Re: hitting and telling people to shut up

[Guest guest]

My son yells " leave me alone " to his teacher. Really endearing.

At least his classroom teacher seems to understand that means to

leave him alone.

I doubt time out is going to work to change things until he does

have something else to indicate his need to be left alone.

I have a meeting at school on Tuesday, where hopefully we will

address a non-verbal signal for " I've had enough for now. "

For now, for you, supervision is going to be important. If he can't

handle

it, and/or can't indicate that he can't handle it--you need to lessen

those situations for him.

Jackie

" I have a very good memory, and I don't want to have to remember that. "

--ph

On Dec 8, 2006, at 12:19 PM, advocateforaspies wrote:

> hello everyone. I have a question.

>

> I have a 9 year old that does a lot of hitting and getting frustrated

> with people looking at him or talking to him if he isn't 'in the mood'

> which can be often. (and yes, with strangers)

[Guest guest]

I hate to say that medication was the solution to this, but for my son

it really has been. We tried everything we could behaviorally, but it

was like he just couldn't process the sensory input that led his

frustrations and outbursts. It made for a miserable life for him and

the people around him. Once he started a low dose of Risperdal, he

became less annoyed by things in general and also seems to be more

patient or easier to " talk down " when he does get frustrated.

Leah

advocateforaspies wrote:

>

> hello everyone. I have a question.

>

> I have a 9 year old that does a lot of hitting and getting frustrated

> with people looking at him or talking to him if he isn't 'in the mood'

> which can be often. (and yes, with strangers)

>

> He definitely has a processing disorder (hands over ears, and can't

> all be talking at once) but I am curious as to how any of you have

> handled these behaviors. We have done time out (for hitting only)

> which did decrease it but not stop the behaviors. He is so easily

> frustrated (like dad, not that dad would admit to that!) and I want to

> help him have other positive things he can do when he is frustrated.

> He is so small, cute and sweet otherwise. But having help here he gets

> frustrated easily.

>

> Any ideas?

>

> Thanks,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Im sorry I don't have any advice,I just wanted to tell you that my 8 year

old does the samething....especially with his younger brother I do stop it

when he starts hurting his younger brother.I just don't know what to do

either...

christie

-- ( ) hitting and telling people to shut up

hello everyone. I have a question.

I have a 9 year old that does a lot of hitting and getting frustrated

with people looking at him or talking to him if he isn't 'in the mood'

which can be often. (and yes, with strangers)

He definitely has a processing disorder (hands over ears, and can't

all be talking at once) but I am curious as to how any of you have

handled these behaviors. We have done time out (for hitting only)

which did decrease it but not stop the behaviors. He is so easily

frustrated (like dad, not that dad would admit to that!) and I want to

help him have other positive things he can do when he is frustrated.

He is so small, cute and sweet otherwise. But having help here he gets

frustrated easily.

Any ideas?

Thanks,

[Guest guest]

Thanks, WE have heard about Risperdal.

Have you done research on it to understand things like possible side

affects (I know, everything has something) and all that good stuff>

Just curious.

thank you so much

lisa

> >

> > hello everyone. I have a question.

> >

> > I have a 9 year old that does a lot of hitting and getting

frustrated

> > with people looking at him or talking to him if he isn't 'in the

mood'

> > which can be often. (and yes, with strangers)

> >

> > He definitely has a processing disorder (hands over ears, and

can't

> > all be talking at once) but I am curious as to how any of you

have

> > handled these behaviors. We have done time out (for hitting only)

> > which did decrease it but not stop the behaviors. He is so easily

> > frustrated (like dad, not that dad would admit to that!) and I

want to

> > help him have other positive things he can do when he is

frustrated.

> > He is so small, cute and sweet otherwise. But having help here

he gets

> > frustrated easily.

> >

> > Any ideas?

> >

> > Thanks,

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I am thinking you are very right.

thanks so much

lisa B

>

> > hello everyone. I have a question.

> >

> > I have a 9 year old that does a lot of hitting and getting

frustrated

> > with people looking at him or talking to him if he isn't 'in the

mood'

> > which can be often. (and yes, with strangers)

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I have the same problem. Untill I found a key word that he likes.

stop " think " . It's like he needs that extra few secend to

take it in and realize they are not attacking him. And it doesn't

work every time. But it has helped. It has made is some what

easier. I hope this helps someone else. This works for us.

> >

> > > hello everyone. I have a question.

> > >

> > > I have a 9 year old that does a lot of hitting and getting

> frustrated

> > > with people looking at him or talking to him if he isn't 'in

the

> mood'

> > > which can be often. (and yes, with strangers)

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

We have done quite a bit of research, talked with our pediatrician,

pharmacist, developmental pediatrician and other parents whose kids

have/do take it. It certainly has side effects. Some work in my son's

favor, like the drowsiness. It has greatly improved the quality of

sleep he gets and has made it much easier for him to fall asleep, stay

asleep and wake in a better mood. It has a long history of use, which

makes me more comfortable. The weight gain is supposed to stabilize

after 6-12 months. My son wasn't overweight to begin with, so no real

concern there. He has gained some, but we don't know if that's the

Risperdal alone or the fact that he doesn't take a stimulant (Adderall

XR) anymore - probably a little of both. The interesting thing that

we're noticing now is that he seems much more clear-headed. So, while

he still has attention issues, he remembers what he was supposed to be

doing. That's a first for him. His tolerance of his sister and other

people in general has gone up greatly. Another side effect to watch for

which can happen at any time (no matter how long Risperdal has been

taken) is tardive dyskinesia (spasmodic movements) which is quite

serious and meds should be stopped. Using a low dose is supposed to

help avoid this problem, but it's important to know that it is a risk.

For us, the risks of him mounting depression and anger outweighed the

side effects of the medication. All of the behavioral treatment we

tried prior to that just didn't sink in because he was so angry and

negative all the time. Now, he's enjoying going to the therapist,

completed a social skills program that actually seemed to help, and is

broadening his circle of friends. He actually invited 7 friends to his

upcoming birthday party as opposed to last year where we went to

Legoland as a family instead of having a party.

Leah

advocateforaspies wrote:

>

> Thanks, WE have heard about Risperdal.

> Have you done research on it to understand things like possible side

> affects (I know, everything has something) and all that good stuff>

> Just curious.

> thank you so much

> lisa

>