Guest guest Posted December 3, 2006 Report Share Posted December 3, 2006 Hello, I'm so sorry your son has to go through this because the school staff is not familiar with his classification and what his needs are. I found out, for my own concerns, when the school wont listen to me. I just kept repeating it, writing notes in his journal, asking for a meeting with all teachers until they got tired of me repeating myself and they tested him to find out " I was right " !!!. I also taught my son to ask for help(not easy). explain his strengths to him and weak areas. and told him to ask for help too. (which he now does). put your questions in writing to them. Ask to see the new goals you have for your child...And you want progress reports on how he is doing with these new goals...(even if you know they didn't start it). as soon as your told your son had a melt down. Ask...what happened just before the melt down? during the melt down? and how they handled his melt down?... as far as your child throwing desk, tables, books. would he normally do this for no reason? no triggers? what could cause your child to do this. did he not understand what the teacher wants him to do? then she was/showed she was upset with him for not doing it, causing him to get angry and have a melt down? Have you considered volunteering in your child's classroom so you can see whats going on and let the teacher know he is going to have a melt down and explain to her what she can do to prevent it? these are just some ideas, I went through this in first and second grade. I hope you will get good ideas when others respond. I hope your son gets the right help he needs and has better days in school. Hugs to you and your child. aka_andreaa27 <andreaa27@...> wrote: We have our IEP this week and I am dreading it!! Currently my son is in a ai/ei room and is classified as ei on his iep. Last yr. goals were not established for him due to his new classification and they were going to make goals 30 days after he was in the new classroom. Needless to say... it never happened. Personally, I think the school thinks my son acts out for attention. They do not see it as a frustration or as a way to avoid something he does not want to do. So I need to change the way the school thinks... any suggestions on this. Have any of you been in a similar situation? At home my son has had very limited melt-downs but they continue at school,(usually with writing). I talked to an education specialist and she said to try and get the school to provide a scribe for such incidents (journal, writing a story, etc) I am considering not allowing them to restrain my son either. But when he is throwing desks, shoes, books... what can they do? I know the correct way to handle would be to not allow him to get that frustrated or watch for his clues, but I am not sure the adults in his class are able to do this. Is it so much to ask for them to work with me to get him to a place where he can be successful without the melt-downs........... Sorry for the rant, trying not to feel helpless --------------------------------- Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 3, 2006 Report Share Posted December 3, 2006 On Behalf Of aka_andreaa27 >>I need to change the way the school thinks... any suggestions on this. This is going to be tough to do. You can try educating them about your son's diagnosis, but m experience has been that they don't always listen. Some do, but the majority of the staff don't. >>At home my son has had very limited melt-downs but they continue at school,(usually with writing). I talked to an education specialist and she said to try and get the school to provide a scribe for such incidents (journal, writing a story, etc) Handwriting difficulties would be addressed by an occupational therapist and possibly assistive technology. >>I am considering not allowing them to restrain my son either. But when he is throwing desks, shoes, books... what can they do? I know the correct way to handle would be to not allow him to get that frustrated or watch for his clues, but I am not sure the adults in his class are able to do this. Some schools will call the police in instances like this. Throwing desks is much more serious and dangerous than shoes and books. All of it sounds like a sign of frustration. If it was my son, I'd ask for a functional behavioral assessment (FBA). In a nut shell, someone will watch your son and make a guess as to what is triggering the behavior then along with the IEP team write up a behavior intervention plan (BIP). You should be involved in writing the BIP and it needs to be positive motivation, not punitive. A good website that goes into detail on this is http://cecp.air.org/fba/default.asp >>Is it so much to ask for them to work with me to get him to a place where he can be successful without the melt-downs........... No this isn't too much to ask for, but will take time to bring about. Take care, Tonya Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 3, 2006 Report Share Posted December 3, 2006 I would request an FBA (Functional Behavior Assessment) _Functional Behavioral Assessment_ (http://cecp.air.org/fba/default.asp) in writing. Also, you want a positive behavior plan to be the final product. A plan that everyone working with your son follows consistently. If the staff is trained in CPI (Certified Physical Intervention) putting hands on the child shouldn't be the first step in the process. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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