Guest guest Posted December 7, 2006 Report Share Posted December 7, 2006 You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2006 Report Share Posted December 7, 2006 I know what you mean, my son's school wouldn't call me unless my son was dying... I asked them to and asked them to, and they refused, they just decided to scream at him, threaten him, call the cops, anthing but call his mom who lives right down the road and is willing to come at any time. We are pretty poor as well, I am a single mom, but he is my only child. I do work with developmentally disabled adults, but it doesn't pay much more than minimum wage.... but it's a great job! I am homeschooling him now, and it's wonderful.... he likes learning much better this way. It's a great bonding experience for both of us!! Good luck!! Tami Re: ( ) Public Schools Tick Me OFF You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2006 Report Share Posted December 7, 2006 I think it will be better for us I was planning on home schooling my aspie Son anyhow, because he isnt ready to function in large groups, is ODD so they dont realise that she is getting exactly what she wants out of this, she does it at school they dont call me she gets all the attention and we look like crappy parents! just because we are poor doesnt give the public schools right to assume we dont care at all!, gets what she wants then does they same thing at home and cant figure out why it doesnt work here its just to much trouble when you have special child, public school care less about the " Special " child all they want is to take a " special " child and try and force them to mould into the average child and blame the parents when it doesnt work i really see the world going back to the old, " refirgerator mom " outlook just like last time my son was in the Hospital they told me to try attachment therapy or what ever, and omg I read some stuff that turned my stomach and would be abuse if any average parent tried that same thing but give a person a lable and its helping a child, just Like s School has a small closet they can lock children in when they have melt downs, and just leave them there tiil they are quiet, if a parent does that its neglect and abuse ... Tami Ober <nyx@...> wrote: I know what you mean, my son's school wouldn't call me unless my son was dying... I asked them to and asked them to, and they refused, they just decided to scream at him, threaten him, call the cops, anthing but call his mom who lives right down the road and is willing to come at any time. We are pretty poor as well, I am a single mom, but he is my only child. I do work with developmentally disabled adults, but it doesn't pay much more than minimum wage.... but it's a great job! I am homeschooling him now, and it's wonderful.... he likes learning much better this way. It's a great bonding experience for both of us!! Good luck!! Tami Re: ( ) Public Schools Tick Me OFF You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 Thanks to everyone for thier replies! He was afraid to go to school today. So, I kept him home. Something had to trigger this and I sent teacher a note. I have found that when I can't get any action from the school or district...I go straight to the State of Florida Dept of Ed...it's amazing how fast things get taken care of when I do. I am so fed up at times with the school system. The principal told me yesterday on the phone that my child is no differnet than any other child even though he has a disability..so now I see exactly what I am dealing with. I wish I could home school, unfortunatly, I myself am on disability also. I do not think I could handle the stress of doing that. In response to Dianne, How unreal! So, she would " fit in " I can't afford brand name clothing for my son either. He does go to a public uniform school. Sometimes I buy his clothing at a thrift store. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. We do the best we can. Our children are clean and should not be judged on thier clothing. If they wanted to do that they should have asked if you were ok with the donation, I would have gladly accepted if they would ask first, but it would be a slap in my face if they did not. If your child, in thier opinion " smelled " they should have talked to you about it first. In an APPORPRIATE manner. I would complain to the district or your state. I have problems getting pants to fit my son. He is big and wears a 14/16, however, the legs of the pants are so long on him. I don't sew. The weather is getting cold here in the sunshine state. I am going to send him in sweatpants in the approriate color. If they want him in dress pants I would be happy to accept donations of hemed pants...lol My son has one pair of pants. I wash them daily!(the sweats are so much cheaper than the dress ones). I am one to follow rules, do the right things. But, darn it, I am just burned out and fed up! Glad to hear that homeschooling is working out great for you all! Best Wishes, > Hello to all! > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't > understand teasing...and flips. > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed > to esculate?? > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based > for helping with social skills. > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > Is my thinking off? > > Best Wishes to all, > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > --------------------------------- > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 We had a bad time when our son was in kindergarten. Behavior problems were awful, the school suspended him for 5 days early in the school year and then were preparing to suspend him again in the spring when we withdrew him to homeschool. It's been a challenge but we believe he is doing so much better than if we'd left him in school. Marty At Thu Dec 7, 2006 10:17 pm, " Tami Ober " nyx@... wrote: >I know what you mean, my son's school wouldn't call me unless my son >was dying... I asked them to and asked them to, and they refused, >they just decided to scream at him, threaten him, call the cops, >anthing but call his mom who lives right down the road and is >willing to come at any time. We are pretty poor as well, I am a >single mom, but he is my only child. I do work with developmentally >disabled adults, but it doesn't pay much more than minimum wage.... >but it's a great job! I am homeschooling him now, and it's >wonderful.... he likes learning much better this way. It's a great >bonding experience for both of us!! -- Asperger's/High Functioning Autism Homeschooler's discussion list as-hfa-homeschool/ Webmaster's Bulletin Board - http://bbs.face2interface.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 My daughter is only 5 but she has always smelled. It did not matter if she had just taken a bath. Now we are chelating and she smells even worse (all the toxins coming out). I can only give her a bath twice a week do to our schedule but she uses wipes everytime she uses the bathroom at home. No one has said anything but I am sure they will next year. For the public school, I had to sign a contract stating my child would be clean and groomed daily (contract for all children). I can understand obvious issues of children arriving in dirty clothes and hair that looks like it never has been combed. I wish you luck. Jen > > Hello to all! > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > if > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > stomped > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > can't > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > to > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > allowed > > to esculate?? > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > trained > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > based > > for helping with social skills. > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > and I > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > Is my thinking off? > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > --------------------------------- > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > your question on Answers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 Your so right and what makes it worse is that has ODD,and anyone who knows this disorder knows these children gain power from head games I adore dont get me wrong but she lives for mind games and control, its built into her i suppose, but its in her file at school she has this , now if her dang resource teacher is so smart why doesnt she see she is being out smarted by my 7 yr old. is going potty on her self at school because she knows it gains her attention, she can tell the school she didnt do it at school , and poof the school blames the parent, s also been known to go and tell the school she was out of medication, thisa kids never gone without meds other wise id go insane! , if they had called and spoken to me I could have told them right away, my has pulled one over on you. I dont like that she doesn this but from what I have read there isnt a lot to prevent it i have read so many stories of children doing the same things she is.! *sigh* ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Thanks to everyone for thier replies! He was afraid to go to school today. So, I kept him home. Something had to trigger this and I sent teacher a note. I have found that when I can't get any action from the school or district...I go straight to the State of Florida Dept of Ed...it's amazing how fast things get taken care of when I do. I am so fed up at times with the school system. The principal told me yesterday on the phone that my child is no differnet than any other child even though he has a disability..so now I see exactly what I am dealing with. I wish I could home school, unfortunatly, I myself am on disability also. I do not think I could handle the stress of doing that. In response to Dianne, How unreal! So, she would " fit in " I can't afford brand name clothing for my son either. He does go to a public uniform school. Sometimes I buy his clothing at a thrift store. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. We do the best we can. Our children are clean and should not be judged on thier clothing. If they wanted to do that they should have asked if you were ok with the donation, I would have gladly accepted if they would ask first, but it would be a slap in my face if they did not. If your child, in thier opinion " smelled " they should have talked to you about it first. In an APPORPRIATE manner. I would complain to the district or your state. I have problems getting pants to fit my son. He is big and wears a 14/16, however, the legs of the pants are so long on him. I don't sew. The weather is getting cold here in the sunshine state. I am going to send him in sweatpants in the approriate color. If they want him in dress pants I would be happy to accept donations of hemed pants...lol My son has one pair of pants. I wash them daily!(the sweats are so much cheaper than the dress ones). I am one to follow rules, do the right things. But, darn it, I am just burned out and fed up! Glad to hear that homeschooling is working out great for you all! Best Wishes, > Hello to all! > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't > understand teasing...and flips. > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed > to esculate?? > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based > for helping with social skills. > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > Is my thinking off? > > Best Wishes to all, > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > --------------------------------- > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 I recived that same contract and refused to sign in ,personaly I feel its crazy who are they to tell me when and how and what my child should wear, or bathe or whatever, and how much TV she watches, its their job to teach my child not tell me how to raise her, is at her grade level and functioning very well, the rest in my eyes is petty BS and popularity contest and thus to me is increasing the want and need for childrent o pick and bully other children who are less fortunate or what have you! should is about learning , not all that other crap jennifer_thorson <jennifer_thorson@...> wrote: My daughter is only 5 but she has always smelled. It did not matter if she had just taken a bath. Now we are chelating and she smells even worse (all the toxins coming out). I can only give her a bath twice a week do to our schedule but she uses wipes everytime she uses the bathroom at home. No one has said anything but I am sure they will next year. For the public school, I had to sign a contract stating my child would be clean and groomed daily (contract for all children). I can understand obvious issues of children arriving in dirty clothes and hair that looks like it never has been combed. I wish you luck. Jen > > Hello to all! > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > if > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > stomped > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > can't > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > to > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > allowed > > to esculate?? > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > trained > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > based > > for helping with social skills. > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > and I > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > Is my thinking off? > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > --------------------------------- > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > your question on Answers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 I never sign or return those " contracts " no one has ever said anything to me about it either. It's common sense stuff, I will not commit my son to homework either....he maybe moody and it can cause a serious meltdown. It's simply not worth it to have him sooooo stressed. I also refuse bilingual communications, the school also now sends everything in English...it was a big confusion for him...thinking he could not read. Besides the law states if your child was previously or currently enrolled in an esl class that the notifications go home in the native language. Thats' not us. I refuse to have him confused when we are trying so hard to read english. Technically, under the law you do not have to recieve these communications...He freaks sometimes when he hears it...it " hurts his head " . It just amazes me how intrusive the schools can be,and what little regard or consideration to the disabled child. I also had the " parent link " automated phone calls stopped too. How anoying that was. Attendence, school pictures...etc. They used to call my home after 9 in the evening. So much of this stuff you don't have to participate in if you don't want to....many just don't question it. My home is my own. It is actually my sanctuary! I demand to choose what comes into my home or not. I do not give into the school. Having my son in this special class teacher wants to know about anything that is going on at home, personal issues. I don't like that very much at all! Sorry, again, I am just really burned out with the schools, I guess this post was actually another vent. I think I am becoming bitter towardthe schools. Thanks for listening...sorry if I got off the topic. > > > Hello to all! > > > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > > if > > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > > stomped > > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > > can't > > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > > to > > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > > allowed > > > to esculate?? > > > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > > trained > > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > > based > > > for helping with social skills. > > > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > > and I > > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > > Is my thinking off? > > > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > > your question on Answers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 No i totaly agree with you, I mean think back 20 yrs ago when we were in schools teachers didnt care what happened at home never questioned anything, a kind could come to school beaten black and blue no one said anything, now our kids are in school and they decide they want ever detail, did you get a bath this morning, what did you have for dinner,do you have Tommy Hillgiar clothing, ... what tv do you watch.. There has to be a middle some where this is stupid! ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: I never sign or return those " contracts " no one has ever said anything to me about it either. It's common sense stuff, I will not commit my son to homework either....he maybe moody and it can cause a serious meltdown. It's simply not worth it to have him sooooo stressed. I also refuse bilingual communications, the school also now sends everything in English...it was a big confusion for him...thinking he could not read. Besides the law states if your child was previously or currently enrolled in an esl class that the notifications go home in the native language. Thats' not us. I refuse to have him confused when we are trying so hard to read english. Technically, under the law you do not have to recieve these communications...He freaks sometimes when he hears it...it " hurts his head " . It just amazes me how intrusive the schools can be,and what little regard or consideration to the disabled child. I also had the " parent link " automated phone calls stopped too. How anoying that was. Attendence, school pictures...etc. They used to call my home after 9 in the evening. So much of this stuff you don't have to participate in if you don't want to....many just don't question it. My home is my own. It is actually my sanctuary! I demand to choose what comes into my home or not. I do not give into the school. Having my son in this special class teacher wants to know about anything that is going on at home, personal issues. I don't like that very much at all! Sorry, again, I am just really burned out with the schools, I guess this post was actually another vent. I think I am becoming bitter towardthe schools. Thanks for listening...sorry if I got off the topic. > > > Hello to all! > > > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > > if > > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > > stomped > > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > > can't > > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > > to > > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > > allowed > > > to esculate?? > > > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > > trained > > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > > based > > > for helping with social skills. > > > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > > and I > > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > > Is my thinking off? > > > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > > your question on Answers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2006 Report Share Posted December 8, 2006 Hello all, this is a little off topic but related. Maybe some of you have heard of this site. its called: www.freecycle.org you reg. for free. you click on the state that you live in and all the cities that are close for you to travel to. you " can't " sell anything on this site. everything is posted for free. you can post the clothes your children outgrew or toys. House hold stuff & too much to list. Doesn't matter what your income is. This site was started to save the landfill and help communities. You can also request somethings that other people post that they are giving away too. jennifer_thorson <jennifer_thorson@...> wrote: My daughter is only 5 but she has always smelled. It did not matter if she had just taken a bath. Now we are chelating and she smells even worse (all the toxins coming out). I can only give her a bath twice a week do to our schedule but she uses wipes everytime she uses the bathroom at home. No one has said anything but I am sure they will next year. For the public school, I had to sign a contract stating my child would be clean and groomed daily (contract for all children). I can understand obvious issues of children arriving in dirty clothes and hair that looks like it never has been combed. I wish you luck. Jen > > Hello to all! > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > if > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > stomped > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > can't > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > to > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > allowed > > to esculate?? > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > trained > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > based > > for helping with social skills. > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > and I > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > Is my thinking off? > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > --------------------------------- > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > your question on Answers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 I agree Dianne, just because you are lower income does not mean they shouldn't be calling you and letting you know about a problem - any problem. I am amazed that they went to all the trouble to wash her clothes though. I would think they would just send her home for you to clean up. How odd! Roxanna Re: ( ) Public Schools Tick Me OFF You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 Wow, they are locking kids in the closet? That is major abuse. Probably saves them money on hiring someone to come in and do behavioral assessments. You are right about the double standard though - even though I don't agree with putting a kid in the closet. There is a family here in Ohio who had something like 13 or 14 special needs kids. They built little box like structures for bed time and locked them in at night. They are in court now being charged with some sort of child abuse. Roxanna Re: ( ) Public Schools Tick Me OFF You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 If she has soiled her clothes in an " accident " they should call the parent to bring in clean clothes. If that is not possible, they must clean her themselves if she is not capable of cleaning herself. It would be illegal, and clear-cut child abuse if they just let her sit in it. That is why they have contact numbers of parents or relatives on hand. If they cannot contact a parent, then the contact or relative would be able to bring in clean clothes. In either case, a parent or contact should be called to let the parents know what has happened. As a last resort, they would handle the problem and send a note home to the parent. At that point, I believe, they are obligated to update their emergency contact info. Dave Re: ( ) Public Schools Tick Me OFF You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 My phones on 24-7 if they had tried to call they would have reached me no doubt, and of all things now today, told me she got in trouble because she wanted to leve school she hates it and tried to climb the fence,again no phone call and I was home all day!! --- <sirdavjohn@...> wrote: > If she has soiled her clothes in an " accident " they > should call the parent to bring in clean clothes. If > that is not possible, they must clean her themselves > if she is not capable of cleaning herself. It would > be illegal, and clear-cut child abuse if they just > let her sit in it. That is why they have contact > numbers of parents or relatives on hand. If they > cannot contact a parent, then the contact or > relative would be able to bring in clean clothes. In > either case, a parent or contact should be called to > let the parents know what has happened. As a last > resort, they would handle the problem and send a > note home to the parent. At that point, I believe, > they are obligated to update their emergency contact > info. > > Dave > > > Re: ( ) Public Schools > Tick Me OFF > > > You know I have been considering Home schooling > for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, > My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a > mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had > an accident at school, but did the school call us > NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent > ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on > call <-- isnt this illigal!! > I called the school more then angry, the school > went on to tell me that smells everyday and > that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has > no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have > spoken to her teacher on the phone before called > during the school day to check in no one has > reported this supposed issue, and when i told the > princible that i had recived a called she said , > well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe > my child in the morning and she is clean I can do > nothing about what happens between my front door and > school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should > be called, I was told, well we will call you , and > WE will clean her. > I have decided Im done, we are a very very low > income family I had this issue last year when they > went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary > would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs > enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad > mother and dont deserve to know what is going on > with my child! > > Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: > , > I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to > me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching > everything to see what set him off. It could have > all been prevented if she had caught things early. I > know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since > you have worked so hard to get him there & you are > worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & > see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's > not great advice though. > How is your son doing since being home this > evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or > has he moved on? > Liz > > ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: > Hello to all! > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My > son is 7 AS, he if > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > There was an incident on the playground today. He > supposedly stomped > on another child's foot and hit him in the > stomach. > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told > me that another > child who is younger than him and non-ese was > teasing him. He can't > understand teasing...and flips. > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to > him,it was all > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told > me that the > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only > has 4 children to > supervise, If she was watching " very > carefully...why was this allowed > to esculate?? > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are > supposed to be trained > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is > also community based > for helping with social skills. > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to > cause him to flip. > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class > and I am tired and I > am becoming so leary of everything related to > education! > Is my thinking off? > > Best Wishes to all, > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > --------------------------------- > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from > people who know. 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Guest guest Posted December 14, 2006 Report Share Posted December 14, 2006 about two years ago, my son and another boy found a hugh mud puddle in the " very large " school yard. They started making mud balls, then seeing who could make the tallest mud mountain, then they put a little mud on each other and ended up rolling in the mud. My son said they were camouflaging themselves. both boys were covered from toe to the top of their heads in mud. the teacher wouldn't let neither boy in her classroom and explained to them that they would mess up her carpet. (mud was all over the corridors). When I picked up my son at the end of the day, he had on another set of clothes, including socks & sneakers. with a note attached to the bag of his muddy clothes saying, please return those borrowed clothes. we need them for emergencies. that's when I found out what happened. LOL, so, much for supervision in the yard. I guess due to the muddy condition, it was best for them to just give the boys another set of clothes instead of leaving them in that mess waiting for the parents to get to the school. I guess it depends on the situation the child is in, that the school would decide if they need to get changed ASAP or if they can wait for the parents to bring in a set of clothes. <sirdavjohn@...> wrote: If she has soiled her clothes in an " accident " they should call the parent to bring in clean clothes. If that is not possible, they must clean her themselves if she is not capable of cleaning herself. It would be illegal, and clear-cut child abuse if they just let her sit in it. That is why they have contact numbers of parents or relatives on hand. If they cannot contact a parent, then the contact or relative would be able to bring in clean clothes. In either case, a parent or contact should be called to let the parents know what has happened. As a last resort, they would handle the problem and send a note home to the parent. At that point, I believe, they are obligated to update their emergency contact info. Dave Re: ( ) Public Schools Tick Me OFF You know I have been considering Home schooling for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had an accident at school, but did the school call us NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on call <-- isnt this illigal!! I called the school more then angry, the school went on to tell me that smells everyday and that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have spoken to her teacher on the phone before called during the school day to check in no one has reported this supposed issue, and when i told the princible that i had recived a called she said , well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe my child in the morning and she is clean I can do nothing about what happens between my front door and school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should be called, I was told, well we will call you , and WE will clean her. I have decided Im done, we are a very very low income family I had this issue last year when they went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad mother and dont deserve to know what is going on with my child! Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: , I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching everything to see what set him off. It could have all been prevented if she had caught things early. I know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since you have worked so hard to get him there & you are worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's not great advice though. How is your son doing since being home this evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or has he moved on? Liz ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: Hello to all! I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he if finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly stomped on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He can't understand teasing...and flips. According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the assistant teacher was watching very carefully. My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children to supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this allowed to esculate?? My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be trained in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community based for helping with social skills. I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired and I am becoming so leary of everything related to education! Is my thinking off? Best Wishes to all, ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! --------------------------------- Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask your question on Answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 15, 2006 Report Share Posted December 15, 2006 My only suggestion is to send a polite, direct, and firm letter to the principal. Copies to the school board and those in charge of the committees that form the IEPs, or whatever there is, stating that you must be called. Add whatever else you want to happen, sans common sense, since there seems to be a lack thereof. Dave Re: ( ) Public Schools > Tick Me OFF > > > You know I have been considering Home schooling > for 2 years now and today was the last straw for me, > My daughter , who has ODD, extream ADHD and a > mood disorder NOS, was at school and apparently had > an accident at school, but did the school call us > NO, instead they take her clothes go get diffrent > ones, wash her clothes and all and never make on > call <-- isnt this illigal!! > I called the school more then angry, the school > went on to tell me that smells everyday and > that its an issue, well if its such an issue why has > no one called, no notes sent home no nothing I have > spoken to her teacher on the phone before called > during the school day to check in no one has > reported this supposed issue, and when i told the > princible that i had recived a called she said , > well you should know your her mom, Ok 1st if i bathe > my child in the morning and she is clean I can do > nothing about what happens between my front door and > school unless THEY CALL!!! when i told them I should > be called, I was told, well we will call you , and > WE will clean her. > I have decided Im done, we are a very very low > income family I had this issue last year when they > went a collected bags of NAME BRAND clothes so mary > would so call 'fit in " and now this BS! enoughs > enough, just because Im poor doesnt mean Im a bad > mother and dont deserve to know what is going on > with my child! > > Liz S <lizs.1234@...> wrote: > , > I agree with your feelings totally. It sounds to > me that the assistant teacher wasn't watching > everything to see what set him off. It could have > all been prevented if she had caught things early. I > know you are reluctant to make an issue of it since > you have worked so hard to get him there & you are > worn out. Maybe just bite your tongue this time & > see if it is an isolated thing? Gee, I know that's > not great advice though. > How is your son doing since being home this > evening? Is he still thinking abut his bad day or > has he moved on? > Liz > > ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: > Hello to all! > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My > son is 7 AS, he if > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > There was an incident on the playground today. He > supposedly stomped > on another child's foot and hit him in the > stomach. > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told > me that another > child who is younger than him and non-ese was > teasing him. He can't > understand teasing...and flips. > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to > him,it was all > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told > me that the > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only > has 4 children to > supervise, If she was watching " very > carefully...why was this allowed > to esculate?? > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are > supposed to be trained > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is > also community based > for helping with social skills. > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to > cause him to flip. > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class > and I am tired and I > am becoming so leary of everything related to > education! > Is my thinking off? > > Best Wishes to all, > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > --------------------------------- > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from > people who know. Ask your question on > Answers. > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > --------------------------------- > Everyone is raving about the all-new > beta. > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.15.15/580 - > Release Date: 12/8/2006 > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2006 Report Share Posted December 18, 2006 I agree with you . I only sign some things that come home. I get really annoyed with " contracts. " It's like their ultimate solution to the problem - write up a contract. Does this really resolve the problem? Or stop a problem from happening? Little kids sign whatever you tell them to. It doesn't mean they understand or are capable of maintaining their " end " of the bargain. They once had my older ds sign an IEP that he did NOT attend and did not read - teacher just " highlighted " important parts for him. I had to write a follow up requesting them to never do that again. We don't get bilingual messages here. We do get automated phone calls though. I didn't even think to tell them to stop doing that! I'll have to remember that. Roxanna ( ) Re: Public Schools Tick Me OFF I never sign or return those " contracts " no one has ever said anything to me about it either. It's common sense stuff, I will not commit my son to homework either....he maybe moody and it can cause a serious meltdown. It's simply not worth it to have him sooooo stressed. I also refuse bilingual communications, the school also now sends everything in English...it was a big confusion for him...thinking he could not read. Besides the law states if your child was previously or currently enrolled in an esl class that the notifications go home in the native language. Thats' not us. I refuse to have him confused when we are trying so hard to read english. Technically, under the law you do not have to recieve these communications...He freaks sometimes when he hears it...it " hurts his head " . It just amazes me how intrusive the schools can be,and what little regard or consideration to the disabled child. I also had the " parent link " automated phone calls stopped too. How anoying that was. Attendence, school pictures...etc. They used to call my home after 9 in the evening. So much of this stuff you don't have to participate in if you don't want to....many just don't question it. My home is my own. It is actually my sanctuary! I demand to choose what comes into my home or not. I do not give into the school. Having my son in this special class teacher wants to know about anything that is going on at home, personal issues. I don't like that very much at all! Sorry, again, I am just really burned out with the schools, I guess this post was actually another vent. I think I am becoming bitter towardthe schools. Thanks for listening...sorry if I got off the topic. > > > Hello to all! > > > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > > if > > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > > stomped > > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > > can't > > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > > to > > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > > allowed > > > to esculate?? > > > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > > trained > > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > > based > > > for helping with social skills. > > > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > > and I > > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > > Is my thinking off? > > > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > > your question on Answers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2006 Report Share Posted December 18, 2006 This is true. I really am wary sometimes about revealing personal information. It's not so much that's it is a " big " deal as much as I do not like the lack of privacy. I really wish the other people at the IEP meeting had to dish the dirt on their homelife so we could all be on even footing. lol. At my awful meeting last week, they had asked my 10 yo what he did at night while he was not sleeping. He replied he stayed up playing nintendo all night. Well, they just believed him and so I sat there and got a lecture on how to parent and how stimulating video games are, blah blah blah. I was told what time to cut off nintendo, what time to prepare him for bed...and on and on. I wanted to scream, " Do I look like a moron to you? " Instead I just sat there and stared at her, wondering when the parenting lesson would be over with. She never once asked me if it was true. I guess she just assumed or I look especially slow witted to her. ??? I don't know. Roxanna Re: ( ) Re: Public Schools Tick Me OFF No i totaly agree with you, I mean think back 20 yrs ago when we were in schools teachers didnt care what happened at home never questioned anything, a kind could come to school beaten black and blue no one said anything, now our kids are in school and they decide they want ever detail, did you get a bath this morning, what did you have for dinner,do you have Tommy Hillgiar clothing, .... what tv do you watch.. There has to be a middle some where this is stupid! ladyabyrose <luvkljm@...> wrote: I never sign or return those " contracts " no one has ever said anything to me about it either. It's common sense stuff, I will not commit my son to homework either....he maybe moody and it can cause a serious meltdown. It's simply not worth it to have him sooooo stressed. I also refuse bilingual communications, the school also now sends everything in English...it was a big confusion for him...thinking he could not read. Besides the law states if your child was previously or currently enrolled in an esl class that the notifications go home in the native language. Thats' not us. I refuse to have him confused when we are trying so hard to read english. Technically, under the law you do not have to recieve these communications...He freaks sometimes when he hears it...it " hurts his head " . It just amazes me how intrusive the schools can be,and what little regard or consideration to the disabled child. I also had the " parent link " automated phone calls stopped too. How anoying that was. Attendence, school pictures...etc. They used to call my home after 9 in the evening. So much of this stuff you don't have to participate in if you don't want to....many just don't question it. My home is my own. It is actually my sanctuary! I demand to choose what comes into my home or not. I do not give into the school. Having my son in this special class teacher wants to know about anything that is going on at home, personal issues. I don't like that very much at all! Sorry, again, I am just really burned out with the schools, I guess this post was actually another vent. I think I am becoming bitter towardthe schools. Thanks for listening...sorry if I got off the topic. > > > Hello to all! > > > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 AS, he > > if > > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > > stomped > > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that another > > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > > can't > > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was all > > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that the > > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 children > > to > > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > > allowed > > > to esculate?? > > > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > > trained > > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > > based > > > for helping with social skills. > > > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to flip. > > > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am tired > > and I > > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > > Is my thinking off? > > > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. Ask > > your question on Answers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 2006 Report Share Posted December 18, 2006 Roxanna, I agree completely. It bothers me a great deal when I am asked " why " and " how " things got this way in our family or for my son. Just this week I had to snap back (I think it is humorous now, but not at the time) at a special needs administrator who recently asked my son why he did not " seek help " . My reply was " Mam, it is autism. He is not going to tell you what he is thinking, because he is thinking of " self " . That is what " Aut " is all about. You need to go into his world at times and ask a question " ........ Oh well ............. it is all so exasperating. I try real hard to keep myself calm. Mark > > > > Hello to all! > > > > > > > > I need to know if I am thinking straight here. My son is 7 > AS, he > > > if > > > > finally in a HF Autism Special Ed class. > > > > > > > > There was an incident on the playground today. He supposedly > > > stomped > > > > on another child's foot and hit him in the stomach. > > > > > > > > K. I realize this is wrong for him to do. He told me that > another > > > > child who is younger than him and non-ese was teasing him. He > > > can't > > > > understand teasing...and flips. > > > > > > > > According to the principal, nobody did anything to him,it was > all > > > > him...he had a rough day all around. She also told me that > the > > > > assistant teacher was watching very carefully. > > > > > > > > My point, regardless of whom is at fault, she only has 4 > children > > > to > > > > supervise, If she was watching " very carefully...why was this > > > allowed > > > > to esculate?? > > > > > > > > My son is in a specific class the teachers are supposed to be > > > trained > > > > in Autism and related behaviors. This class is also community > > > based > > > > for helping with social skills. > > > > > > > > I simply can't beleive that NOTHING happened to cause him to > flip. > > > > > > > > It's been a long fight to get him to this class and I am > tired > > > and I > > > > am becoming so leary of everything related to education! > > > > Is my thinking off? > > > > > > > > Best Wishes to all, > > > > > > > > ***A Very Worn Out Aspie Mom!!! > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > > > Need a quick answer? Get one in minutes from people who know. > Ask > > > your question on Answers. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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