Bad Mommy? What to do?!!!

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I wrote here awhile ago how I don't know what to do with my now 14 year old son

Tanner who has SO dramatically surged on NV that I'm living with a different

child. I go into his room late at night and his light is on and he is reading

and I feel bad saying " time to turn the light off and go to bed " and he's

pleading " Let me just finish this chapter " and I'm thinking " am I actually

asking my son to stop reading?!! "

Here's the bad mommy part. Yesterday Tanner walks up to me with a very well

thought out proposal. He says " Mommy can you take me back to and Noble

today? I want to buy another book " Now this is a child that I know first of

all I should be taking to the library more than and Noble as he's going

through books so quickly -but right now I'm still in a bit of shock and of

course willing to spend money on books -are you kidding?!!

So I said " Sure why what book do you want to buy now? " And Tanner said " Well

there is a bit of a problem about the book and that is why I wanted to talk to

you about it " So I asked what the problem was...and Tanner said " It's a book

about vampires and you know how I have an interest in reading books about

vampires but the dilemma is that there is a movie to this book and it's rated R

and I'm not sure if the book is rated R as well. But I really want to read this

book mom. "

The book is called Let Me In- just came out in paperback....I bought it

yesterday and it's around 500 pages and since after school yesterday he's read

1/4 to 1/2 of the book already. I decided to send this message out here because

before I had children I decided I would never let my children use video games as

they are too addictive- and for sure NEVER any violent ones. Then I became a

parent of speech impaired children and learned that not only do video games help

with motor planning and hand eye coordination and socialization because it's how

boys play together today as well...but the Live versions I also thought " never! "

for security reasons has taught my son Tanner so much confidence in talking to

strangers- talking on the phone is never an issue for him (and this was even

prior to NV)

So...not sure how many of you have older children that would even be interested

in Let Me In...and out of those of you with older children how many have their

children on NV where they all of a sudden over the past few months just continue

to surge beyond belief in academics in addition to all else.

The good news is that Tanner likes all kinds of books- not just books about

vampires -but would love to hear from others on this subject. I was an avid

reader throughout childhood and I know for a fact I read books meant for adult

readers when I was in the library- in fact those books interested me more! But

unlike Tanner I didn't ask my mom to buy the book for me -I was at the library-

so Tanner's leaving this up to me to decide but if he was at the library he

could just get the book and sit down and read as I used to.

As far as my reaction? I'm so mixed on this. It's to me kind of like when your

apraxic child first says " shut up " and instead of scolding them you are thrilled

they said a two word sentence and your parenting goes out the window...or is it

bad?!! See I'm not sure!

Here's what the book is about -2 children who become friends...one is a vampire

http://www.amazon.com/Let-Me--Ajvide-Lindqvist/dp/0312656491/ref=sr_1_1?s=bo\

oks & ie=UTF8 & qid=1285176782 & sr=1-1

OK see while I question whether letting Tanner read the book is OK...two parents

let their children that look younger than Tanner star in the movie of the same

name hmmm

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