Re: Apraxia question from India (Now ,why or why not sue)

[Guest guest]

We lost everything and that was not my son's fault, but actually a corrupt

governmental system's fault...that began with someone failing to give life

saving measures.

To spare all the sad details, which you can read in a book anyway, we went from

living in a $300,000 home and my husband bringing home $1500. every week to

being homeless, separated, and struggling to get any services for my son at all.

We now have a home, food, insurance, necessities, and a meager income. In the

end,my children and my family were all that mattered. Onc you take everything

away, you see what is left and that is what truly matters. My son learning

language (of any sort) is a major need for him and while not having services

limits what " I " can do for him, we really work hard on just being " normal " . Lack

of communication has been really hard, but staying " alive and well " has been

even harder.---At one point, we were dying from mold exposure/lung disease,

car-less, and penniless. Now, we are basically well individuals, with car, with

home, and with more than what we truly need to survive. For just that, we are so

grateful.

In , " kiddietalk " <kiddietalk@...> wrote:

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> My brother is a partner in a maritime law firm, I was surrounded by attorneys

including a friend of my husband's who typically worked representing the

hospitals in cases like mine that wanted me to sue. Please don't read the rest

if you have a weak stomach.

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> I had a very solid case too as there were two attempts at high forceps which

is what crushed Dakota's face, three attempts at vacuum, and one attempt to

manually turn him as he was stuck crowning for 50 minutes. I was starting to

have issues too and don't recall everything but apparently there was another

doctor who was just about to push him back up to do an emergency C section when

(picture someone leaning back like they are pulling at a door that won't open

-they pulled Dakota out. That' the short version of the nightmare. Thing is

the doctor that delivered Dakota was just out of medical school (I was probably

her worst nightmare) and she was one of the nicest people I met at that

hospital. I know that she didn't mean to be incompetent -she just was new. My

doctor was on vacation and I had up to a certain point a normal healthy

pregnancy...and it's a long story but in it toward the end this doctor that

actually did what she did was the light to me at the time. I mean a year or so

later there was an episode of ER which mimicked my delivery so closely many of

us couldn't watch it without tears. In that episode however the mother died and

of course I didn't die -but I know that both Dakota and I came close. I do

believe I know what it feels like to be given that choice -and I do now believe

that it's beautiful to die -but I believe (and maybe because I was delirious and

passed out at the time) that I chose to stay...because I knew that Dakota

needed me. And about suing. I know this sounds weird but I didn't want to

focus on the negative energy of a lawsuit. I didn't want to focus on what was

wrong with Dakota. I wanted to focus and visualize Dakota as healing and better

-and that there to be no reason to sue. I had ten years to sue anyway...and all

I prayed for every day is that Dakota would be OK. Every single day -not

kidding. So yes in the early days I could have sued...but we all make choices

every day -and you know what- I'm just happy that my happy ending is that there

is no reason to sue anymore!

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> Is that why we now live near the happiest place on Earth? Probably!!!

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