Re: apraxia computer addition

[Guest guest]

This is GREAT NEWS, ! I am so happy to hear this

My husband is on board-- but he seems to fight me every step of the way

with the little stuff and it's almost killing me LOL

bek

In a message dated 11/22/2008 9:19:55 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

shyautumnbear@... writes:

just printed out the response that I got from Janice and my husband just

laughed because he could relate to EVERYTHING that she wrote. I think he is

starting to get it. I hadn't told him that I charged the DAN doctor visit on

our credit card and it " UMMM " came out in the conversation. So I said, " You

always say " No " - that is your favorite word. So what was I supposed to do?

-Not get the help that he needs. " We had a great conversation and he

finally said, " Get the help he needs " . He is onboard!!! -Miracles happen on

this

site - not just computer addiction!

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[Guest guest]

I always laugh when I tell people that my brother called this site my

personal vortex.

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[Guest guest]

,

I think you are right! Addiction to this site is strong. Every day there is

something new to learn from parents, articles, you name it! Your post is one I

read out loud to my husband. He laughed, knowing how long I stay glued to my

computer reading stuff. Thanks for the humor!

Joy

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From: Vander Vere <loveisfosteringhere@...>

Sent: Saturday, November 22, 2008 5:03:18 PM

Subject: [ ] apraxia computer addition

I think should put a disclaimer to this site:  DANGER: You may become

addicted - not only to this site, but to all of its links and to other research

that you will do after you get info. from this site!!  LOL

I just printed out the response that I got from Janice and my husband just

laughed because he could relate to EVERYTHING that she wrote.  I think he

is starting to get it.  I hadn't told him that I charged the DAN doctor visit on

our credit card and it " UMMM " came out in the conversation.  So I said,   " You

always say " No " - that is your favorite word.  So what was I supposed to do? 

-Not get the help that he needs. "   We had a great conversation and he finally

said, " Get the help he needs " .  He is onboard!!!  -Miracles happen on this site

- not just computer addiction!

 

Blessings to You,

 

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Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you:  not as the world giveth give

I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 

14:27

 

[Guest guest]

Is this a new fad? Getting husbands on board? If so, PLEASE tell me how you do

it!

Joy

________________________________

From: " tbniesh@... " <tbniesh@...>

Sent: Saturday, November 22, 2008 8:28:22 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] apraxia computer addition

This is GREAT NEWS, ! I am so happy to hear this

My husband is on board-- but he seems to fight me every step of the way

with the little stuff and it's almost killing me LOL

bek

In a message dated 11/22/2008 9:19:55 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

shyautumnbear writes:

just printed out the response that I got from Janice and my husband just

laughed because he could relate to EVERYTHING that she wrote. I think he is

starting to get it. I hadn't told him that I charged the DAN doctor visit on

our credit card and it " UMMM " came out in the conversation. So I said, " You

always say " No " - that is your favorite word. So what was I supposed to do?

-Not get the help that he needs. " We had a great conversation and he

finally said, " Get the help he needs " . He is onboard!!! -Miracles happen on this

site - not just computer addiction!

************ **One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks,

and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com

today!(http://pr.atwola. com/promoclk/ 100000075x121296 2939x1200825291/

aol?redir= http://www. aol.com/? optin=new- dp

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[Guest guest]

I have declared victory on this front a few times but there is often

a backslide. Best wishes!

>

> Is this a new fad? Getting husbands on board? If so, PLEASE tell me

how you do it!

> Joy

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: " tbniesh@... " <tbniesh@...>

>

> Sent: Saturday, November 22, 2008 8:28:22 PM

> Subject: Re: [ ] apraxia computer addition

>

>

> This is GREAT NEWS, ! I am so happy to hear this

>

> My husband is on board-- but he seems to fight me every step of the

way

> with the little stuff and it's almost killing me LOL

>

> bek

>

>

> In a message dated 11/22/2008 9:19:55 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> shyautumnbear writes:

>

> just printed out the response that I got from Janice and my husband

just

> laughed because he could relate to EVERYTHING that she wrote. I

think he is

> starting to get it. I hadn't told him that I charged the DAN doctor

visit on

> our credit card and it " UMMM " came out in the conversation. So I

said, " You

> always say " No " - that is your favorite word. So what was I

supposed to do?

> -Not get the help that he needs. " We had a great conversation and

he

> finally said, " Get the help he needs " . He is onboard!!! -Miracles

happen on this

> site - not just computer addiction!

>

> ************ **One site has it all. Your email accounts, your

social networks,

> and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com

> today!(http://pr.atwola. com/promoclk/ 100000075x121296

2939x1200825291/ aol?redir= http://www. aol.com/? optin=new- dp

> %26icid=aolcom40van ity%26ncid= emlcntaolcom0000 0001)

>

>

[Guest guest]

We have that here. My husband willingly accepted a big cost change

recently with no issue. Then he sneaks plastic into the dishwasher as

an act of defiance. Later he yells at me for using the plastic. I

think men have trouble with the lack of control issues that come up

when you have special needs kids. ly, it is more honest living

if you ask me.

>

> This is GREAT NEWS, ! I am so happy to hear this

>

> My husband is on board-- but he seems to fight me every step of

the way

> with the little stuff and it's almost killing me LOL

>

> bek

>

>

> In a message dated 11/22/2008 9:19:55 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> shyautumnbear@... writes:

>

> just printed out the response that I got from Janice and my

husband just

> laughed because he could relate to EVERYTHING that she wrote. I

think he is

> starting to get it. I hadn't told him that I charged the DAN

doctor visit on

> our credit card and it " UMMM " came out in the conversation. So I

said, " You

> always say " No " - that is your favorite word. So what was I

supposed to do?

> -Not get the help that he needs. " We had a great conversation and

he

> finally said, " Get the help he needs " . He is onboard!!! -

Miracles happen on this

> site - not just computer addiction!

>

>

>

> **************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social

networks,

> and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com

> today!

(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?

redir=http://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp

> %26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

LOL well, when I say my husband is " on board " that basically means that

we're on the same page with the care of our sons and their therapies-- and that

means *ME* doing all the work and running around''

that's about as on board as I can get him these days

bek

In a message dated 11/23/2008 9:21:05 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

shyautumnbear@... writes:

Is this a new fad? Getting husbands on board? If so, PLEASE tell me how you

do it!

Joy

**************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks,

and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com

today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\

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[Guest guest]

THIS IS THE SAME THING, Liz!!!! Seriously--I am laughing at him half the

time these days and I don't mean to.

He is " on board " in regards to the boy's treatments-- which means ME doing

the work and running around (like I mentioned in the other email) but he

literally fights me on all the little things in every other area.

for instance-- with Aiden (9 1/2) I think I've mentioned we're having some

pretty serious issues with him and rages/anger and sensory issues, etc. We're

in the process of diagnosing him, but I know that he's either ADHD or

Aspergers. The Neuro Chiro said ADHD (both types), but the more I listen to

other

parents with kids with ADHD, I don't see the sensory issues like Aiden has--

so this makes me lean a LOT towards Aspbergers

Anyway-- we are starting a new behavioral modification type system with the

kids-- and keep in mind that we have EIGHT kids, and most of these programs

deal with 1-4 kids at most. It's HARD implementing something for 8 (well 7

since the oldest is exempt from this)

So here we are the other day thinking about what things to highlight and

work on, and he needs this written out list that has EVERY SINGLE DETAIL on it

(just like my ADHD son) and then he makes this comment to me " Well, if you

put THAT on the list, then *I* get to say that *I* " can change and add a rule at

any time I want without asking you "

I just looked at him and shook my head and got annoyed and had to outright

ask him if he feels emasculated by my doing all the disciplining and running

the household when he's not around. I mean-- seriously-- that's how he's

acting. As though I have a CHOICE???? I'd rather he take the heavy hand, and

I'd

rather HE do the work, but he's not home-- so how can that be possible? but

he actually wanted me to agree to HIS being able to implement a new rule

change when I am the one that's home having to work at implementing and

following through

I felt badly for pointing out the fact that he's obviously needing to be the

one " in control " all the time-- but seriously-- how can he " be in control "

of things here at home when he's NOT HOME???

arrgh

Bek

In a message dated 11/23/2008 2:50:24 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

lizlaw@... writes:

have that here. My husband willingly accepted a big cost change

recently with no issue. Then he sneaks plastic into the dishwasher as

an act of defiance. Later he yells at me for using the plastic. I

think men have trouble with the lack of control issues that come up

when you have special needs kids. ly, it is more honest living

if you ask me.

**************One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks,

and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com

today!(http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1212962939x1200825291/aol?redir=h\

ttp://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp

%26icid=aolcom40vanity%26ncid=emlcntaolcom00000001)

[Guest guest]

We have a love/ hate relationship with this site in my house. We both

love the info and the experiences. My husband hates " I don't care if

it's late, I NEED this research to make an informed decision " that he

hears from me at least once a week. Honestly, I think I would've lost

hope early on if it wasn't for you wonderful posters! I've learned so

much from other's experiences here, and I'm grateful for your answers.

[Guest guest]

These posts are too funny.  They remind of the famous line " He may be the head

of this family, but I am the neck that turns the head "  in the movie My Big Fat

Greek Wedding. 

 

Blessings to You,

 

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Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you:  not as the world giveth give

I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 

14:27

 

________________________________

From: " tbniesh@... " <tbniesh@...>

Sent: Monday, November 24, 2008 8:51:56 AM

Subject: Re: [ ] Re: apraxia computer addition

THIS IS THE SAME THING, Liz!!!! Seriously--I am laughing at him half the

time these days and I don't mean to.

He is " on board " in regards to the boy's treatments-- which means ME doing

the work and running around (like I mentioned in the other email) but he

literally fights me on all the little things in every other area.

for instance-- with Aiden (9 1/2) I think I've mentioned we're having some

pretty serious issues with him and rages/anger and sensory issues, etc. We're

in the process of diagnosing him, but I know that he's either ADHD or

Aspergers. The Neuro Chiro said ADHD (both types), but the more I listen to

other

parents with kids with ADHD, I don't see the sensory issues like Aiden has--

so this makes me lean a LOT towards Aspbergers

Anyway-- we are starting a new behavioral modification type system with the

kids-- and keep in mind that we have EIGHT kids, and most of these programs

deal with 1-4 kids at most. It's HARD implementing something for 8 (well 7

since the oldest is exempt from this)

So here we are the other day thinking about what things to highlight and

work on, and he needs this written out list that has EVERY SINGLE DETAIL on it

(just like my ADHD son) and then he makes this comment to me " Well, if you

put THAT on the list, then *I* get to say that *I* " can change and add a rule at

any time I want without asking you "

I just looked at him and shook my head and got annoyed and had to outright

ask him if he feels emasculated by my doing all the disciplining and running

the household when he's not around. I mean-- seriously-- that's how he's

acting. As though I have a CHOICE???? I'd rather he take the heavy hand, and I'd

rather HE do the work, but he's not home-- so how can that be possible? but

he actually wanted me to agree to HIS being able to implement a new rule

change when I am the one that's home having to work at implementing and

following through

I felt badly for pointing out the fact that he's obviously needing to be the

one " in control " all the time-- but seriously-- how can he " be in control "

of things here at home when he's NOT HOME???

arrgh

Bek

In a message dated 11/23/2008 2:50:24 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

lizlawoptonline (DOT) net writes:

have that here. My husband willingly accepted a big cost change

recently with no issue. Then he sneaks plastic into the dishwasher as

an act of defiance. Later he yells at me for using the plastic. I

think men have trouble with the lack of control issues that come up

when you have special needs kids. ly, it is more honest living

if you ask me.

************ **One site has it all. Your email accounts, your social networks,

and the things you love. Try the new AOL.com

today!(http://pr.atwola. com/promoclk/ 100000075x121296 2939x1200825291/

aol?redir= http://www. aol.com/? optin=new- dp

%26icid=aolcom40van ity%26ncid= emlcntaolcom0000 0001)