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December 8, 2006

When you find out let me know because my son is 5 and tells me Im stupid and he

hates me (and school his siblings the tv his bed the cat and everything else)We

dont say stupid in our house so its really frustrating(especially to his 3

siblings) He doesnt jump and tell me not to hit him though.However mine will

scream at night after hes been asleep for a while.Hes somewhere between awake

and asleep and kicks and screams and has my neighbors concerned because it

sounds like hes being hurt.Sorry I cant give you advice, but your not alone so

hopefully that offers some comfort.My peditrician said its a 'phase' I wish

theyd come up with a vaccine or pill to prevent against these darn phases lol

<abington19111@...> wrote: How do I put this. Ok When lets

say I tell me son to go to bed. He

runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never ever hit

him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped like

I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is stupit.

I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my heart

to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

Smiles and Sunshine,

Tiffiney

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December 8, 2006

My son is kinda like that too maybe just a little milder. He has never been more

than lightly spanked on the butt when he was younger yet when I would go to

spank him he would act like I was going to beat him!! Recently it's been why

doesn't anybody like me for me why do I have to change who I am so people like

me why doesn't anybody understand me why can't I control myself and why should I

have to. So I kinda know what your going through. From what I've learned so far

alot of kids with AS ( including my son ) have sensory issues also like being

overly frightened when there really is no need. For instance if you lift my boy

even half an inch off the ground he totally freaks out. We have not seen one yet

( 1st appt on the 11th ) but from what I understand OT's ( occupational

therapists ) are supposed to be able to help at least somewhat though he may

always be afraid of certain things. I'm sorry you are going through this I know

how hard it is to have your son that scared

of you when you have never given him reason to be. It can also be hard for

other people to understand as well and someone who doesn't know you personally

may think the worst if witnessing this display which unfortunately can cause

problems. I hope it never does for any of us but sometimes it worries me. Good

luck I hope I've helped in some way and feel free to ask any questions you might

have. -- Alisha

<abington19111@...> wrote: How do I put this. Ok When lets

say I tell me son to go to bed. He

runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never ever hit

him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped like

I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is stupit.

I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my heart

to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

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December 8, 2006

,

Does he have a care taker other then you? Visits with anyone who would

be alone with him? Has he hear or read anything about abuse.... on the news? Any

other kids that he plays with? What does he say when you questioned him about

this? was like that when I first got him. He just turned 5 then. His

step mom was hitting on him when his dad wasn't there.

Betty

<abington19111@...> wrote:

How do I put this. Ok When lets say I tell me son to go to bed. He

runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never ever hit

him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped like

I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is stupit.

I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my heart

to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

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December 8, 2006

,

My son is the same way thought he is only 5, we do know it is like due to a

care stay when he was about 2, his sister was the link when she ended up

in the ER reciving 3 staples in her head and she told the Socail worker that " my

other mommy did it when she was mad and thew me on the bed " was 3 at the

time, the social worker laughed it off, thus happened in a foster home where

they were ment to be safe from me! and i had never hit them or anything, they

took them from me because they said that I neglected them when noah wandered

outside early in the morning with out any warning and I called 911! go figure

WHen the kids were removed from that home and placed with my sis in law, the

foster mom told her she has to lock both kids in a room with out lights and she

didnt let them out untill she was ready other wise she couldnt handle them!

Seems someone along the lines has said mean things to your little one and

threated or caused harm, I would look closely at anyone whos ever alone with

him, any times hes been with a sitter or what have you.!

I was greatful to have my babies back and hope this never happens to another

but you cant trust anyone these days my children nevedr leave my site now

Jewel <truegrittle@...> wrote:

,

Does he have a care taker other then you? Visits with anyone who would be alone

with him? Has he hear or read anything about abuse.... on the news? Any other

kids that he plays with? What does he say when you questioned him about this?

was like that when I first got him. He just turned 5 then. His step mom

was hitting on him when his dad wasn't there.

Betty

<abington19111@...> wrote:

How do I put this. Ok When lets say I tell me son to go to bed. He

runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never ever hit

him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped like

I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is stupit.

I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my heart

to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

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December 8, 2006

My dd (3yo) does somewhat of the same thing...you can walk past her and she will

start crying that you hurt her. I tend to think it is sensory issues.

I'll be reading on to see what you all think

- C.

Mom to Cassie 15 PCOS, Austin 13 ADHD and a 3 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

Re: ( ) I just found out. And I have questions!!!!!!

When you find out let me know because my son is 5 and tells me Im stupid and

he hates me (and school his siblings the tv his bed the cat and everything

else)We dont say stupid in our house so its really frustrating(especially to his

3 siblings) He doesnt jump and tell me not to hit him though.However mine will

scream at night after hes been asleep for a while.Hes somewhere between awake

and asleep and kicks and screams and has my neighbors concerned because it

sounds like hes being hurt.Sorry I cant give you advice, but your not alone so

hopefully that offers some comfort.My peditrician said its a 'phase' I wish

theyd come up with a vaccine or pill to prevent against these darn phases lol

<abington19111@...> wrote: How do I put this. Ok When lets say I

tell me son to go to bed. He

runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never ever hit

him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped like

I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is stupit.

I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my heart

to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

Smiles and Sunshine,

Tiffiney

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December 11, 2006

I think sometimes little kids with autism will jump if you move too fast because

they don't process it that fast. So they act like you are going to hit them.

I think it is just a defensive kind of reaction. It is kind of similar to when

you walk up to someone who isn't paying attention and they startle to see you

there suddenly.

As for saying something like " don't hit me " when you tell him to go to bed - he

probably has connected that with a way to get out of going to bed, for some

reason. Many times my ds will say unusual things and it is almost always

connected to a cartoon or tv show where he has seen a similar situation acted

out. Whenever he does say things that are not appropriate for the situation, I

will give him the right phrase to use instead. You can just tell him, " If you

want to tell me you don't want to go to bed, you need to say, 'I don't want to

go to bed.' " If that is too much language, just tell him what to say instead.

You can also write a short social story about going to bed and include phrases

that kids would typically use in that situation.

Roxanna

( ) I just found out. And I have questions!!!!!!

How do I put this. Ok When lets say I tell me son to go to bed. He

runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never ever hit

him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped like

I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is stupit.

I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my heart

to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

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December 11, 2006

He does jump alot. At bed time I started a new thing that is

working for now. I ask him " do you want to have a good day

tomorrow. " Then you need to go to bed now. He likes the idea that

he will hopefully have a good day.

>

> I think sometimes little kids with autism will jump if you move

too fast because they don't process it that fast. So they act like

you are going to hit them. I think it is just a defensive kind of

reaction. It is kind of similar to when you walk up to someone who

isn't paying attention and they startle to see you there suddenly.

>

> As for saying something like " don't hit me " when you tell him to

go to bed - he probably has connected that with a way to get out of

going to bed, for some reason. Many times my ds will say unusual

things and it is almost always connected to a cartoon or tv show

where he has seen a similar situation acted out. Whenever he does

say things that are not appropriate for the situation, I will give

him the right phrase to use instead. You can just tell him, " If you

want to tell me you don't want to go to bed, you need to say, 'I

don't want to go to bed.' " If that is too much language, just tell

him what to say instead. You can also write a short social story

about going to bed and include phrases that kids would typically use

in that situation.

>

> Roxanna

> ( ) I just found out. And I have

questions!!!!!!

>

> How do I put this. Ok When lets say I tell me son to go to bed.

He

> runs in the room and yells " don't hit me " . Well I have never

ever hit

> him. Like the other night I went to scatch my ear and he jumped

like

> I was going to smack him. And tell me I hate him. and he is

stupit.

> I never ever said anything like that at all. And it breaks my

heart

> to hear him talk like that..... I don't know what to do?????????

>

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December 11, 2006

He could be having night terrors. My daughters both had night terrors, plus my

now 10 yo ds. There isn't really any " cure " for that that I am aware of. We

just had to live through it. But I know it's hard!