Re: New from Arkansas

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Hi, I am in Arkansas also and I am taking my Jayke to get tested for AS soon. I

have to go to Fayetteville because there isn't anything close to here.

Where did you go to have your son tested? What did they do to test him? Iam

really nervous about it all.

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Peace and Love and Hopefully a Nap, Felicia

---- happybrats3@... wrote:

> Hi all, I am Tracey from Arkansas. Pics here,

> _http://www.picturetrail.com/dtjrshockey_

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>

> My 6 year old son just dx with Asperger's. He has been dx with ADHD for 2

> years now.

>

> We have the obsessions with numbers, and the meltdowns, which " dear " (and I

> use that term lightly) ex-hubby deems it just " being spoiled " . He has been

> in denial for years but I always knew it was more than ADHD. Horrible

> clumsiness, sports is torture, and the not normal conversations like, " hi my

name is

> Jake and my mom is 32. " I am actually 38 but have him convinced I am 32.

>

> Our appt with the psych Tuesday confirmed Asp, and in fact, I brought it up

> to the psych when we first met. LOL...the power of the internet for info.

> It was very fun to watch ex-hubby squirm as the psych and me talked. " Gosh,

> you think I may have been right all these years? " I wanted to say to him so

> bad!! This is the reason we divorced, his treatment towards Jake.

>

> So I am doing more research and printing it up for the ex to have.

> HOPEFULLY he will embrace this and not blame Jake so much for being a " brat. "

He

> needs to know there is definite reasoning behind all the things he does. I

> believe the psych appt. really helped with that.

>

> We have ongoing meetings so I am hopeful my ex will really step up now.

> Moms' always " just know " when something is not right.

>

> Just wanted to say hi!

>

>

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LOL....it is so hysterical to me but ex hubby hates it. I have the kids

convinced he is 43 and he's only 40. You have to have humor with these kids

you

know? LOL!!!!!

Jake told me last night that I am size 10. You can bet I hugged him to

death and told him thank you! I am so far away from being a size 10.

He is obsessed with infomercials and the Nutrisystem commercials. " Any diet

that lets me have chocolate is the diet for me, " he repeats constantly. Oh

and I absolutly need the bedazzler and Kaboom he says.

Just gotta have a sense of humor.

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<<and the not normal conversations like, " hi my name is

Jake and my mom is 32. " I am actually 38 but have him convinced I am 32.

>>

Welcome Tracey! I am impressed! How did you get him to believe the lower age?

My ds, 10 yo, still announces my age and adds months on. <g> Feel free to

join in the conversation whenever you like!

Roxanna

( ) New from Arkansas

Hi all, I am Tracey from Arkansas. Pics here,

_http://www.picturetrail.com/dtjrshockey_

(http://www.picturetrail.com/dtjrshockey)

My 6 year old son just dx with Asperger's. He has been dx with ADHD for 2

years now.

We have the obsessions with numbers, and the meltdowns, which " dear " (and I

use that term lightly) ex-hubby deems it just " being spoiled " . He has been

in denial for years but I always knew it was more than ADHD. Horrible

clumsiness, sports is torture, and the not normal conversations like, " hi my

name is

Jake and my mom is 32. " I am actually 38 but have him convinced I am 32.

Our appt with the psych Tuesday confirmed Asp, and in fact, I brought it up

to the psych when we first met. LOL...the power of the internet for info.

It was very fun to watch ex-hubby squirm as the psych and me talked. " Gosh,

you think I may have been right all these years? " I wanted to say to him so

bad!! This is the reason we divorced, his treatment towards Jake.

So I am doing more research and printing it up for the ex to have.

HOPEFULLY he will embrace this and not blame Jake so much for being a " brat. "

He

needs to know there is definite reasoning behind all the things he does. I

believe the psych appt. really helped with that.

We have ongoing meetings so I am hopeful my ex will really step up now.

Moms' always " just know " when something is not right.

Just wanted to say hi!

Tracey Shockey _ Pictures!!_ (http://www.picturetrail.com/dtjrshockey)

New pics!

_Mia Bella_ (http://www.burningandearning.com/) Why not enjoy THE best

candles?

_Shaklee_ (http://www.shaklee.net/traceyshockey) Isn't it time to just feel

better?

_AWESOME tart burners_

(http://www.wbwholesale.com/cgi-bin/affiliates/clickthru.cgi?id=happybrats3)

[Guest guest]

I spent the last few years in depression over this whole issue. Hubby was a

jerk to Jake, I had to step in between them a lot and it was horrible. I

tried for years to convince him he was wrong in treating Jake the way he does.

Jake is different and it's not anybody's fault, it's the way God wired him!

Hubby is perfect and believed in STRICT discipline and had no clue Jake was

different. He just thought he was a brat.

I got books, printed things off the internet, and gave him those to read.

The last year he has softened a bit, but it was too late. I started working

at home, making my own money, as I knew it was over and I was done. My job as

a mother is to protect my children and it's sad but I felt I had to protect

Jake from his dad. Not physical, just emotional.

Sometimes I over protected Jake but that's normal, I am still VERY

protective of him.

I left hubby back in April, I was DONE, it was OVER. Jake came first no

matter what and I knew I had to get him out of the negative environment and

soon. I could not take hubby's constant belittling of me or Jake anymore.

He never acted this way with our daughter, she is 3. She is the apple of

his eye and can do no wrong.

Ex-hubby has control issues that he refuses to admit. My family has seen it

and my mother refused to visit anymore. If she did, she stayed in hotel so

she wouldn;t have to see the ex. She was afraid she would let him have it!

I am now on my own in our own house. Ex has really tried to be nice now

that he realizes there really is something to what I have been telling him for

so long. He has never apologized but then again he won't. He spends more

time with Jake now than he ever has and they are slowly building the

relationship back up. Ex now listens to me when I tell him things about Jake.

It has been a long road and I have sacrificed a lot, but that's what moms

do. I live in a town where I have no friends or family, small town too. We

moved here for ex's job so all of our friends were through his job. Thus, I

left and it made it hard for them and I never see them anymore. My family is 4

hours away.

I stayed here so the kids could be by their dad and in doing so I have no

life. But that's okay as I have seen positive results with Jake with this

whole situation. There is no more tension and stress, we have the Asp dx, ex

has realized I was right, and I am okay with all of that.

It is lonely at times, but I am very independant and don't normally need

other's around me.

It's not easy but I have made a commitment to make it work as long as the

kids benefit.

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[Guest guest]

Hi Tracey,

Welcome to the group.

Congrats on a diagnosis. It is frustrating waiting years for the

right diagnosis, so it is encouraging to hear something positive out

of the whole process.

I am married and my husband totally does not get his kids (or me for

that matter) he wants out, and I don't blame him. My boys (3) are

diagnosed with A.S. and last year I was too.

The sad thing is, he just doesn't care if we are married, and he

can't stand (HIS words) two of his kids. The drive him nuts, and he

hates being around them.

I wish he could understand us. I also wish he could just decide and

not leave me hanging on to what shred of thought I have that we can

stay married. I want things to work and I want him to be good with

his kids, and to me for that matter. But I think he just doesn't

care any more.

I have gone through depression and anxiety attacks A LOT in the last

13 or so years, but I have been feeling better (well, until recently)

I guess it is an issue with change. I don't like it and don't want

it.

I hope your work helps you a lot. It will be fun chatting with you,

when I can. I am so scared of being alone, and I am so frustrated at

being so scared.

It will be nice reading posts from a Mom " that knows "

*smiles*

lisa

>

> Hi all, I am Tracey from Arkansas. Pics here,

> _http://www.picturetrail.com/dtjrshockey_

(http://www.picturetrail.com/dtjrshockey)

>

> My 6 year old son just dx with Asperger's. He has been dx with

ADHD for 2

> years now.

>

> We have the obsessions with numbers, and the meltdowns,

which " dear " (and I

> use that term lightly) ex-hubby deems it just " being spoiled " .

He has been

> in denial for years but I always knew it was more than ADHD.

Horrible

> clumsiness, sports is torture, and the not normal conversations

like, " hi my name is

> Jake and my mom is 32. " I am actually 38 but have him convinced

I am 32.

>

> Our appt with the psych Tuesday confirmed Asp, and in fact, I

brought it up

> to the psych when we first met. LOL...the power of the internet

for info.

> It was very fun to watch ex-hubby squirm as the psych and me

talked. " Gosh,

> you think I may have been right all these years? " I wanted to say

to him so

> bad!! This is the reason we divorced, his treatment towards Jake.

>

> So I am doing more research and printing it up for the ex to

have.

> HOPEFULLY he will embrace this and not blame Jake so much for

being a " brat. " He

> needs to know there is definite reasoning behind all the things

he does. I

> believe the psych appt. really helped with that.

>

> We have ongoing meetings so I am hopeful my ex will really step

up now.

> Moms' always " just know " when something is not right.

>

> Just wanted to say hi!

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Tracey,

That is so funny - I better start working on my " age " now in case my

son does that too. I just turned 35, but my oldest child is only 5.5

so I have most of the people in my neighborhood convinced I'm under 30.

[Guest guest]

Under 30? UNDER THIRTY??? Some of us on this list are, um... quite a

bit older than that. Would you believe... thirty-one? Try 53! I tell

my son I am 26, but given than my daughter is about to turn 24, he

doesn't believe me. He just dissolves into laughter. sigh. Then I try

the " old age deserves respect " routine, and he laughs maniacally.

sigh again.

Liz

On Nov 6, 2006, at 10:28 PM, kaityplusone wrote:

> Hi Tracey,

>

> That is so funny - I better start working on my " age " now in case my

> son does that too. I just turned 35, but my oldest child is only 5.5

> so I have most of the people in my neighborhood convinced I'm under

> 30.

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I had the experience of being asked if I was my son's grandmother not

too long ago ... OK, so I'm 48 and he's 8, but I'm thinking of visiting

the hair dye section at HEB on my next shopping trip!

Anita

> Under 30? UNDER THIRTY??? Some of us on this list are, um... quite a

bit older than that. Would you believe... thirty-one? Try 53! I tell

my son I am 26, but given than my daughter is about to turn 24, he

doesn't believe me. He just dissolves into laughter. sigh. Then I try

the " old age deserves respect " routine, and he laughs maniacally.

sigh again.

> Liz

>

[Guest guest]

Sounds a lot like my son. He always wants to play tag (at age 12).

Told him I was too old and fat to which he replied " Nope, you're middle

and medium. " First time I liked the autism honesty! :-)

Tonya

Re: ( ) New from Arkansas

Under 30? UNDER THIRTY??? Some of us on this list are, um... quite a

bit older than that. Would you believe... thirty-one? Try 53! I tell

my son I am 26, but given than my daughter is about to turn 24, he

doesn't believe me. He just dissolves into laughter. sigh. Then I try

the " old age deserves respect " routine, and he laughs maniacally.

sigh again.

Liz

On Nov 6, 2006, at 10:28 PM, kaityplusone wrote:

> Hi Tracey,

>

> That is so funny - I better start working on my " age " now in case my

> son does that too. I just turned 35, but my oldest child is only 5.5

> so I have most of the people in my neighborhood convinced I'm under

> 30.

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

We went to the Child Studies center at Children's Hospital in Little Rock.

A psych talked with us and Jake and that was basically it.

We were excited about it, took us 7 months to get it! We were just excited

to finally (hopefully) get a dx. When he brought up Asp it was like a

lightbulb! The doctor and I talked about it and it fit so perfect.

It was a very good experience for us.

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New pics!

_Mia Bella_ (http://www.burningandearning.com/) Why not enjoy THE best

candles?

_Shaklee_ (http://www.shaklee.net/traceyshockey) Isn't it time to just

feel better?

_AWESOME tart burners_

(http://www.wbwholesale.com/cgi-bin/affiliates/clickthru.cgi?id=happybrats3)

[Guest guest]

I'm glad you weren't offended by the whole "mad woman" thing. Everytime you post you went to Curves I think about you moving your franny about like you just don't care! LOL You really are my hero. Blessed be,

[Guest guest]

Welcome Daisy.. I am new too.

Mandy

New from Arkansas

Just thought I would introduce myself. I am married, 46, have dd10, and need to loose about 130. I am discouraged, but if I give up, then I know I will never succeed in being healthy. I have been watching some tv shows about the morbidly obese, which I am one of, and it scares the heck out of me. I have a treadmill and can walk on it for about 15 minutes each session. I am very addicted to foods rich in sugar and salt. I haven't met a carb I do not like :(daisy

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In a message dated 12/4/2006 2:40:06 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, daisy_93637@... writes:

Just thought I would introduce myself. I am married, 46, have dd10, and need to loose about 130. I am discouraged, but if I give up, then I know I will never succeed in being healthy. I have been watching some tv shows about the morbidly obese, which I am one of, and it scares the heck out of me. I have a treadmill and can walk on it for about 15 minutes each session. I am very addicted to foods rich in sugar and salt. I haven't met a carb I do not like

Hi Daisy - welcome to our group!! I am , 39 single mom of 3 boys (10, 12 and 14)... I started at 310 and have lost 31 lbs... I have probably another 100-110 lbs to lose... Don't look at the big picture it can be very discouraging. Just take it in 5, 10, 15 lb increments and get it off one lb at a time. Great job walking on the treadmill! 15 minutes *is* 15 minutes!! Do you do that one time a day, or more frequently (like 2-3 times a day?) Are you following WW, food mover, or some other plan?

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Thanks . Today has been a bad day. I have had a puky migrane all day. All I have eaten is a banana and a few graham crackers. Most of the pain is gone, but there is still a lot of pressure. Tomorrow will be better daisy ABrite@... wrote: like Hi Daisy - welcome to our group!! I am , 39 single mom of 3 boys (10, 12 and 14)... I started at 310 and have lost 31 lbs... I have probably another 100-110 lbs to lose... Don't look at the big picture it can be very discouraging. Just take it in 5, 10, 15 lb increments and get it

off one lb at a time. Great job walking on the treadmill! 15 minutes *is* 15 minutes!! Do you do that one time a day, or more frequently (like 2-3 times a day?) Are you following WW, food mover, or some other plan?

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Thanks for all the encouragement. daisySue in NJ <sparticles@...> wrote: > and need to loose about 130. I am discouraged, but if I give up, then > I know I will never succeed in being healthy. You can be healthier even if the scale doesn't drop a pound! Make better food choices - add more fruits and veggies to your daily meal plans; chose more whole grains insteat of white sugar, white flour, white rice; drink more water and less sodas. Exercise more - just

add 15 of cardio a week until you can sustain a steady hour of it; add weight training/toning to build muscle to increase your metabolism and ensure more strength for the little things you do every day, like carrying loads of laundry or little kids and opening pickle jars. Do some yoga and tai chi to not only strengthen your body but center your mind. Meditate, get a hobby, do fun things - life is good, celebrate it! I have been watching > some tv shows about the morbidly obese, which I am one of, and it > scares the heck out of me. Stop watching those shows! And don't read all those "obesity epidemic" reports on-line or the newspapers, too. If you read how the "researchers" pick and choose what

date and what results they want to make public you'll find that in actuality, women who were overweight were in better health than average weight men and underweight women! Many of the studies don't take into account activity levels, age, family history of diseases, *real* weights (Most of the weights given to the researchers are self-reported by the participants), or even actual cause of death. If a 250 pound woman gets hit by a car crossing the street her death is *still* attributed to obesity in some way. They'll call it "obesity and heart failure," or something like that, instead of "heart failure brought on by exsanguination (loss of blood) caused by excessive trauma." > I have a treadmill and can walk on it for > about 15 minutes each session. That's

good! So 3 to 5 times a week do that 15 minute walk. In a few weeks, when 15 minutes passes and you feel like walking more, add 5 minutes to each session. The next week add a 4th day, and so on. And like I mentioned above, add some light weight work to build up your muscles and increase toning. >I am very addicted to foods rich in > sugar and salt. I haven't met a carb I do not like That's the way the human body was designed. Our primary source of fuel are carbs. Our brains are wired to seek out and crave carbs. It's no joke that sugar is like cocaine to the brain. Our tongues have more tastebuds for sweets than any other flavor. Deprive the brain of carbs and our thought processes slow; deprive the body itself of carbs and it starts burning muscle before it starts burning fat. The

secret is to give the body the *good* carbs it needs and deserves - fruits, whole grains, stuff like that, instead of the fast-burning things like sugar and white flour. The more natural state it's in, the more fiber it has, so the slower it metabolizes. Have your cake, but use banana or applesauce as the sweetener and use whole wheat pastry flour for some of the flour in the recipe. Heck, even King Arthur, the big name in flour, has a whole grain baking cook-book they just released! Sue in NJ It's scary when you start making the same noises as your coffee maker.

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