RE: Re: Have you heard this one yet?

June 1, 2006

I have to totally agree with this thread. I find it really frustrating

sometimes that because my son looks just like your average 5 year old that

people tell me that his problems are a result of my mothering him too much.

He has just started getting a few invites to birthday parties and when he goes

he wants me to stay with him. His communication skills are quite poor and he

has a very poor sense of direction, not to mention finding the whole, 25 crazy

boys running wild, thing a little overwhelming. I am constantly told that I

need to " cut the apron strings " .

People are also forever telling me that there is nothing wrong with my son.

He's just a little shy and he'll grow out of it!

The other thing that really upsets me is when friends who have children the same

age as my son go on and on about how wonderfully their kids are doing socially

and academically. Like " little what's his name is now reading at a level that's

twice his age " and " Little joe thingy is such social butterfly he has so many

friends wanting to spend time with him it's hard to fit them all in " It might

sound selfish but I don't need that rubbed in my face when here I am still

trying to toilet train my 5 year old.

Beck

( ) Re: Have you heard this one yet?

It's like High School all over again. All the moms are on the corner

from the school in the morning dressed in their workout clothes and with

their hair in buns, ready to walk a mile together after dropping off

their kids. Talking about little league and girl scouts. My

conversation with them would be about IEPs and Therapy sessions and home

programs taught to me by the OT, which they wouldn't know anything

about. So here I am again, on the outside looking in

>

> " Its YOUR fault the kid's screwed up!! "

>

> Ahhhh, don't you just love it? After helping our kids day in and day

> out, of course we HAVE to, they are ours right and we love them no

> matter what,.. then you get some stupid comment thrown at you like

> the one above.

> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

> My point here is, or my main question to you all is, do you feel as

> though you as a parent, are " different " from other parents around

> you, due to the special child you are raising? Do you feel as

> though " you " fit in with other parents, like at a PTA meeting or

> something? I know that I don't, I have a different perspective on

> things than other parents do. I see things in terms of how hard they

> might be, for my daughter to adjust to, or for her to even accept.

> This kind of thing worries me constantly, I am always on my toes to

> keep an eye out to make sure things are smooth transitions for her

> due to her special needs. Example: first club she ever joined and

> stuck with for a whole school year, they had a 4 day trip, a long way

> on a bus each way too. Other parents let their kids go alone. I went

> along as a chaperone, so I could keep an eye on my own child better,

> because I knew her ways better than the other adults along, who btw,

> had non-special need kids. I kept my distance from my child the whole

> time on the trip, so she felt she was there on her own (a growing up

> thing). Then one parent had the audacity to turn to me once, and

> say " You know, you are going to have to let her grow up some day. " I

> just stared at this woman, and kept my thoughts to myself, realizing

> she didn't even have a clue (or probably care to), as to what special

> need children were all about. Anyways, to make a too long story

> shorter, yeap, I feel different from other parents, due to raising a

> special needs child. How about the rest of you?

>

June 1, 2006

Oh I get so tired of this. " I baby her " . " I let her do whatever she

wants " .... " she LOOKS normal " ..and they say this stuff in front of her. I get so

aggravated.