Guest guest Posted November 1, 2003 Report Share Posted November 1, 2003 And we are extremely lucky and blessed to know you, ! How are you doing today? Hugs! Tracey > Marta... > > I definitely agree about the importance of friends!! I feel extremely lucky and blessed. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2003 Report Share Posted November 2, 2003 Hi Marta... Friends are indeed a very important and sometimes rare commodity. I " know " a lot of peoiple, but have very few I could call on to fetch me home from the hospital. I, too, am between churches- I won't go to the 8:30 am service, Steve doesn't like the 9:45 contemporary music service. So he goes and I sleep- I certainly don't win that one. One suggestion- become involved in a small group study at different churches- that perhaps will give you a feel for how accepting of you they are, and how giving of themselves. Just the " right church " is waiting for you. Best on your continued recovery- wish I was there to help. Betsy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2004 Report Share Posted September 8, 2004 In a message dated 9/8/2004 4:08:37 PM Eastern Standard Time, martincoyless@... writes: Know exactly what you mean Janet. Good answer Kathy, You are so right Kathy and . I look forward to reading all the posts everyday. I condsider you all my friends. I feel like some of you have been posting so long that I know you well. I'm so glad we all have each other. Janet [Editor's Note: Janet, that's exactly how I feel, too. I look forward to reading the posts and feel like this has become our kaffeklatsch. Happy and sad, high and low, informative and funny - all of this is the stuff that good friends share. Thanks to all of you for being my friends - and by the way, my last name is Friend - really - so I know all about friends. Kathy F.] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 Hi Janet and Kathy, I said the same thing recently. It is a pity we are all so far away from each other (Well most of us) or we could have had occasional meetings. Only thing is though.............I would not be volunteering to vacuum the carpets afterwards. Lol and Kathy, We should have guessed that would be your surname. Take care all, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 Dear , I take offense to your needing to vacuum the carpets after we would leave. Are you saying as a group we are a messy bunch of people...lol. I know for a fact that I drop about half of what I pick up, so as long as I'm not doing anything you shouldn't have to sweep up the carpet after me...lol. Seriously though, I feel like I am new to this group and you have all welcomed me with such warm feelings and opened arms. I think it's what makes this group so special. I know some people might think this all kind of drippy, but it does make a big difference to know that you like the people in your group. I enjoy the laughter, feel bad about the tears, and worry about the pain people suffer. So I guess we get a little of everything with this group. I just wanted to say thanks for welcoming me and for making me feel at home. Love, Fran. PS. Can you believe Florida is dealing with another Cat.5 hurricane? This is really getting nuts. We are hoping this one will miss us, since it's the worst one yet. Talk about stress. Everyone in the state needs to have a Prozac moment if you ask me. Re: [ ] Friends Hi Janet and Kathy, I said the same thing recently. It is a pity we are all so far away from each other (Well most of us) or we could have had occasional meetings. Only thing is though.............I would not be volunteering to vacuum the carpets afterwards. Lol and Kathy, We should have guessed that would be your surname. Take care all, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 My, my, my, We have been lolled by summer weather and sunny days. Have a meeting with many from this group in winter weather and, yes, the floor would need to vacuuming afterward - to remove the perpetual snowfall of P flakes - what is that humorous site for P - Flaky something, or something flaky. I am not able to follow threads well as my current job (after 5 months on unemploymment) doesn't leave me much time for internet groups. Long drive, long day, no internet at home (will correct that!) That 14 y.o. probably has the deforming form of our malady. And the amputation, was probably surgery to correct a situation they didn't really understand. I don't think there are many with that form of PA and the Dr. probably was planning something that wasn't possible with PA. Such a shame. Hey, mom, is it something like that - I don't want to start a false tale here, reality is scay enough. In the DC suburbs we were blessed/cursed with being to the east of the eye of Frances - not much rain, lots of tornado scares and several actual sightings with damage. And, yes, joint pain. Between Connie, Charlie, stalled cold fronts, Gaston, more stalled cold fronts and Frances, the sun has been on the other side of the clouds for far too many days. And now, Ivan! I don't know how the people in Florida survived!!!! My thoughts and prayers are with our folks in FL - they don't have to vacuum up flakes - their world is suctioned up beneath them every week! Take care. JudiRose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 Kathy, I just want to say how much I appreciate that you are moderating the group and what a great job you have doing. I know it must not be easy especially if you are having a lousy day. What a great last name. It just goes to show that you are truly a Friend in more ways then one. Janet [Editor's Note: Janet, you are so sweet! Thanks for your kind words. In fact, it is a pleasure to be involved with so many kind, loving, thoughtful and funny people. Yes, some days it is hard to moderate because the demands of work, family and disease-management can be excessive, but on those days you all give me inspiration without even knowing it! I can't take credit for my Friend surname since it has been in the family for generations, LOL, but at least it usually helps break the ice when I meet new people. Thanks, again, Janet, for your sweet post. Kathy F.] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2004 Report Share Posted September 10, 2004 Hi Fran, Once again, I hope you, , and anyone else who might be in its path get through it ok. I think we will even be getting the tail end of it over here although it will obviously be much weaker by that time. Take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 14, 2004 Report Share Posted September 14, 2004 In a message dated 9/10/2004 8:12:32 PM Eastern Standard Time, martincoyless@... writes: Once again, I hope you, , and anyone else who might be in its path get through it ok. I think we will even be getting the tail end of it over here although it will obviously be much weaker by that time. Take care Good news for me, Ivan went west so we are getting some rain and slight wind but nowhere near as bad as the other 2...thanks for worrying about us:-) Fran, hope it passes you by too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2004 Report Share Posted November 17, 2004 In a message dated 11/12/2004 11:41:12 PM Eastern Standard Time, SillyCat59@... writes: > > > To My Friends > > If you should die > before me, ask if you > could bring a friend. > > -- Stone Temple Pilots > > > If you live to be a hundred, > I want to live to be > a hundred minus one day, > so I never have to live > without you. > > -- Winnie the Pooh > > > > > True friendship is > like sound health; > the value of it is > seldom known > until it is lost. > > -- Caleb Colton > > A real friend > is one who walks in > when the rest > of the world walks out. > > > Don't > walk in front of me, > I may not follow. > Don't walk behind me, > I may not lead. > Walk beside me and > be my friend. > -- Albert Camus > > > Strangers are > just frie nds waiting to > happen. > Friends are the Bacon > Bits in the Salad > Bowl of Life. > > > Friendship is one mind > in two bodies. > -- Mencius > > > > Friends are God's way of taking care of us. > > > I'll lean on you and > you lean on me and > we'll be okay > > -- Dave s > > > > > If all my friends were > to jump off a bridge, > I wouldn't jump with them, > I'd be at the bottom to > catch them. > > > Everyone hears > what you say. > Friends listen to > what you say. > Best friends > listen to what you don't > say. > > > We all take different > paths in life, > but no matter where we go, > we take a little of each > other everywhere ..; > > -- Tim McGraw > > > > My father always used > to say that when you die, > if you've got five real friends, > then you've had a great life.; > > -- Lee Iacocca > > > > Hold a true friend with both your hands.; > > -- Nigerian Proverb > > > > A friend is someone who knows > the song in your heart > and can sing it back to you > when you have forgotten > the words.; > > -- Unknown > > THE MUSIC BOX DANCER > > > > > > > To My Friends > > If you should die > before me, ask if you > could bring a friend. > > -- Stone Temple Pilots > > > If you live to be a hundred, > I want to live to be > a hundred minus one day, > so I never have to live > without you. > > -- Winnie the Pooh > > > > > True friendship is > like sound health; > the value of it is > seldom known > until it is lost. > > -- Caleb Colton > > A real friend > is one who walks in > when the rest > of the world walks out. > > > Don't > walk in front of me, > I may not follow. > Don't walk behind me, > I may not lead. > Walk beside me and > be my friend. > -- Albert Camus > > > Strangers are > just frie nds waiting to > happen. > Friends are the Bacon > Bits in the Salad > Bowl of Life. > > > Friendship is one mind > in two bodies. > -- Mencius > > > > Friends are God's way of taking care of us. > > > I'll lean on you and > you lean on me and > we'll be okay > > -- Dave s > > > > > If all my friends were > to jump off a bridge, > I wouldn't jump with them, > I'd be at the bottom to > catch them. > > > Everyone hears > what you say. > Friends listen to > what you say. > Best friends > listen to what you don't > say. > > > We all take different > paths in life, > but no matter where we go, > we take a little of each > other everywhere ..; > > -- Tim McGraw > > > > My father always used > to say that when you die, > if you've got five real friends, > then you've had a great life.; > > -- Lee Iacocca > > > > Hold a true friend with both your hands.; > > -- Nigerian Proverb > > > > A friend is someone who knows > the song in your heart > and can sing it back to you > when you have forgotten > the words.; > > -- Unknown > > > Pass this on to all of your FRIENDS,even if it means > sending it to the person that sent it to you. > And if you receive this e-mail many times from > many different people, it only means that you have > many FRIENDS. And if you only get it but once, do not be > discouraged for you will know that you have > AT LEAST ONE GOOD FRIEND. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > This message scanned and certified safe by Stop-Sign Computer Protection Service. > http://www.stop-sign.com/safe/?n=tl & sp=08.in003 > > > > Rock, jazz, country, soul & more. Find the music you love on MSN Music! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2005 Report Share Posted December 8, 2005 Wow, --that must have been so hard for you. It helps remind me why I am a stay-at-home mom, and not to get too involved with distractions (housework, mail, e-mail, etc.) so that I can be there for my kids. Thank you for the eye-opener. I spend a lot of time with them, but often with them as bodies, and not people. -- E. Friends >I went through a tough time period in highschool when I didn't really > have any friends - lots of people I knew, but no friends. > > For me, the joining groups or activities wouldn't have worked - it > would have just been more of the same . . . > > I sure wish I'd had a mom at home who loved me and cared about me and > wanted to spend time with me and be my friend - it would have made a > world of difference and made up for everything else!! > > She's so lucky to have you!! > > > > > > > >> > > > >> > > > Well, this weekend for one of our daily exposure >> > > > exercises I had my son wear a pair of cotton >> > (soft >> > > > jean-like material) shorts yesterday for 1 hour. >> > > He >> > > > walked around like someone with wet clothing on! >> > > Poor >> > > > kid!!! When he sat down in a chair he couldn't >> > > move >> > > > and had to be helped up. That's how much the >> > > fabric >> > > > disturbed him. Anyhow, one of these days I'm >> > > > determined to get him in a real pair of pants! >> > > :-) >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > __________________________________________ >> > > > DSL - Something to write home about. >> > > > Just $16.99/mo. or less. >> > > > dsl. >> > > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat >> > > feature may be accessed >> > > at: >> > > >> > >> / >> > > . >> > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar >> > > Chansky, Ph.D.( >> > > http://www.worrywisekids.org ), Dan Geller, >> > > M.D.,Aureen Pinto Wagner, >> > > Ph.D., ( http://www.lighthouse-press.com ). Our >> > > list moderators are >> > > Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy >> > > Hammes, Joye, >> > > Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . >> > >> > > Subscription issues >> > > or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, >> > > list owner, at >> > > louisharkins@y... , louisharkins@h... >> > , >> > > louisharkins@g... . >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2005 Report Share Posted December 9, 2005 I think the thing that got me though the difficult high school years was art and writing. I found that by drawing or writing I was able to vent painful feelings or thoughts and create something meaningful. I don't think being in a group or group activity would have made my life any better (I was quite shy as a teen), but just having something I loved and felt good about was wonderful. Also, reading books was like looking through a window. I think it made life more rich and interesting. Just finding a niche, whatever it is, just helps give more meaning to life. And maybe it is family connections or something else. , I bet you are a wonderful friend to your child (or children) and others. Tess --- klwicklund77 <k777thorpe@...> wrote: > I went through a tough time period in highschool > when I didn't really > have any friends - lots of people I knew, but no > friends. > > For me, the joining groups or activities wouldn't > have worked - it > would have just been more of the same . . . > > I sure wish I'd had a mom at home who loved me and > cared about me and > wanted to spend time with me and be my friend - it > would have made a > world of difference and made up for everything > else!! > > She's so lucky to have you!! > > > > > > > > > > > > Those were terrible times...in the car seat. > a > > > would scream all the > > > way to anywhere. Even in the grocery cart, same > > > thing...She never > > > wanted to be confined...It was very difficult > and I > > > remember thinking > > > that people would see her from their cars and > think > > > what in the world > > > was going on?? > > > > > > Oh yes, I have had her to Drs., psychs. and > > > otherwise since she was 3. > > > She has been on Celexa and an assundry of other > meds > > > and has seen a > > > myriad of therapists. > > > It is very difficult for her. She isolates > herself > > > as a result which > > > results in the lack of activity and therefore, > the > > > weight gain and not > > > many friends. So, I am it for her, her big > sister > > > is in college. It > > > makes my heart ache... > > > > > > > > > S. Altman, BSEd.,BSN, MPH > > > Unisys Corporation > > > Plaza America Office > > > 11720 Plaza America Drive, Tower III > > > Reston, VA 20190 > > > 703-439-5752 Net 439 > > > Fax: 703-439-5808 > > > ...Behind every good Dr. is even a better > nurse... > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > > > > From: > > > [mailto: ] On > Behalf > > > Of > > > comtesse_de_provence@y... > > > Sent: Wednesday, December 07, 2005 4:54 PM > > > > > > Subject: RE: Re: Cotton Shorts > > > > > > > > > , > > > > > > I had car seat problems too!!!! I'd have to pull > my > > > son's clothing so it would be flat when he was > an > > > infant and if his shirt was folded or wrinkled > he'd > > > scream the entire car trip. > > > > > > This has to be difficult for your daughter. Do > you > > > have her on any medication, or with any doctors? > > > > > > > Tess > > > > > > .and oh, don't let me forget > > > > about the struggle > > > > with the car seat. YIKES!!! > > > > > > > > Well, now a is 15 y.o. and continues on > with > > > the > > > > same problems. She > > > > is very overweight due to her poor eating > habits > > > and > > > > limited food > > > > choices and lack of activity. But, even when > she > > > > wasn't overweight, > > > > T-shirts and large pants that were made out of > one > > > > kind of material were > > > > the only thing she would wear. Now that she > is in > > > > HS, I was hoping that > > > > in order to " fit in " that she would wear > different > > > > things, but she > > > > doesn't. She wears the same two pair of pants > all > > > > week. I feel so sad > > > > for her because she looks so disheveled and it > > > looks > > > > like I don't take > > > > care of her. I am really sensitive to that... > > > > > > > > Thanks for listening... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > > > > > > From: > > > > [mailto: ] On > Behalf > > > > Of stacyjpoe > > > > Sent: Tuesday, December 06, 2005 9:01 PM > > > > > > > > Subject: Re: Cotton Shorts > > > > > > > > > > > > Tess, your son did better than mine. I had my > son > > > > try and wear a > > > > different shirt out of his closet (all cotton > > > > t-shirt). His issue > > > > isn't the material but how it feels around his > > > neck. > > > > The collars are > > > > too loose?? Well I just wanted him to keep it > on > > > for > > > > 5 min. He > > > > squirms, screams, I just hug him saying the > time > > > is > > > > almost over. A > > > > LONG 5 min. the next day we tried 10 min. and > he > > > > didn't make it > > > > thru. The other thing is sometimes this will > be > > > > sucessful but then > > > > I'll wash it and the same shirt won't " work " > the > > > > next time!! > === message truncated === __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2005 Report Share Posted December 9, 2005 Thanks so much and Tess. Yes, throughout the years, I have had a in so many things, I wouldn't know where to begin. All she had to do was open her mouth and I was on the phone asking about classes, etc. Unfortunately, it seems that after going about two weeks, she was done. I mean, that was it, she was not going back. So, ... she was then again isolated. When I would ask her why, she would say this person or that person was doing or saying something or the teacher was not nice and she didn't like her, but it was always the same thing. Some of these activities were not inexpensive. Now she is saying that she wants to go to the Y and swim. I would love to sign her up, but if she decides not to go after a week or so... This seems to be her pattern. I also explained to her that there were swimming classes, which she doesn't need because she is a good swimmer, but hey, whatever she wants to do, and water aerobics, but she wants to just " swim " . I'm not trying to be unreasonable here, BUT first of all, you cannot go to the Y and just swim. I mean, at certain times there is lap swimming, but will she do it or just play around??? It is a very busy pool with swim teams, classes, etc., so I encouraged her to try the water aerobics class. She is not too enthralled about doing that, but I hate to squelch her idea. I have also encouraged her to join a club at school. She tried Art Club, but now there is a girl in there that she is no longer friends with who also goes and she won't go anymoe. I tell ya, it's exhausting... ________________________________ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of P & L Sent: Thursday, December 08, 2005 6:05 PM Subject: Re: Friends Wow, --that must have been so hard for you. It helps remind me why I am a stay-at-home mom, and not to get too involved with distractions (housework, mail, e-mail, etc.) so that I can be there for my kids. Thank you for the eye-opener. I spend a lot of time with them, but often with them as bodies, and not people. -- E. Friends >I went through a tough time period in highschool when I didn't really > have any friends - lots of people I knew, but no friends. > > For me, the joining groups or activities wouldn't have worked - it > would have just been more of the same . . . > > I sure wish I'd had a mom at home who loved me and cared about me and > wanted to spend time with me and be my friend - it would have made a > world of difference and made up for everything else!! > > She's so lucky to have you!! > > > > > > > >> > > > >> > > > Well, this weekend for one of our daily exposure >> > > > exercises I had my son wear a pair of cotton >> > (soft >> > > > jean-like material) shorts yesterday for 1 hour. >> > > He >> > > > walked around like someone with wet clothing on! >> > > Poor >> > > > kid!!! When he sat down in a chair he couldn't >> > > move >> > > > and had to be helped up. That's how much the >> > > fabric >> > > > disturbed him. Anyhow, one of these days I'm >> > > > determined to get him in a real pair of pants! >> > > :-) >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > __________________________________________ >> > > > DSL - Something to write home about. >> > > > Just $16.99/mo. or less. >> > > > dsl. >> > > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat >> > > feature may be accessed >> > > at: >> > > >> > >> / >> > > . >> > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar >> > > Chansky, Ph.D.( >> > > http://www.worrywisekids.org ), Dan Geller, >> > > M.D.,Aureen Pinto Wagner, >> > > Ph.D., ( http://www.lighthouse-press.com ). Our >> > > list moderators are >> > > Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy >> > > Hammes, Joye, >> > > Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . >> > >> > > Subscription issues >> > > or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, >> > > list owner, at >> > > louisharkins@y... , louisharkins@h... >> > , >> > > louisharkins@g... . >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2005 Report Share Posted December 11, 2005 , Have you ever told your daughter that if she enrolls in something she has to stick it out? What would happen if you made her go, even if you stayed with her? Every flier that comes home my son wants to participate in. We have our son choose 2 activities in the summer and 2 during the school year. Once he decided he wanted to play basketball but didn't like it. We told him whether he chooses to participate was his descision but he was still going to go the the practices and games. After a couple practices and one game on the bench he chose to play. I feel for you - good luck! > >> > > > > >> > > > Well, this weekend for one of our daily exposure > >> > > > exercises I had my son wear a pair of cotton > >> > (soft > >> > > > jean-like material) shorts yesterday for 1 hour. > >> > > He > >> > > > walked around like someone with wet clothing on! > >> > > Poor > >> > > > kid!!! When he sat down in a chair he couldn't > >> > > move > >> > > > and had to be helped up. That's how much the > >> > > fabric > >> > > > disturbed him. Anyhow, one of these days I'm > >> > > > determined to get him in a real pair of pants! > >> > > :-) > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > __________________________________________ > >> > > > DSL - Something to write home about. > >> > > > Just $16.99/mo. or less. > >> > > > dsl. > >> > > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat > >> > > feature may be accessed > >> > > at: > >> > > > >> > > >> / > >> > > . > >> > > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar > >> > > Chansky, Ph.D.( > >> > > http://www.worrywisekids.org ), Dan Geller, > >> > > M.D.,Aureen Pinto Wagner, > >> > > Ph.D., ( http://www.lighthouse-press.com ). Our > >> > > list moderators are > >> > > Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy > >> > > Hammes, Joye, > >> > > Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . > >> > > >> > > Subscription issues > >> > > or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, > >> > > list owner, at > >> > > louisharkins@y... , louisharkins@h... > >> > , > >> > > louisharkins@g... . > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2005 Report Share Posted December 11, 2005 , Maybe this desire to take a break from activities is not so unusual. My neurotypical child is a 15-year-old girl and after years of many different classes, soccer, actitities, etc... she too spent the last couple of years avoiding them. She did finally go to a couple of clubs on campus, but doesn't seem too involved. I'm not even sure she goes to the meetings anymore (one is an environmental club and another is the Key Club which is volunteering). Water aerobics would be awesome for your daughter!!!! Maybe if she commits say 3 or 6 months to water aerobics (you could even have her sign a " contract " commiting to a specified time period) then she could earn something special (maybe a special outing with mom! :-). But I do understand your frustration. On the other hand, I think, following through with commitments is an important lesson. Tess > > > > Thanks so much and Tess. > > Yes, throughout the years, I have had a in so > many things, I > > wouldn't know where to begin. All she had to do > was open her > mouth and > > I was on the phone asking about classes, etc. > Unfortunately, it > seems > > that after going about two weeks, she was done. > I mean, that was > it, > > she was not going back. So, ... she was then > again isolated. When > I > > would ask her why, she would say this person or > that person was > doing or > > saying something or the teacher was not nice and > she didn't like > her, > > but it was always the same thing. Some of these > activities were > not > > inexpensive. > > Now she is saying that she wants to go to the Y > and swim. I would > love > > to sign her up, but if she decides not to go after > a week or > so... This > > seems to be her pattern. > > I also explained to her that there were swimming > classes, which she > > doesn't need because she is a good swimmer, but > hey, whatever she > wants > > to do, and water aerobics, but she wants to just > " swim " . I'm not > trying > > to be unreasonable here, BUT first of all, you > cannot go to the Y > and > > just swim. I mean, at certain times there is lap > swimming, but > will she > > do it or just play around??? It is a very busy > pool with swim > teams, > > classes, etc., so I encouraged her to try the > water aerobics > class. She > > is not too enthralled about doing that, but I hate > to squelch her > idea. > > I have also encouraged her to join a club at > school. She tried Art > > Club, but now there is a girl in there that she is > no longer > friends > > with who also goes and she won't go anymoe. I > tell ya, it's > > exhausting... > > > > > > __ __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2005 Report Share Posted December 11, 2005 , Maybe this desire to take a break from activities is not so unusual. My neurotypical child is a 15-year-old girl and after years of many different classes, soccer, actitities, etc... she too spent the last couple of years avoiding them. She did finally go to a couple of clubs on campus, but doesn't seem too involved. I'm not even sure she goes to the meetings anymore (one is an environmental club and another is the Key Club which is volunteering). Water aerobics would be awesome for your daughter!!!! Maybe if she commits say 3 or 6 months to water aerobics (you could even have her sign a " contract " commiting to a specified time period) then she could earn something special (maybe a special outing with mom! :-). But I do understand your frustration. On the other hand, I think, following through with commitments is an important lesson. Tess > > > > Thanks so much and Tess. > > Yes, throughout the years, I have had a in so > many things, I > > wouldn't know where to begin. All she had to do > was open her > mouth and > > I was on the phone asking about classes, etc. > Unfortunately, it > seems > > that after going about two weeks, she was done. > I mean, that was > it, > > she was not going back. So, ... she was then > again isolated. When > I > > would ask her why, she would say this person or > that person was > doing or > > saying something or the teacher was not nice and > she didn't like > her, > > but it was always the same thing. Some of these > activities were > not > > inexpensive. > > Now she is saying that she wants to go to the Y > and swim. I would > love > > to sign her up, but if she decides not to go after > a week or > so... This > > seems to be her pattern. > > I also explained to her that there were swimming > classes, which she > > doesn't need because she is a good swimmer, but > hey, whatever she > wants > > to do, and water aerobics, but she wants to just > " swim " . I'm not > trying > > to be unreasonable here, BUT first of all, you > cannot go to the Y > and > > just swim. I mean, at certain times there is lap > swimming, but > will she > > do it or just play around??? It is a very busy > pool with swim > teams, > > classes, etc., so I encouraged her to try the > water aerobics > class. She > > is not too enthralled about doing that, but I hate > to squelch her > idea. > > I have also encouraged her to join a club at > school. She tried Art > > Club, but now there is a girl in there that she is > no longer > friends > > with who also goes and she won't go anymoe. I > tell ya, it's > > exhausting... > > > > > > __ __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2005 Report Share Posted December 11, 2005 On the lighter side . . . At his last visit with his psychiatrist, the doctor asked my 14 year old son if he belonged to any clubs. My son said he belonged to several, but one of them, SAA club, he doesn't bother to go to any of the meetings. . . SAA = Students Against Apathy Very funny - though neither the doctor nor I could drop to the floor laughing like we wanted to! And, no, I don't think he meant it to be funny. > > , > Maybe this desire to take a break from activities is > not so unusual. My neurotypical child is a 15-year-old > girl and after years of many different classes, > soccer, actitities, etc... she too spent the last > couple of years avoiding them. She did finally go to > a couple of clubs on campus, but doesn't seem too > involved. I'm not even sure she goes to the meetings > anymore (one is an environmental club and another is > the Key Club which is volunteering). > > Water aerobics would be awesome for your daughter!!!! > Maybe if she commits say 3 or 6 months to water > aerobics (you could even have her sign a " contract " > commiting to a specified time period) then she could > earn something special (maybe a special outing with > mom! :-). > > But I do understand your frustration. On the other > hand, I think, following through with commitments is > an important lesson. > > Tess > > > > > > > > Thanks so much and Tess. > > > Yes, throughout the years, I have had a in so > > many things, I > > > wouldn't know where to begin. All she had to do > > was open her > > mouth and > > > I was on the phone asking about classes, etc. > > Unfortunately, it > > seems > > > that after going about two weeks, she was done. > > I mean, that was > > it, > > > she was not going back. So, ... she was then > > again isolated. When > > I > > > would ask her why, she would say this person or > > that person was > > doing or > > > saying something or the teacher was not nice and > > she didn't like > > her, > > > but it was always the same thing. Some of these > > activities were > > not > > > inexpensive. > > > Now she is saying that she wants to go to the Y > > and swim. I would > > love > > > to sign her up, but if she decides not to go after > > a week or > > so... This > > > seems to be her pattern. > > > I also explained to her that there were swimming > > classes, which she > > > doesn't need because she is a good swimmer, but > > hey, whatever she > > wants > > > to do, and water aerobics, but she wants to just > > " swim " . I'm not > > trying > > > to be unreasonable here, BUT first of all, you > > cannot go to the Y > > and > > > just swim. I mean, at certain times there is lap > > swimming, but > > will she > > > do it or just play around??? It is a very busy > > pool with swim > > teams, > > > classes, etc., so I encouraged her to try the > > water aerobics > > class. She > > > is not too enthralled about doing that, but I hate > > to squelch her > > idea. > > > I have also encouraged her to join a club at > > school. She tried Art > > > Club, but now there is a girl in there that she is > > no longer > > friends > > > with who also goes and she won't go anymoe. I > > tell ya, it's > > > exhausting... > > > > > > > > > __ > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2005 Report Share Posted December 11, 2005 On the lighter side . . . At his last visit with his psychiatrist, the doctor asked my 14 year old son if he belonged to any clubs. My son said he belonged to several, but one of them, SAA club, he doesn't bother to go to any of the meetings. . . SAA = Students Against Apathy Very funny - though neither the doctor nor I could drop to the floor laughing like we wanted to! And, no, I don't think he meant it to be funny. > > , > Maybe this desire to take a break from activities is > not so unusual. My neurotypical child is a 15-year-old > girl and after years of many different classes, > soccer, actitities, etc... she too spent the last > couple of years avoiding them. She did finally go to > a couple of clubs on campus, but doesn't seem too > involved. I'm not even sure she goes to the meetings > anymore (one is an environmental club and another is > the Key Club which is volunteering). > > Water aerobics would be awesome for your daughter!!!! > Maybe if she commits say 3 or 6 months to water > aerobics (you could even have her sign a " contract " > commiting to a specified time period) then she could > earn something special (maybe a special outing with > mom! :-). > > But I do understand your frustration. On the other > hand, I think, following through with commitments is > an important lesson. > > Tess > > > > > > > > Thanks so much and Tess. > > > Yes, throughout the years, I have had a in so > > many things, I > > > wouldn't know where to begin. All she had to do > > was open her > > mouth and > > > I was on the phone asking about classes, etc. > > Unfortunately, it > > seems > > > that after going about two weeks, she was done. > > I mean, that was > > it, > > > she was not going back. So, ... she was then > > again isolated. When > > I > > > would ask her why, she would say this person or > > that person was > > doing or > > > saying something or the teacher was not nice and > > she didn't like > > her, > > > but it was always the same thing. Some of these > > activities were > > not > > > inexpensive. > > > Now she is saying that she wants to go to the Y > > and swim. I would > > love > > > to sign her up, but if she decides not to go after > > a week or > > so... This > > > seems to be her pattern. > > > I also explained to her that there were swimming > > classes, which she > > > doesn't need because she is a good swimmer, but > > hey, whatever she > > wants > > > to do, and water aerobics, but she wants to just > > " swim " . I'm not > > trying > > > to be unreasonable here, BUT first of all, you > > cannot go to the Y > > and > > > just swim. I mean, at certain times there is lap > > swimming, but > > will she > > > do it or just play around??? It is a very busy > > pool with swim > > teams, > > > classes, etc., so I encouraged her to try the > > water aerobics > > class. She > > > is not too enthralled about doing that, but I hate > > to squelch her > > idea. > > > I have also encouraged her to join a club at > > school. She tried Art > > > Club, but now there is a girl in there that she is > > no longer > > friends > > > with who also goes and she won't go anymoe. I > > tell ya, it's > > > exhausting... > > > > > > > > > __ > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2005 Report Share Posted December 18, 2005 We love you too girl.Good to see you back. Gail -----Original Message-----From: Hepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies [mailto:Hepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies ]On Behalf Of lizSent: December 17, 2005 8:04 PMHepatitis CSupportGroupForDummies Subject: friendsI love you all for caring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2006 Report Share Posted January 2, 2006 We Is Friends!Me And You Is Friends . You Smile, I Smile . You Hurt, I Hurt . You Cry, I Cry . You Jump Off A Bridge .. I Gonna Miss Your E-Mails ! for Good - Make a difference this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2006 Report Share Posted January 3, 2006 That is absolutely adorable.Thats what I like to see. Gail Fwd: Friends We Is Friends!Me And You Is Friends . You Smile, I Smile . You Hurt, I Hurt . You Cry, I Cry . You Jump Off A Bridge .. I Gonna Miss Your E-Mails ! for Good - Make a difference this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 Eleanor, My son, is 13. Zack has always been included and always had tons of friends. He used to get invited to birthday parties and such, but they are past that age now. What I see, is that when we would go out, his friends would come up to us and say " Mom, Dad, this is Zack. He is my friend. " and you could see the parents flinch. I would call to arrange play dates, and get " Yes, we really must do that sometime, I will call you. " But, no call ever came. Kids at school would beg to come over or have Zack come to their house, but when I told them to ask their parents, nothing ever came of it. In school, or out in public, Zack has friends all over. But, here at home, the phone never rings for him either. We have tried to work with the school, but they are not very receptive. And now he is old enough, that I don't get to see or talk to the other kids, except when they are running for the bus. His para says that he is very popular in school and at awards ceremonies and things, he always gets standing ovations and whoops and hollars from his friends. When you figure out the answer to this one, let me know. Sue -- mom to Zack, 13, DS, 2 ASD's, an VSD and a bad mitral valve; Matt, 12, 's Anomaly, Cataracts, Glaucoma, PDD, PFO, hearing loss; , forever four, DS, TOF, gtube, 04/20/96-12/31/00; Sami, 3, sensory issues, autistic tendencies, but so far doing great in regular preschool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2006 Report Share Posted January 13, 2006 I have to agree with Sue, most of the time it is not the kids but the parents. I even ran into this in Elementary school. It really is a shame. mom to Bridget 12 in SC soon to be MI Re: friends Eleanor, My son, is 13. Zack has always been included and always had tons of friends. He used to get invited to birthday parties and such, but they are past that age now. What I see, is that when we would go out, his friends would come up to us and say " Mom, Dad, this is Zack. He is my friend. " and you could see the parents flinch. I would call to arrange play dates, and get " Yes, we really must do that sometime, I will call you. " But, no call ever came. Kids at school would beg to come over or have Zack come to their house, but when I told them to ask their parents, nothing ever came of it. In school, or out in public, Zack has friends all over. But, here at home, the phone never rings for him either. We have tried to work with the school, but they are not very receptive. And now he is old enough, that I don't get to see or talk to the other kids, except when they are running for the bus. His para says that he is very popular in school and at awards ceremonies and things, he always gets standing ovations and whoops and hollars from his friends. When you figure out the answer to this one, let me know. Sue -- mom to Zack, 13, DS, 2 ASD's, an VSD and a bad mitral valve; Matt, 12, 's Anomaly, Cataracts, Glaucoma, PDD, PFO, hearing loss; , forever four, DS, TOF, gtube, 04/20/96-12/31/00; Sami, 3, sensory issues, autistic tendencies, but so far doing great in regular preschool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2006 Report Share Posted September 18, 2006 Note: forwarded message attached.Jan Want to be your own boss? Learn how on Small Business. Note: forwarded message attached. Want to be your own boss? Learn how on Small Business. Note: forwarded message attached. Want to be your own boss? Learn how on Small Business. Note: forwarded message attached. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.Always put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, tooThe happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanting; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5,6 KJ Why keep checking for Mail? The all-new shows you when there are new messages. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2007 Report Share Posted February 1, 2007 awesome Blessings R Friends Dropping in today to say I huffed and puffed 40 breaths away! Also had my medical procedure accomplished after all this time and the Doctor says it looks good, come back in 4 weeks. Love ya, Virginia __________________________________________________________ We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love (and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. http://tv./collections/265 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.