Re: How do you deal with temp tantrums??? book and bcba

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our behavioralist recommended using this formula:

first ____________, then  _____________.

ex. first finish your homework, then ride your bikeex. first eat your

vegetables, then you get dessert   etc.

most behavioral issues are an attempt to communicate.  so we say to maddy, first

finish your dinner, then you can have music.   I am actually saying yes to her,

but conditionally.  This way if she chooses not to finish her dinner, she

actually said no to herself. 

Then I started adding, next time you can make a different choice.  or I'm sorry

you chose not to finish your dinner or whatever you want the child to do, if

they don't get what they want.

overcoming autism is an excellent book.  She does not have autism but it deals

with very specific issues for kids that have limited communication.   I would

suggest buying it.  It has changed the way I parent and could have saved us

thousands of dollars of behavior intervention.

Best of luck.  There are resources out there --  anyone with a bcba can and

should be able to help you.   board certified behavioral analysts.

sl  

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From: stehn4@... <stehn4@...>

Subject: Re: [ ] How do you deal with temp tantrums???

Date: Monday, August 10, 2009, 6:44 PM

 

I had business cards made up that explains that my son may run

away, act

inappropriate, not respond or respond inappropriately and I can hand the card

to a stranger if I need to because I do not have time to explain to the

other people at the mall or whatever and I have asked strangers for help

also. I leave as soon as a tantrum starts coming on. Charlotte Henry

In a message dated 8/10/2009 2:22:34 P.M. Central Daylight Time,

ctarpey20 (DOT) com writes:

My 2 1/2 year old son has apraxia and just started throwing BIG time fits

too. Up until this point he really did not seem that frustrated for his lack

of specking although he just started this summer to really start specking

a little. He has lots and lots of words he can repeat but only has about 20

he uses all the time. It is so embrassing because people look at you like

your child is a first class brat. I do not feel like explaining to every

stranger, " look my son has a problem, it is not my fault, I am a good mother,

I really am " . I almost feel with the more words he has now, the more

frustrated he has become that he can not truly express himself. I feel so sorry

for him but I know that doesn't help either. I have tried to be firmer but

that doesn't seem to help either. I too am at a lose, and the more words he

gets the less outside people understand him, that too I am sure is so

frustrating. These children are not dumb, they know they can not talk

like there peers, I can only imagine how hard it is for them. My heart

breaks everyday.

I will be happy to see if others have suggestions that we can do to help

our frustrated children

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Sent: Sunday, August 9, 2009 10:35:10 PM

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We have officially become the parents people give " The LOOk " because their

child is screaming, throwing and out of control.

Our daughter is 3 1/2 diag.. with apraxia. She speaks about 60 words now

that are understood mostly by us. She gets very frustrated if she is asked

to repeat something.

We have resorted to almost isolation because it has become so difficult to

deal with her in public.

Today we went to church hoping for the best. As soon as we got into the

preschool room, she became frustrated over blocks and began throwing them

everywhere (nearly hitting the other children).

We truly are at a loss on HOW to discipline her. I tried ignoring the

tantrum until she " uses her words " , time out (which I really don't think she

understands) . Neither of these seem to work. Does anybody know of any

books, support groups, seminars, ANYTHING that might help! Any advice would be

greatly appreciated.

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