw this Arrest issue. > it has comsumed her very thought and actually has made her 100X more angry with > everyone. Sorry so long.. Thanks for listening > > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- --- > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. >Thank for reading and listening but you just have to stay on top of everything but it is just impossible. When they have " NO social skill " you just cant't teach that to them which is so frustrating as a parent. No 2 situations are never the same so they just don't realate like other kids. She does or says stuff that other kids her age 18yr think where did she get that from- weird -doe then it over one friends and all a lone. I try to be their for her but she doen't want me really she wants someone her age to hang with. Not going to the movies with mom but we do it because I am all she has. It just breaks my heart but I so understand how others her age find her to difficult to be around. Thank again for all the advice Never miss a thing. Make your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 Hi, I haven't posted for awhile. I'm seriously considering a guardianship for my 19 year old daughter with Asperger's. I live in Oceanside (San Diego County) California. TIA. ,RN lemobrn@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 I'm thinking of doing the same for my son who is 18 with Aspergers. He can't do his banking or bills without me. He's lost. Blessings...<>< Rene Coston http://homeschoolingforlove.blogspot.com "I believe in the sun even when it is not shining, in love even when I am alone and in God even when He is silent." RE: Re: social skills Hi, I haven't posted for awhile. I'm seriously considering a guardianship for my 19 year old daughter with Asperger's. I live in Oceanside (San Diego County) California. TIA. ,RN lemobrnhotmail (DOT) com Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2009 Report Share Posted February 16, 2009 My twins with apraxia are now 10. I would say that they were shy at 3 when they first entered preschool...but would they have been shy with or without apraxia is the questions?? Every child is different-- even within a family. The boys are very outgoing now, excel in every sport and have tried out for various teams and made them every time. They are no different than any other 10 year old but do have CAPD and don't particularly care for reading books and writing reports..but none of my kids do...they rather be outside with friends biking, skateboarding, scootering, football, trampoline, etc....they just aren't into homework LOL but most of the kids I know aren't. If your child is extremely anxious in school and only school I would suggest a meeting with the teacher and get a feel for her " philosophy " or goal for the kids in her class...how is the atmosphere....I have been really lucky in that the teachers that the twins have had created a classroom where no one felt that they were going to be teased or laughed at. A teacher even told me that my son would raise his hand to read these ridiculously, difficult, long passages...I have thanked those type of teachers over and over again because they have set that tone in their class...one in which everyone feels safe and encouraged. For those of you that have a Kindergartner with apraxia entering school next year, I suggest asking other parents about teachers and also visiting classes this year. Watch how the kids interact with one another in class and is instruction differentiated for kids with disabilities ----even better, can you even tell if anyone is being singled out. For those of you that know me, I could ramble forever about Kindergarten but really just wanted to jump in on the " social skills " of an apraxic child....simply put----they can and do fit in..and if you do come across an obstacle, there are many ways around it...just ask an " oldie " ...we have plenty of tricks up our sleeves... KATHY ....and a great big THANK YOU to all that have been shopping at my site open 24/7..it is SO appreciated!!! I'd like to share that you all could have your own site, too and shop online, get a percentage back paid directly to you and only you! I know that times are tough now so I bargain shop within my site at the hundreds of stores and even use the coupons that I have to save more money and free shipping. I also am trying to become more earth friendly and teach my children that so there are also many, many stores that are " green " . I am saving money, time, gas, all from my little old laptop and getting a check at the end of the month to help cover the bills!! ...THANKS AGAIN!!! http://www.shoptobeheard.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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