Re: 17 yr old defiance, THE END

[Guest guest]

Ditto to what I just said, but didn't read your post yet. Sorry

about adding more tonight (oops)

But I am done on this thread:)

Thanks a bunch!

I had a lot to talk about at my ToastMaters meeting so I considered

it good material to discuss

*grin*

lisa b

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> Rick,

> it is nice that you are doing so well.

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> First, I want to dispel the myth that there are all sorts of

supports and programs out there just waiting for us parents to knock

on the door and ask. There are pitifully few out there and of

those, the price is huge. Nothing is free except subscribing to a

group and having friends to support you. That you get for

free.

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> There are no programs for either of my boys - one is 9, the other

almost 18. Last I looked, OT and ST and PT are all to be paid by

the parents because insurance many times excludes coverage for

people with autism. Ours does. Until we can pass insurance parity

for mental health and pervasive developmental disorders, we are

pretty screwed here. The amount of therapy and quality given at

school is not always the same or worthwhile.

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> There are no free social groups either. Just getting the school

counselor to look at an agenda for a social skill group is

difficult. Then you have someone not even trained helping kids who

have no clue. To get in a social group, it costs money. People pay

or they do without.

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> I think people see that we have a supposed " support system " in

place - like an MR/DD, which is our state's way of dealing with

disabilities - and they believe that help exists and is provided.

They have no clue that this is not the case. Services are few,

money is tight, administration is top heavy. They are not standing

around waiting for us to show up and ask for help. They are finding

ways to get rid of us so they can take care of the people who are

more severely disabled.

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> Now, having said that, I think we have totally exhausted this

subject. Luckily, parents can do whatever they want with their kids

and if they choose to keep them home, they can. For whatever

reason. And that's ok. Making choices is ok.

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> THE END. Let's try a new topic everyone!!!

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> Roxanna

> Re: ( ) Re: 17 yr old defiance, or

Mothers Who Spoil

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> In the United States, Canada, and most first-world countries

there are

> plenty of resources for helping parents who have Asperger

children.

> Frequently, there are things like support groups, which are

usually

> free. And indeed, for children with Asperger's, the most

important

> resource is knowledge and information, which can be obtained

cheaply

> or even freely.

>

> When you are dealing with an Asperger's adult, if he or she

wants to

> make it in this world, you should support him. At the age of

> forty-one, shortly after my diagnosis, I moved back in with my

> parents, and my parents are willing to help me because they know

that

> I am a responsible individual. I don't come home stoned and

violent

> and attribute it to Asperger's. There are many days (and nights)

which

> are hard for me, but I don't use that as an excuse to give other

> people grief.

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> Rick

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