Guest guest Posted June 12, 2008 Report Share Posted June 12, 2008 My 9 yr old son was a truck-obsessed 3yr old. Backhoes, Earth movers, dump trucks, cement trucks....anything in that category made his world change if he saw one on the road. So we had every one for the sand box at home. I also found that driving around with a 3yr old and pointing them out as they drove by, that if he didn't see it in time- he got VERY upset! So, I stopped pointing out every backhoe we passed on the road. If he didn't see it- I never talked about it. Than I could say WOW when he saw it himself. Don't go sign him up for Gymboree based on his reaction that night- they forget fast. But if he doesn't ask about it- he probably won't worry about it either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2008 Report Share Posted June 12, 2008 You are not mean just doing what a parent does....what is in his best interest( therapy) In , " M " <mosense@...> wrote: > > My 9 yr old son was a truck-obsessed 3yr old. Backhoes, Earth movers, > dump trucks, cement trucks....anything in that category made his world > change if he saw one on the road. So we had every one for the sand box > at home. I also found that driving around with a 3yr old and pointing > them out as they drove by, that if he didn't see it in time- he got > VERY upset! So, I stopped pointing out every backhoe we passed on the > road. If he didn't see it- I never talked about it. Than I could say > WOW when he saw it himself. > > Don't go sign him up for Gymboree based on his reaction that night- > they forget fast. But if he doesn't ask about it- he probably won't > worry about it either. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2008 Report Share Posted June 12, 2008 I remember stuff like this with my daughter. It is an age thing. They cling to what they know and like and their world is small at that age. I would not sweat this and I would not dig deeper into debt over it. This too shall pass. Hang in there! > > This could be OT, depending on how you look at it. But, last night... > my little family and I went out for Gelato. The shop is in the same > shopping center as 's old Gymboree class. He went from the time he > was six months until he was 3. We stopped because I couldn't afford to > pay for Gymboree and therapy (we started with a private OT and and > private SLP just after his 3rd birthday). So, all was going well ... > ate and enjoyed his Gelato. Then, as we were leaving, I > said... " , do you remember going to Gymboree here? " So, he started > trying to go upstairs to the old class thinking that we were actually > going to Gymboree. Then, I had to explain that we were going... so, he > cried and said I was mean all the way home.. .and for several minutes > after we got home. I felt so bad... I considered for a few minutes > resigning him back up for class. I had to stop myself because I'm in > debt as it is. But, he was so sad that it broke my heart. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2008 Report Share Posted June 12, 2008 I agree with this. It is easy to feel guilt with a little one over things that they 'want'. But, believe me, this is pretty normal. All kids want what they cannot have..... even my NT teenager! I try to teach the difference between 'want' and 'need' or else I would go broke giving in to everything on my kids wish-list. When they are little and are processing at lower levels, they tantrum. When they are 6-7 (or so), they whine. At first I was a sucker to this. After a while, if my kids 'whined' for anything.... they NEVER got it. So ended that nasty phase. As they get older, they learned to 'bargain' and compromise. This is much easier on my nervous system.... Life is one big compromise so the younger you begin learning it.... the better. This problem is never-ending and pretty normal in scope. Janice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2008 Report Share Posted June 13, 2008 This is the message I was trying to convey. Liz said it very well. Thanks Liz. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2008 Report Share Posted June 13, 2008 Thanks ladies. I knew y'all would understand. I felt totally guilty. Don't worry. I'm not going to sign him up again. Maybe later on.. he will not need as much therapy... or God willing... any at all. Then, I can afford some extra activities. > > I agree with this. > > It is easy to feel guilt with a little one over things that they 'want'. But, believe me, this is pretty normal. All kids want what they cannot have..... even my NT teenager! I try to teach the difference between 'want' and 'need' or else I would go broke giving in to everything on my kids wish-list. > > When they are little and are processing at lower levels, they tantrum. When they are 6-7 (or so), they whine. At first I was a sucker to this. After a while, if my kids 'whined' for anything.... they NEVER got it. So ended that nasty phase. As they get older, they learned to 'bargain' and compromise. This is much easier on my nervous system.... > > Life is one big compromise so the younger you begin learning it.... the better. > > This problem is never-ending and pretty normal in scope. > > Janice > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2008 Report Share Posted June 13, 2008 I wouldn't say that you're mean at all-- you're just a parent trying to do what's best. Being a homeschooling parent to a special needs child who has a TON of therapy needs, what I do is slightly different though, I must admit. Asa needs PT quite a bit (he has Global Apraxia/Dyspraxia) so we do the PT 2x in the " office " setting, but he still benefits greatly from more. We were able to find a VERY AFFORDABLE Gymnastics program ($75 per 8wk session-- you CANNOT get better than that!!!!) and we use that as an added PT session for him. See if there's anything that a local Gymnastics place would offer that wouldn't cost much-- (aka LESS than you'd ever pay at Gymboree) because sometimes they will give a great deal to a group of people willing to come in the middle of the day (aka homeschoolers) since they don't get business in at that time ANYway, anything they charge helps them pay the bills! becky In a message dated 6/13/2008 3:48:24 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, kacraine@... writes: Thanks ladies. I knew y'all would understand. I felt totally guilty. Don't worry. I'm not going to sign him up again. Maybe later on.. he will not need as much therapy... or God willing... any at all. Then, I can afford some extra activities. > > I agree with this. > > It is easy to feel guilt with a little one over things that they 'want'. But, believe me, this is pretty normal. All kids want what they cannot have..... even my NT teenager! I try to teach the difference between 'want' and 'need' or else I would go broke giving in to everything on my kids wish-list. > > When they are little and are processing at lower levels, they tantrum. When they are 6-7 (or so), they whine. At first I was a sucker to this. After a while, if my kids 'whined' for anything.... they NEVER got it. So ended that nasty phase. As they get older, they learned to 'bargain' and compromise. This is much easier on my nervous system.... > > Life is one big compromise so the younger you begin learning it.... the better. > > This problem is never-ending and pretty normal in scope. > > Janice > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > **************Vote for your city's best dining and nightlife. City's Best 2008. (http://citysbest.aol.com?ncid=aolacg00050000000102) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2008 Report Share Posted June 14, 2008 Hi ! Just a thought...you may want to contact the Gymboree location and explain your situation. Offer to stuff envelopes for them for mailers or something in exchange for a few classes. The way things are it appears more and more places are open to bartering. They may offer to provide some classes for free or for a discount either way. Worst they can say is no. As far as feeling guilty -due to the rising price of gas I bet therapy isn't the only reason some parents have stopped taking their children to activities as often. I spoke with 2 mothers so far who are those die hard fanatic travel soccer moms who are not letting their kids get on those teams this year due to the travel. Hey I just searched and the moms I spoke to aren't the only ones! " The Kenerson's say if these gas prices keep going up, they told their kids they might not be able to play travel soccer next year. " http://www.wivb.com/Global/story.asp?S=8345270 " Although people may be making small changes, more significant ones — such as parking the car for the weekend — may be too difficult or inconvenient to make, even at record gas prices. Many motorists have few options when work is a half-hour away or school is in New Britain and home is in Meriden. Life changes can be difficult decisions: Should the children be told they can't play on the travel soccer team, or should a decision be made to quit a favorite hobby that requires a drive five towns away? " http://www.courant.com/business/hc-gasprices0425.artapr25,0,2166295.story?track=\ rss ===== Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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