frustrated

[Guest guest]

I have a girl who will be 4 on sunday, she only speakes when she

wants to. I just changed her speach therapy to another clinic and it

seems to be going good,yesterday she was not talking to the new

therapist until she was told no playing until you talk. She shut down

for about 10 minutes, then decided to talk, she named pictures for

the lady. It was a fight to get her to talk. When she was leaving

seen the gym and told the therapist I want to play there. She

spoke very clearly, the therapist thinks she is just stubborn and

will talk when she wants. Later in the day had to go to the

development ped. She jumped a little when he put the cold stethascope

on her back, she also giggled when he listened to her chest. She is

very tickelish. He told me these were sensory issues. He also asked

if she looked both ways before crossing the street, I said not

always. He said this showed she was not aware of danger. He also

asked if she put her toys away when asked, I of course said not

always. He said this showed she doesen't follow instructions. He

asked if she was scared of people of different colors or races. I

sais no she loves all people and always says hi to everyone, and she

sometimes wants to hug other kids she does not know. he said that was

a very bad sign and he is sure she is autistic. He wants her to see a

psyc. doctor for further tests. Is being tickelish and friendly

autism if so I hope she stays that way. I don't her to be afraid of

people just because they look different. I told the doctor this and

he said I was in denial and he hopes I bring her in as soon as

possible. Should I????

[Guest guest]

Joan when you say your daughter speaks when she wants to -is there

one situation she will always talk in? From what you wrote here it

would be hard for anyone to know the reason your child doesn't always

speak -is she shy? Has anyone mentioned selective mutism? Selective

mutism isn't a speech impairment (and you say your daughter can speak

clearly when she wants) Selective mutism is a psychological one and

there is help for that if that's what it is.

http://www.selectivemutismfoundation.org/sound.shtml

http://www.asha.org/about/publications/leader-online/archives/2002/q3/020924ftr.\

htm

As far as the developmental pediatrician you saw -huh? You need to

take your child to a knowledgeable neurodevelopmental medical doctor

and if I were you and it was really that bad I'd report the one you

just saw. What did you say/do when this doctor said what he did?!

Laugh? For SURE don't go back to him! Run don't walk away!!

The questions for real don't even make sense. I mean why would a

doctor ask if a 4YO is " scared of people of different colors or races "

Trick question anyway if he came up with a diagnosis for however you

answered. If you said " no " as you did she's autistic and I guess if

you said " yes " she's a paranoid racist?

Why would he say he's " sure " she's autistic?

A good pediatric neurologist or developmental pediatrician could have

addressed your daughter's selective mutism (if that's what it is) as

well.

http://www.emedicine.com/PED/topic2660.htm

What state/country are you in others can provide recommendations.

(for a good pediatric neurologist or developmental pediatrician)

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