Re: Do you stay in the room during therapy?

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Kate it depends on the child. I always stayed in the room at first--until she

got to know the therapist and to convince myself I was not wasting my money

there--as she was very non-complaint in her early years before biomed

treatment--they just couldn't work with her at all--and yes she did seem to do

better without me there and I appreciated the glass window one of the therapists

had--another had a camera I could use and view the screen but the sound didn't

work--so it was not as easy--but I too felt I wanted to know what was going

on--know the words the prompts to later practice more.

The reality is she does do better without me--is more complaint becuase there's'

no mommy to run to when she is placed on the spot and required to

behave/speak--whcih is the hardest thing in the world for her. So I stayed

present at first--a few weeks at least--to see how well the therapist can handle

her and her progress and then I gradually either walked out after bringing her

in--said I had to use the bathroom at first, and gradually she got used to my

not being there.

i can totally see why therapists believe the child acts better without the

parent and in our case it si true. But it does depend on the child. Some

children are not phased by their parent's presence and can work equally

hard---but this tends to be alter when they are older. In the beginning they

know mommy can save them from everything unpleasant and they tend to run in her

arms when the speech demands increase--so the therapist's authority and rapport

can be undermined. But it's really on a case b7 case basis--just see what works

best over time--To be honest, now that I trust the therapists to work well with

her --I really enjoy the time off in the waiting room. i don't get much of that

and it's nice to just relax and do soemthing I'd otherwise never get to do--read

a magazine for a change

Hope thsi helps.

Elena

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From: mykitkate <mykitkate@...>

Sent: Sat, March 13, 2010 5:48:56 PM

Subject: [ ] Do you stay in the room during therapy?

I have a question regarding my 5 year old son's private therapists. He has had

one therapist for years who always lets us stay in the room during therapy and I

think I have learned how to work with my son at home due to that. We just

started taking him to another therapist who does prompt who said she feels that

my son won't concentrate if I am in the room. I told her that I'm always in the

room with his other therapist and I'm not comfortable with this. Is this

something to do with prompt? I know my son is not with me when he is at

preschool but I feel I should be able to be with him during private therapy.

Any thoughts? Kate

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