RE: Re: Oh dear, the birthday party issue!

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On Mon, Jun 28, 2010 at 10:26 PM, kiddietalk <kiddietalk@...> wrote:

>

>

> I'd look at it this way. If the little girl was trying to keep your

> daughter out of the party for any reason other than the reasons stated; your

> daughter 'doesn't' know her friends from school and speech impaired or not

> -your daughter doesn't speak French -your neighbor could have kept the whole

> thing from you. She didn't hide it -she told you because it made sense to

> her and probably her parents. Most kids that age wouldn't do something like

> this without parental input of some sort.

>

> I mean makes sense to me why she would at least think your daughter would

> be uncomfortable in that type of party setting- she sounds like a good

> friend to me. Even if the little girl's friends spoke English but all of

> them knew each other from class it would still be slightly awkward as they

> all would have common things to talk about -but put that together with they

> don't speak English? I mean if one of my friends who spoke only German

> (which I don't speak) was having a birthday party with friends who only

> spoke German and no English and invited me -I'd feel more awkward trying to

> get out of why I didn't want to go!!

>

> I know quite a few kids who have more than one party for their birthday.

> One for family and close friends. One for classmates which may or may not

> involve any " close friends " But perhaps her family either doesn't want to do

> more than one party or doesn't have the money.

>

> What you can do is say " why don't we do something special for you for your

> birthday with just the two of you girls? " and invite this neighbor to

> celebrate her birthday with your daughter by...take them to the movies or

> some other show, for a manicure, to a water park etc.

>

> I'm sure both girls will have a blast!

>

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>

[Guest guest]

I agree with . I'm from Brazil and I know a lot of Brazilians around here

and we have many friends in common that are Americans but when we want to hang

out with my Brazilian friends, cook Brazilian food,speak Portuguese I don't

invite friends/family that don't speak Portuguese...not because I don't want to

hang out with them, but it's always strange...we try to speak English, but

generally when the majority of the people are from Brazil, Portuguese seam to be

the dominant language.I've done it in the past and I felt like a terrible host.

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From: kiddietalk@...

Date: Mon, 28 Jun 2010 20:26:45 +0000

Subject: [ ] Re: Oh dear, the birthday party issue!

I'd look at it this way. If the little girl was trying to keep your

daughter out of the party for any reason other than the reasons stated; your

daughter 'doesn't' know her friends from school and speech impaired or not -your

daughter doesn't speak French -your neighbor could have kept the whole thing

from you. She didn't hide it -she told you because it made sense to her and

probably her parents. Most kids that age wouldn't do something like this

without parental input of some sort.

I mean makes sense to me why she would at least think your daughter would be

uncomfortable in that type of party setting- she sounds like a good friend to

me. Even if the little girl's friends spoke English but all of them knew each

other from class it would still be slightly awkward as they all would have

common things to talk about -but put that together with they don't speak

English? I mean if one of my friends who spoke only German (which I don't

speak) was having a birthday party with friends who only spoke German and no

English and invited me -I'd feel more awkward trying to get out of why I didn't

want to go!!

I know quite a few kids who have more than one party for their birthday. One

for family and close friends. One for classmates which may or may not involve

any " close friends " But perhaps her family either doesn't want to do more than

one party or doesn't have the money.

What you can do is say " why don't we do something special for you for your

birthday with just the two of you girls? " and invite this neighbor to celebrate

her birthday with your daughter by...take them to the movies or some other show,

for a manicure, to a water park etc.

I'm sure both girls will have a blast!

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