Re: Just finding out my son age20 has Aspergers

[Guest guest]

Please try not to feel bad. My boys are 17 almost 18 and we didn't find out til

they were 16 that they had aspergers and all the other issues

(anxiety,depression,OCD). If your son is like mine he will be relieved to " know "

why he behaves like he does. My boys went to wikipedia as soon as we got the

diagnosis and took it to show their friends and some teachers. They are kinda

proud now that they have aspergers.I felt like a horrible mother that my kids

were suffering this way and *I* didn't know it. But, my boys were high

functioning enough to muddle through until about 6th grade when things went

downhill. Puberty, hormones, and aspergers hit us like a ton of bricks and they

went downhill in a hurry. Now we have one on meds and the other is not and they

are both doing better. Now that you have a name for it you can do like you are

and start researching and get him some help if he needs it.. Read all these

posts and ask any questions you have. We have alot of moms and dads with all

different aged kids on here and you can get alot of questions answered right

here. Toni

( ) Just finding out my son age20 has Aspergers

Feel so bad i didnt catch it sooner, as I have memories of him

stuggling with other kids, knowing there is something not right, and

now hes 20.....I finally find out there is a name for it...I haven't

even told Him(my son) yet...please write me

[Guest guest]

Don't feel bad ~

Most of us have been there.

What counts is not what you did in the past, but what you can do from

today on;>

If he has many struggles, and is aware of them, perfect time to tell

him why and how you both can work together to help him out.

I too can look back and see things very clearly. I just found out at

35, I am an Aspie and I just turned 37.

keep posting.

Lots of information and great advice!!

*smiles*

B

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> Feel so bad i didnt catch it sooner, as I have memories of him

> stuggling with other kids, knowing there is something not right, and

> now hes 20.....I finally find out there is a name for it...I haven't

> even told Him(my son) yet...please write me

>

[Guest guest]

Tell him. It might be a relief to him to realize this. Get information and get

informed. If he is willing to learn skills he is lacking, help him find a

therapist to work on social skills or any job skills he may need. Also, let

yourself off the hook. If you had known sooner, you would have done more. But

we can't fault ourselves for not knowing something unless we are ignoring or

avoiding the knowledge. And I bet you didn't do that. So you can only go from

here and do your best.

Roxanna

( ) Just finding out my son age20 has Aspergers

Feel so bad i didnt catch it sooner, as I have memories of him

stuggling with other kids, knowing there is something not right, and

now hes 20.....I finally find out there is a name for it...I haven't

even told Him(my son) yet...please write me

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