Guest guest Posted January 14, 2000 Report Share Posted January 14, 2000 Hi everyone, Dana wrote: " Ava's teacher last year was wonderful. The 2 years before, not so great. This year it's been a lot of work to get her teachers (lots in middle school) to be helpful. " One of the things I do is to request a teacher each year for Kelsey. I've done this since kindergarten, even before OCD to find the right match for her. Since she's bright but not incredibly self-motivated, she needs a very warm nurturing person who will challenge her and hold to her to high standards. Since OCD, I place even more emphasis on teachers with special sensitivity to kids' unique needs and handicaps. This year's teacher used to be a special ed teacher and has an ADHD son. She's been very communicative and concerned with all Kelsey's absences this year due to her physical illnesses...always willing to problem-solve and let me take the lead in our approach because I know Kelsey best. Next year, we're moving to a new school that's opening so I'm wondering how I'll get the skinny on the great teachers! Meanwhile, K's psychosomatic symptoms seem to be disappearing. Incredibly, I think Dr. Hat's " dial down " CBT technique has given her the confidence she can overcome them and so they're showing up less. I would've pooh-poohed this technique as something too simple had I not seen the shift away from tummy/headaches recently. I guess the good news is that none of kelsey's issues seem to " stick " too long. The bad news is that her anxiety always seems to find some new expression (similar to how OCD seems to come out in new ways when one O/C has been successfully addressed). I guess I'll just enjoy the reprieve for now. Take care, in San Diego P.S. Kudos to for not letting that boy get under her skin! It's such an important victory. The more our anxious kids can practice not getting stressed, irritated, and bothered by the little things in life (through E & RP or otherwise) the more they move towards a calmer, more anxiety-free future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2006 Report Share Posted June 22, 2006 On Jun 22, 2006, at 4:25 PM, Amber wrote: > Yeah, I'm hoping he'll just have some really good teachers in the > years > to come who are willing to work with him to find some solutions that > work for everyone. Don't be shy to politely suggest what you think might work, or to give information that might be helpful, or gives perspective. I worked for a month to understand the outside reading requirement, then finally just asked if I could follow a different plan. All that angst, and I got " that sounds fine with me. " So we did it. Then I changed it even more. (Made worksheets instead of him having to pass computer tests.) I bet if I just would have asked in the first place, I wouldn't have had to go through the rigamarole of trying to " prove " we needed the modification. LOL Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2006 Report Share Posted June 22, 2006 I think it would be in your best interest to either give the new teacher a book or print out information about AS. Reading is the best way. It will make it life easier. As my son goes into 1st grade with an IEP and behavior plan (I also work there) I will still give the teacher a print out about AS. The more she knows the better of will be. Good Luck!!! Cori 's Mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2006 Report Share Posted June 23, 2006 Even better, have autism spectrum training for anyone working with your son, written into the IEP. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2006 Report Share Posted June 26, 2006 I think youmight be right Amber. I know that when I first finished my teaching degree I was fresh and ready to take on anything as were my graduate friends. Sometimes (but not always) teachers can get stuck in a bit of a rut not wanting to adapt or change their teaching methods. Beck ( ) teachers Yeah, I'm hoping he'll just have some really good teachers in the years to come who are willing to work with him to find some solutions that work for everyone. I'm a little nervous, too, because as I mentioned I come from a small commuinity and they have exactly one kindergarten teacher and this will be her very first year teaching. Hopefully her inexperience can become a good thing because she will be more open to new ideas. And I can totally picture Seth building compounds for his worms. Amber Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2007 Report Share Posted October 10, 2007 wrote: > I think that, IQ score or no IQ score, many teachers will assume that a > child with Down syndrome is not capable of much learning. I think when > people see a person with DS, they automatically think MR, so I'm not > sure it matters in other people's minds whether or not the child has > the MR diagnosis. Just my opinion. I disagree with this trashing of teachers. It is just like saying that everyone with down syndrome is the same. Our experience over the years with the people who educated my daughter was that they didn't pidgen hole her. They were impressively persistent in their attempts to teach her even things that came very slowly. While she learned to be very good at writing using the computer, longhand was difficult for her. It wasn't until she was about 18 that she finally mastered it, very proudly. Prior to her stroke five or so years ago, her handwriting was simply beautiful. While some will assume that a child with down syndrome cannot learn something, others will work with the child forward from where she/he is and see how far they can get. We had a few teachers that put Jan in a category or blackballed her from being allowed to learn something, but almost all of her teachers got significant reward from the PROGRESS of their students and dealt with the other issues like behaviour simply as part of the job. Jan was no angel, but she was very rewarding to most of her teachers. I have to admit that Jan spent all her years in SPED home rooms (categorized mostly LD). She had lots of exposure, classes, and time with all the kids and it always was fun to stand aside and watch her go down the hall, seeing how many of the kids gave her a cheery greeting. We hand picked the teachers Jan had by networking to find ones who was best at any point She typically stayed with a teacher for three to four years. We had support from her IEP team for this. She did never attend school in the local district, but we were happy with that since our local district did things like mixing emotionally disturbed kids into classes like they would have put Jan in. Maybe going to five different schools over 15 years helped her develop her ability to step into new things confidently. I developed an incredible respect for those who taught Jan. The teachers all had training in special education and experience that taught them how to inspire their students. I always felt that Jan did much better against her potential than the bulk of the kids in public school. Yes, there are bad teachers, but the kid most hurt by a teacher was Jan's younger brother in second grade. He got over it, eventually but he had an awful year and still wears the scars when it comes up. Rick .. dad to 34 year old Jan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2007 Report Share Posted October 10, 2007 Jumping in to say your assuming everyone is able to hand pick the teachers like you did for Jan. Not every one is allowed that sort of freedom. I tried something like that and I was told " NO " cant change teachers. The year had not started yet, so it was not like it was a drastic move. We were told at another time - different kid - " parents can not pick and choose their child's curriculum. " One of the million reasons we decided to home school all our children. It all depends on the area, the district and the individuals in it. Steph re: teachers wrote: > I think that, IQ score or no IQ score, many teachers will assume that a > child with Down syndrome is not capable of much learning. I think when > people see a person with DS, they automatically think MR, so I'm not > sure it matters in other people's minds whether or not the child has > the MR diagnosis. Just my opinion. I disagree with this trashing of teachers. It is just like saying that everyone with down syndrome is the same. Our experience over the years with the people who educated my daughter was that they didn't pidgen hole her. Yes, there are bad teachers, but the kid most hurt by a teacher was Jan's younger brother in second grade. He got over it, eventually but he had an awful year and still wears the scars when it comes up. Rick .. dad to 34 year old Jan _,___ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2009 Report Share Posted February 25, 2009 Sorry you are having such problems. Teachers should be open to helping the child, unfortunately some get the idea a child is faking or taking advantage of a situation, which I never really understand. I mean why would any child not want to run and play and just be normal? We're not talking about faking a stomachache to get out of a test, we are talking about an illness that can take away from normal things. My only real suggestion is to make sure you have a 501 plan or IEP for your child, if you are in a public school. That way you have something to hold the school accountable on. If you have one in place already, I would be in talking with the principal and whoever else is in charge of such things and make sure the teachers abide by what is in the plan. Feel free to vent - that's one reason why we're here! Michele ( 21, spondy) ________________________________ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of charityfp Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 7:08 AM Subject: teachers UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with teachers who do NOT understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts normal....and he is only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that kind of thing ......Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the literature I've sent....I feel like if they read it we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for letting me vent ...charity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2009 Report Share Posted February 25, 2009 thanks .. what is an 501 or an IEP ? charity > From: Tepper, Michele <MTepper@...> > Subject: RE: teachers > > Date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009, 1:09 PM > Sorry you are having such problems. Teachers should be open > to helping > the child, unfortunately some get the idea a child is > faking or taking > advantage of a situation, which I never really understand. > I mean why > would any child not want to run and play and just be > normal? We're not > talking about faking a stomachache to get out of a test, we > are talking > about an illness that can take away from normal things. > > My only real suggestion is to make sure you have a 501 plan > or IEP for > your child, if you are in a public school. That way you > have something > to hold the school accountable on. If you have one in place > already, I > would be in talking with the principal and whoever else is > in charge of > such things and make sure the teachers abide by what is in > the plan. > > Feel free to vent - that's one reason why we're > here! Michele ( > 21, spondy) > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: > [mailto: ] On > Behalf Of charityfp > Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 7:08 AM > > Subject: teachers > > > > UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with > teachers who do > NOT > understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts > normal....and he is > only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that > kind of thing > .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular > JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the > literature I've > sent....I feel like if they read it > we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for > letting me > vent ...charity > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2009 Report Share Posted February 25, 2009 Unfortunately, I do not have a lot of first hand knowledge on this subject. My son went to private school. However, what I do know about them is that they are directives to the school where the child receives certain accommodations when in school, depending on the child's needs. For example, some kids need an extra set of books at home, so they do not have to carry them back and forth so the school must provide that. Some may need PT or OT which the school must provide. Or they may need some resting time. There are many different things. This is set up with the input from various faculty - therapists, teachers - doctor's letters and input plays a part I believe and parents. I know many here on the list have them for their kids and so they can provide more info. For my son, I just went in and spoke with the principal and his teachers and we discussed some things he might need. He was older, so better able to explain how he felt, and they let him guide to what he needed. Only once did I really have an issue, with his computer teacher, who was not happy with his keyboarding skills. I sent a letter to her, explained the illness and told her she could call me or talk with his main teacher. After this discussion she did not give him a hard time about his speed in typing (he was having issues with his hands at the time). I am sure someone else can better explain what exactly the difference between the plans is and how they can help you. I don't believe I have any old posts saved on this issue, but you could perhaps check the old posts to find some. I'll keep looking to see what I can find. Michele ________________________________ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of charity pendleton Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 1:14 PM Subject: RE: teachers thanks .. what is an 501 or an IEP ? charity > From: Tepper, Michele <MTepper@... <mailto:MTepper%40ftportfolios.com> > > Subject: RE: teachers > <mailto: %40> > Date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009, 1:09 PM > Sorry you are having such problems. Teachers should be open > to helping > the child, unfortunately some get the idea a child is > faking or taking > advantage of a situation, which I never really understand. > I mean why > would any child not want to run and play and just be > normal? We're not > talking about faking a stomachache to get out of a test, we > are talking > about an illness that can take away from normal things. > > My only real suggestion is to make sure you have a 501 plan > or IEP for > your child, if you are in a public school. That way you > have something > to hold the school accountable on. If you have one in place > already, I > would be in talking with the principal and whoever else is > in charge of > such things and make sure the teachers abide by what is in > the plan. > > Feel free to vent - that's one reason why we're > here! Michele ( > 21, spondy) > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: <mailto: %40> > [mailto: <mailto: %40> ] On > Behalf Of charityfp > Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 7:08 AM > <mailto: %40> > Subject: teachers > > > > UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with > teachers who do > NOT > understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts > normal....and he is > only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that > kind of thing > .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular > JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the > literature I've > sent....I feel like if they read it > we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for > letting me > vent ...charity > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2009 Report Share Posted February 25, 2009 That is totally unacceptable. As someone who is a 17 year fighter of this disease as well as an elementary school teacher (4th and 5th grade currently) I think it is so important that we understanding everything that our students are going through. I have told my credential program time and time again how important it is to be aware of invisible illnesses (the diseases we cannot see like JRA but are there.) I recommend asking the teacher for an hour of class time where you and your son explain to the class about the disease, while this time will be educational for the students the teacher will also be forced to actually listen to the information. It would be a great way for your son to honestly explain what it is like and chances are kids in his class will be able to make connections either through their own struggles astham, ect or through people they know. Students are usually very receptive to this strategy. More importantly the teacher will be forced to acknowledge the seriousness of the disease. Often times child life specialists through the childrens hospital will come in and explain the disease. The bottom line is this type of behavior is unacceptable, it shouldn't have to come down to this, but it is. The most important thing is to have this teacher understand the disease so you have to figure out a way to get it across to her. This teacher has your son five days a week for six or seven hours, she needs to know what he has and how it affects him. I'm sorry you are going through this, it bothers me that some teachers are so stupid. I have students in my class with illnesses and disabilities and its my understanding of their disorders that allows me to modify my teaching so it works for them. Also you should consider getting a 504 because she must comply when it comes to that or it becomes a legal issue. Love always (MCTD, 24) From: charityfp <charityfp@...> Subject: teachers Date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009, 5:07 AM UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with teachers who do NOT understand.. .its like the chid looks normal and acts normal....and he is only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that kind of thing .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the literature I've sent....I feel like if they read it we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for letting me vent ....charity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2009 Report Share Posted February 25, 2009 Great response and recommendation ! You are clearly in the career that needs you!! Val Rob's Mom (11,systemic) teachers Date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009, 5:07 AM UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with teachers who do NOT understand.. .its like the chid looks normal and acts normal....and he is only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that kind of thing .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the literature I've sent....I feel like if they read it we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for letting me vent ....charity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2009 Report Share Posted February 25, 2009 An IEP is used if the student needs special education services - speech, occupational or other therapies like that. Things in a 504 can be incorporated into an IEP, though if the student qualifies for special ed services. My son with a history of seizures and now apraxia has an IEP. A 504 is strictly for accomodations - extra set of books, locker on the first floor, elevator use, extra time for tests, that type of thing. My daughter, who doesn't require any type of special ed services, will be on a 504 plan next year. Hope that helps, From: charityfp@... Date: Wed, 25 Feb 2009 11:13:55 -0800 Subject: RE: teachers thanks .. what is an 501 or an IEP ? charity > From: Tepper, Michele <MTepper@...> > Subject: RE: teachers > > Date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009, 1:09 PM > Sorry you are having such problems. Teachers should be open > to helping > the child, unfortunately some get the idea a child is > faking or taking > advantage of a situation, which I never really understand. > I mean why > would any child not want to run and play and just be > normal? We're not > talking about faking a stomachache to get out of a test, we > are talking > about an illness that can take away from normal things. > > My only real suggestion is to make sure you have a 501 plan > or IEP for > your child, if you are in a public school. That way you > have something > to hold the school accountable on. If you have one in place > already, I > would be in talking with the principal and whoever else is > in charge of > such things and make sure the teachers abide by what is in > the plan. > > Feel free to vent - that's one reason why we're > here! Michele ( > 21, spondy) > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: > [mailto: ] On > Behalf Of charityfp > Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 7:08 AM > > Subject: teachers > > > > UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with > teachers who do > NOT > understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts > normal....and he is > only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that > kind of thing > .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular > JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the > literature I've > sent....I feel like if they read it > we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for > letting me > vent ...charity > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2009 Report Share Posted February 26, 2009 Charity I am not sure where you are at but schools have to offer the IEP or 504 plan. Most school districts are good about it I think but there are some that are a royal pain. I do not knw what the time limit is in all places but I think here the district has just so many days after you request this in order to have a meeting to determine if your child qualifies or not.? If they say no, then you need to appeal it.? I know that many parents are scared of the words Special Education. DONT BE. those may be the words that give your child the chance he needs. My Jaye is very bright but due to missing so much school she needed the extra help that is allowed by the special ed program. Actually by the end of her eight grade year she was doing alot of tutoring for the other students in her classes. She still has the label " special ed " and will have it through highschool. At the end of her eight grade year we were approachced by the school to see if we wanted to have her evaluated to see if maybe she did not need the services. I said no. She only uses the services as needed and so far this year in highschool she does not need them.? but now that she has begun having seizrues again and the new medication she is missing a bit more school again and so may have to have extra time for things.? Also, this helps get past the truency issue when your child misses too many days per year without a doctors written note.? we are allowed 12 days per school year of parent excuses. We got a note the other day from the school complaining and now they are having to review our file to see that she needs a health plan. last year it was determined taht she did not need one because she was doing so well. I agreed to not have the health plan in place but insisted taht they put it in writing that as soon as she might begin to have problems they had to rewrite her IEP. One other thing to keep in mind, Kids that are very smart and excel also have IEP's. All it stands for is an Individual Education Plan.? Let us know how things go but you need to ju mp on this quickly to make sure the school understands and will work with you.? If they do not work with you then you need to get an advocate to help you.? teachers UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with teachers who do NOT understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts normal....and he is only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that kind of thing .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the literature I've sent....I feel like if they read it we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for letting me vent ....charity Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2009 Report Share Posted February 26, 2009 Veri, I have a question that you may or may not be able to answer. has been on a 504 even before being diagnosed with JRA due to her dyslexia. I have asked the counselor twice now about changing her to an IEP. The first time nothing came of my request so I sent another letter requestiong it. We had another 504 meeting and I was told that could not have an IEP because she does not qualify for Special Education. I had also asked about her using her laptop and was told that was not allowed. They said they would " try " to find me an AlphaSmart for her to use. A week later the counselor emailed me and said they didn't have one and were out of funding so they couldn't get one and I would have to buy my own. I am just at my wits end with this new counselor the school has this year and I am not familiar enough with IEP's or 504's to know what is expected and what is not. Any help or guidance would be appreciated. > > Charity > > I am not sure where you are at but schools have to offer the IEP or 504 plan. Most school districts are good about it I think but there are some that are a royal pain. I do not knw what the time limit is in all places but I think here the district has just so many days after you request this in order to have a meeting to determine if your child qualifies or not.? If they say no, then you need to appeal it.? I know that many parents are scared of the words Special Education. DONT BE. those may be the words that give your child the chance he needs. My Jaye is very bright but due to missing so much school she needed the extra help that is allowed by the special ed program. Actually by the end of her eight grade year she was doing alot of tutoring for the other students in her classes. She still has the label " special ed " and will have it through highschool. At the end of her eight grade year we were approachced by the school to see if we wanted to have her evaluated to see if maybe she did not need the services. I said no. She only uses the services as needed and so far this year in highschool she does not need them.? but now that she has begun having seizrues again and the new medication she is missing a bit more school again and so may have to have extra time for things.? Also, this helps get past the truency issue when your child misses too many days per year without a doctors written note.? we are allowed 12 days per school year of parent excuses. We got a note the other day from the school complaining and now they are having to review our file to see that she needs a health plan. last year it was determined taht she did not need one because she was doing so well. I agreed to not have the health plan in place but insisted taht they put it in writing that as soon as she might begin to have problems they had to rewrite her IEP. One other thing to keep in mind, Kids that are very smart and excel also have IEP's. All it stands for is an Individual Education Plan.? Let us know how things go but you need to ju > > mp on this quickly to make sure the school understands and will work with you.? If they do not work with you then you need to get an advocate to help you.? > > > teachers > > > > > > > UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble with teachers who do NOT > understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts normal....and he is only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or emotions..that kind of thing .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular > JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the literature I've sent....I feel like if they read it > we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks for letting me vent ...charity > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2009 Report Share Posted February 26, 2009 helps alot thanks > > > From: Tepper, Michele <MTepper@...> > > Subject: RE: teachers > > > > Date: Wednesday, February 25, 2009, 1:09 PM > > Sorry you are having such problems. Teachers should be > open > > to helping > > the child, unfortunately some get the idea a child is > > faking or taking > > advantage of a situation, which I never really > understand. > > I mean why > > would any child not want to run and play and just be > > normal? We're not > > talking about faking a stomachache to get out of a > test, we > > are talking > > about an illness that can take away from normal > things. > > > > My only real suggestion is to make sure you have a 501 > plan > > or IEP for > > your child, if you are in a public school. That way > you > > have something > > to hold the school accountable on. If you have one in > place > > already, I > > would be in talking with the principal and whoever > else is > > in charge of > > such things and make sure the teachers abide by what > is in > > the plan. > > > > Feel free to vent - that's one reason why > we're > > here! Michele ( > > 21, spondy) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > > From: > > [mailto: ] On > > Behalf Of charityfp > > Sent: Wednesday, February 25, 2009 7:08 AM > > > > Subject: teachers > > > > > > > > UUGGGG!!!! Does anyone else out there have trouble > with > > teachers who do > > NOT > > understand...its like the chid looks normal and acts > > normal....and he is > > only 8 so they can't be hiding pain or > emotions..that > > kind of thing > > .....Even with the drs diagnosis ..( Polyarticular > > JRA and Ankylosing Spondylitis ) even with all the > > literature I've > > sent....I feel like if they read it > > we would not be this frustrated about school....thanks > for > > letting me > > vent ...charity > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2009 Report Share Posted March 1, 2009 There is information on 504 and IEP in the files section of the site for this group. There is even a sample 504 and an idea for a fact sheet created by one of the parents on this list. Misty & (10, systemic) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 I have been a member of this group for a couple of years and am so thankful for the amount of information I get from everyone. I know this might be off topic but it might be considered relevant as sometimes people run into situations with teachers where the teacher mistreats the student. My oldest son does not have apraxia but ADHD. He does not have an IEP but I have just started working with the school regarding accomodations. The 504 plan has changed so for kids with ADHD it is easier to qualify now with the revisions that were implemented. My problem is my son's teacher. In the last couple of weeks ,first she singled him out in front of the class and said _____, I cant wait to see how you will do on the test ....Secondly, she took him outside the classroom and told him that he is a waste of oxygen in the class , he is a blob and how is he going to explain to his children one day that he was like this in school. Now I dont know if this is because I have been trying to get a 504 plan in place and she found out he has ADHD and does not believe in ADHD. Either way , I am horrified but do not know what to do. He has to be in this class for the rest of the year. Although I have looked into this situation on the internet, I feel discouraged because a lot of parents are relaying that even if they complain within the school, nothing gets done. What would be the correct course of action to have her stop doing this to my son. He is taking it badly . I apologize for this being off topic but I just was hoping someone would have some experience in dealing with teachers and the school district. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 , This is outrageous and I'm sure you will get much helpful advice from our members. My personal thoughts/advice is as follows: It does not matter what the teacher's motivation for making these comments - they are absolutely unacceptable for any teacher to make to any child. I would first check my facts for complete accuracy and document your son's comments and feelings about this, as well as obtaining supporting information from other parents or students if there is any, and put that in writing . Then I would insist on a meeting with the principal at which time I would request that the documentation be made part of your son's permanent school record, AND I would insist that the child be placed in a different classroom immediately. This is a toxic teacher and even if the administrators are successful in getting the teacher to alter her behavior, the damage to your son has already been done. I would also insist that disciplinary action be taken against the teacher (although primary focus should be on the needs of your child). To me, this is blatant abuse and a form of bullying. I would make this very clear to the principal and I would hope any principal would deal with it as such. If however, she/he doesn't resolve it to your satisfaction, you can bring it to the school district level and at this point, you might consider requesting that the child be transferred to another local school. I have known several children that have switched schools due to severe problems with the teacher or behavioral problems of their own that they are working on, and the outcomes have been positive. I'm sorry that your son is having this terrible experience. We had a somewhat similar experience with my son last year in 4th grade. My guy has ADD, apraxia and learning disabilities. Despite meeting with his teacher several times to explain his slow processing, etc. and how hard he works every day to complete a minimum quantity of work, the teacher continued his punitive approach, " benching " him whenever he didn't complete all homework (even though I had modified it in accordance with his IEP accommodations). It had a devastating effect on my son - every day his anxiety level was through the roof and he felt embarrassed and completely inadequate. I met with the principal, who knows my son, and she immediately recognized that the teacher was " reading " my son completely incorrectly and set him straight. He ended up staying in the classroom and exceeding his teacher's expectations - both my son and the teacher were thrilled with his progress by the end of the year. But this is a teacher with good intentions, just stubborn until enlightened. Your son's teacher clearly doesn't have the skills to work with kids, and I can imagine how demoralizing this experience is on your son. Sounds like you are aware how unacceptable this behavior is and you're looking for some validation. Hope this helps. Good luck. Debbie On Jan 26, 2011, at 7:55 AM, ali wrote: > I have been a member of this group for a couple of years and am so > thankful for the amount of information I get from everyone. I know > this might be off topic but it might be considered relevant as > sometimes people run into situations with teachers where the teacher > mistreats the student. My oldest son does not have apraxia but ADHD. > He does not have an IEP but I have just started working with the > school regarding accomodations. The 504 plan has changed so for kids > with ADHD it is easier to qualify now with the revisions that were > implemented. My problem is my son's teacher. In the last couple of > weeks ,first she singled him out in front of the class and said > _____, I cant wait to see how you will do on the test ....Secondly, > she took him outside the classroom and told him that he is a waste > of oxygen in the class , he is a blob and how is he going to explain > to his children one day that he was like this in school. Now I dont > know if this is because I have been trying to get a 504 plan in > place and she found out he has ADHD and does not believe in ADHD. > Either way , I am horrified but do not know what to do. He has to be > in this class for the rest of the year. Although I have looked into > this situation on the internet, I feel discouraged because a lot of > parents are relaying that even if they complain within the school, > nothing gets done. What would be the correct course of action to > have her stop doing this to my son. He is taking it badly . I > apologize for this being off topic but I just was hoping someone > would have some experience in dealing with teachers and the school > district. Thanks > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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