Guest guest Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 I know for my daughter who is 9 we have had to just lay it out plain and clear. She does not usually pick up on social cues, and often her reactions are inappropriate, but if she is told an appropriate response and practices it she is happy to do it. For example, she once pinched a girl in the bathroom and the girl started crying. When asked why she pinched her she told us she wanted to be her friend and didn't know what to say to her so she pinched her...obviously not the way to make a friend but it made sense to her. So we practiced her saying " hi " and waving to people as she passed them in the hallway. That worked much better. She also hugs people...we simply told her she is only to hug us. She has worked up to asking someone if they want a hug before giving one and showing her a hug is a quick squeeze then release, not a hug squeeze tackle sort of thing. She is smart, and can understand what to do once told, she just can't figure it out on her own. Barbara [ ] Affectionate My son will be 6 on October 29th and he very affectionate with other people by this I mean he like kissing everyone. Yesterday, he kiss another kindergarten and he hit him. How can I teach him to only be affectionate with Family only? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 My 8dd is the exact same way! She was hugging everyone in prek--with mostly women in her preschool--that was ok.With very few words and signing as her form of communication-hugging was her way of saying Hi. But when she got to K--they said the touching and hugging had to stop. no one wanted her hugging the men in the school and the other kids were uncomfortable with her lack of knowing personal space boundaries. Her teachers and aides also taught her to wave to everyone in the hallway that she wanted to hug and that she could only hug at home. She is very smart and loveable and like the other mom said-only needed a little direction to change her habits. good luck. > > I know for my daughter who is 9 we have had to just lay it out plain and clear. She does not usually pick up on social cues, and often her reactions are inappropriate, but if she is told an appropriate response and practices it she is happy to do it. So we practiced her saying " hi " and waving to people as she passed them in the hallway. That worked much better. She also hugs people...we simply told her she is only to hug us. She has worked up to asking someone if they want a hug before giving one and showing her a hug is a quick squeeze then release, not a hug squeeze tackle sort of thing. > > She is smart, and can understand what to do once told, she just can't figure it out on her own. > > Barbara > [ ] Affectionate > > > My son will be 6 on October 29th and he very affectionate with other people by this I mean he like kissing everyone. Yesterday, he kiss another kindergarten and he hit him. How can I teach him to only be affectionate with Family only? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 If it's kissing it's probably just affection and social, but look at sensory stuff for the chronic hugger, particularly the child who gives everyone huge bear hugs that people find uncomfortable. I've known many friends with sensory seeking kids who sought out that kind of firm physical contact with peers in preschool and K. Weighted vests, deep pressure therapy, etc helped bring those kids around to hugging with appropriate force and also less frequently and everyone was more comfortable. Miche On Tue, Oct 27, 2009 at 8:20 PM, trayc25@... <trayc25@...> wrote: > > > My son will be 6 on October 29th and he very affectionate with other people > by this I mean he like kissing everyone. Yesterday, he kiss another > kindergarten and he hit him. How can I teach him to only be affectionate > with Family only? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 Thanks everyone for posting: My son is very affectionate. He will grab my face and kiss me all over. Then again that what I do to him. The problem is he doesn't get that its not appropriate to kiss everyone. I prefer he didn't kiss anyone at school. His teacher been trying to teach all the kids that kissing is for Mommy and Daddy and Grandma and so on. I just don't want him to get beat up for being affectionate. I talk to my son Speech therapist and she is going to make him a social story.� In the meantime, I will use the circle of closeness to try to explain it to him and if I see him about to kiss someone I will try to stop it. My son loves interacting with other children to me that's his high being able to run around and play with them. I would hate for them to ostracize him since the kids feel a void in his life. On the other hand, I don't want him to catch anything from someone being sick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2009 Report Share Posted October 30, 2009 Through the help of my son's ABA therapist a PICTURE social story book was created for him with specific sentences on each page. This was a result of a young girl in kindergarten reg. ed who was going aroun kissing boys on the mouth. She unfortunately decided to step it up a notch by tongue kissing!!! Of course the school's idea of helping my son who has a professional diagnosis of autism/speech impaired and trouble with social pragmatic language was to do nothing at al.. In the picture social story book, the therapist told us to give her pictures of my son kissing mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, family, etc. And then a class picture of his classmates indicating it was not okay to be kissed by anyone in your class, and to speak up and tell the teacher Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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