Guest guest Posted June 22, 2008 Report Share Posted June 22, 2008 Have you tried replacing the behavior with a more socially acceptable one? gnome20202000 wrote: > Hello- > I am new to the group and I have a 14 year old very mild aspie son who > insists on meowing as a greeting. (Yes, we do have a cat.) He asks to > have his tummy rubbed. I have successfully changed this by rubbing his > back or shoulders and giving him a hug. The meowing is driving me nuts > as he has now progressed to meowing when he means yes. He also meows > to get my attention. He imitates clawing the furniture to get my > attention. He is very intelligent and articulate, however this seems > to be one behavior that is resistant to change. I have tried modeling > sentences, verbally correcting, ignoring, clapping hands, etc. This > isn't working. Although, I have never sent him away to his room. I > found myself doing this during the last meowing. I don't like doing > this as this creates a feeling of punishment/abandonm ent for the child. > Any suggestions? > Thank you! > Signed: a parent ready to get a dog to chase away the meows! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2008 Report Share Posted June 23, 2008 Welcome NewComer/Parent of Kitty Wannabe! Have you tried just ignoring the meowing behavior? Don't react at all when he approaches you with a meow. Be firm and consistent. Try laying the ground rule that he is not a cat and acting like one in not acceptable. If he wants to be treated like a 13 year old boy, then he needs to act and speak like one. Meowing boys do not get perks like video games, baseball, pizza, or movies! Mims From: gnome20202000 <estee2009@...>Subject: ( ) 13 year-old Meowing! Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 10:56 PM Hello-I am new to the group and I have a 14 year old very mild aspie son whoinsists on meowing as a greeting. (Yes, we do have a cat.) He asks tohave his tummy rubbed. I have successfully changed this by rubbing hisback or shoulders and giving him a hug. The meowing is driving me nutsas he has now progressed to meowing when he means yes. He also meowsto get my attention. He imitates clawing the furniture to get myattention. He is very intelligent and articulate, however this seemsto be one behavior that is resistant to change. I have tried modelingsentences, verbally correcting, ignoring, clapping hands, etc. Thisisn't working. Although, I have never sent him away to his room. Ifound myself doing this during the last meowing. I don't like doingthis as this creates a feeling of punishment/abandonm ent for the child. Any suggestions? Thank you!Signed: a parent ready to get a dog to chase away the meows! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2008 Report Share Posted June 23, 2008 I agree with Mims. I would say, "I'm sorry, I can't tell what you want unless you speak in English." Then walk away. If you are consistent, he will eventually catch on and stop (but it will always get worse before it gets better, so brace yourself for that.) You can also give him a specific time of the day to be a cat and he can meow only during that time. But I think he's probably smart enough and old enough to go cold turkey. If you see what he wants with him meowing, give him the phrase or words you want to hear and say, "Tell me 'I want a drink now.'" If he doesn't say it, walk away. I wouldn't worry about sending him to his room. A little rejection is good for kids and why not? You are saying, "I refuse to accept this behavior from you" which is a rejection. He'll get over it and more importantly, he will learn better social skills to use. That's how NT kids learn social skills - they try things out and when they do the wrong thing, they get rejected or corrected and they learn it's not acceptable. Let him know you will be glad to pay him attention, rub his back or help him once he talks to you in English. This tells him you are rejecting the behavior and not him personally. RoxannaAutism Happens ( ) 13 year-old Meowing! Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 10:56 PM Hello-I am new to the group and I have a 14 year old very mild aspie son whoinsists on meowing as a greeting. (Yes, we do have a cat.) He asks tohave his tummy rubbed. I have successfully changed this by rubbing hisback or shoulders and giving him a hug. The meowing is driving me nutsas he has now progressed to meowing when he means yes. He also meowsto get my attention. He imitates clawing the furniture to get myattention. He is very intelligent and articulate, however this seemsto be one behavior that is resistant to change. I have tried modelingsentences, verbally correcting, ignoring, clapping hands, etc. Thisisn't working. Although, I have never sent him away to his room. Ifound myself doing this during the last meowing. I don't like doingthis as this creates a feeling of punishment/abandonm ent for the child. Any suggestions? Thank you!Signed: a parent ready to get a dog to chase away the meows! No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG. Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 270.4.1/1513 - Release Date: 6/22/2008 7:52 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2008 Report Share Posted June 23, 2008 Our 5 yr old son likes to Quack! In fact, last night at church, the preacher asked for a moment of silence. got antsy, and suddenly, in the silence, he said, " QUACK! " At the time, embarrassing, but when I told my sister later, it was hilarious. Sometimes, I think he uses it when he doesn't know what else to say. It can be repetative, frustrating, annoying, but we have worse things to worry about in life than an occasional 'quack-up!' (pun intended ) Good luck hanging in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2008 Report Share Posted June 23, 2008 Another thought, tell him your allergic to cats! Mims From: gnome20202000 <estee2009att (DOT) net>Subject: ( ) 13 year-old Meowing! Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 10:56 PM Hello-I am new to the group and I have a 14 year old very mild aspie son whoinsists on meowing as a greeting. (Yes, we do have a cat.) He asks tohave his tummy rubbed. I have successfully changed this by rubbing hisback or shoulders and giving him a hug. The meowing is driving me nutsas he has now progressed to meowing when he means yes. He also meowsto get my attention. He imitates clawing the furniture to get myattention. He is very intelligent and articulate, however this seemsto be one behavior that is resistant to change. I have tried modelingsentences, verbally correcting, ignoring, clapping hands, etc. Thisisn't working. Although, I have never sent him away to his room. Ifound myself doing this during the last meowing. I don't like doingthis as this creates a feeling of punishment/abandonm ent for the child. Any suggestions? Thank you!Signed: a parent ready to get a dog to chase away the meows! No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG. Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 270.4.1/1513 - Release Date: 6/22/2008 7:52 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2008 Report Share Posted June 23, 2008 My 18 year old used to constantly say “moo” and still does it occasionally. I think part of it was he was trying to be different or funny or he wanted to say something but didn’t know what else to say. He did it primarily as a greeting but also did it at other times. It drove me nuts. I tried different things – redirecting, ignoring, explaining why it wasn’t appropriate, etc. I think part of what helped was this past year at the private school he attended a girl liked him for a while who is also an Aspie. But she had either learned some social graces or her Aspergers didn’t manifest itself too much socially – she kept him on track socially and would “call him down” if he did something socially inappropriate and she pretty much broke him of this. I didn’t really think about it until I saw this post and then realized that his mooing had really improved to the point of almost being non-existent. From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Mims Batts Sent: Monday, June 23, 2008 2:23 PM Subject: Re: ( ) 13 year-old Meowing! Another thought, tell him your allergic to cats! Mims From: gnome20202000 <estee2009att (DOT) net> Subject: ( ) 13 year-old Meowing! Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 10:56 PM Hello- I am new to the group and I have a 14 year old very mild aspie son who insists on meowing as a greeting. (Yes, we do have a cat.) He asks to have his tummy rubbed. I have successfully changed this by rubbing his back or shoulders and giving him a hug. The meowing is driving me nuts as he has now progressed to meowing when he means yes. He also meows to get my attention. He imitates clawing the furniture to get my attention. He is very intelligent and articulate, however this seems to be one behavior that is resistant to change. I have tried modeling sentences, verbally correcting, ignoring, clapping hands, etc. This isn't working. Although, I have never sent him away to his room. I found myself doing this during the last meowing. I don't like doing this as this creates a feeling of punishment/abandonm ent for the child. Any suggestions? Thank you! Signed: a parent ready to get a dog to chase away the meows! No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG. Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 270.4.1/1513 - Release Date: 6/22/2008 7:52 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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