- Question on high function

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Hello ,

I have an almost 10 year old high function child (boy). He has some

days that he can function and do things that make me wonder why he

can't do this all the time? but I was told that's what AS is... then

we have " those " days. He has struggles with life skills, knowing how

to solve a problem. Organization - can't find his personal

belongings nor find something he needs in the refrigerator. He does

well in school but when getting a new assignment needs one on one

help, then can do an excellent job on his own after he learned how to

do it. He can't figure this out on his own. The problem is, I don't

always know when he needs that " one on one personal help " until in

that situation. Like I taught him how to cross a street (even a two

way street). but one day a car going north stopped to let him cross

and he just ran across because that car said to go. never looking at

the cars going south bound.(nothing happened, car stopped) Now, I

know to teach him to look the other way even if a car stops to let

him cross.

My question is. How do you know how much you can let you AS child

go? should he go to a friends homes on his own? what if that NT

child said lets go to another friends home and he goes to another

child's home. would he know what to do? how to come home?(from a

different location) etc. things like this. How much would you let

your AS child do? Where is that line between holding him back or

letting him go (and be safe)? OH, and I don't treat him like he has a

disability. I treat him like a child that needs extra help when

needed. Yes, he receives services in school & private therapy, etc.

but I let him do activities with NT children including hiking,

camping but with adult supervision. When can the adult supervision

stop so I can see if he would make the right choices and still be

safe?