Interesting technique to teach about giving

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I subscribe to 's Social Best newsletter and her recent

column is very thought-provoking. As I first read it I was very

uncomfortable as a mom who is always trying to provide the " perfect

gift " that is " just what someone has always wanted. " But her technique

of using a less than perfect gift to teach children on the spectrum

ways to be socially gracious is great. You can read it here:

http://community.icontact.com/p/socialperspectives/newsletters/social-best/posts\

/fname-s-social-best-december-3-practice-receiving

Sue in Tennessee

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Sue,

thanks for the heads up. I sometimes scan through or delete these if I don't have time. So I didn't read this one and it's a good one!

Now I wish I was organized enough to do things like this. I still haven't even gotten the tree up, laundry is stacked to the ceiling and the living room needs a real family to love it. lol.

RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else...

( ) Interesting technique to teach about giving

I subscribe to 's Social Best newsletter and her recentcolumn is very thought-provoking. As I first read it I was veryuncomfortable as a mom who is always trying to provide the "perfectgift" that is "just what someone has always wanted." But her techniqueof using a less than perfect gift to teach children on the spectrumways to be socially gracious is great. You can read it here: http://community.icontact.com/p/socialperspectives/newsletters/social-best/posts/fname-s-social-best-december-3-practice-receivingSue in Tennessee

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Roxanna, I hear you! These are the same people that make " to do " lists

for their children and buy them planners and the children USE THEM.

LOL. I never experienced that. Just kidding, she has some good ideas

frequently.

For some reason, this column reminded me of something we are working

on with DS, 24. When we pick him up at school (he is 100 miles away

now) or drop him off, he shows absolutely no emotion...guess that is

par for the ASD course! Even when we haven't seen him for several

weeks, there is NO look of recognition or smile when we drive up.

Guess I've been watching too many movies with emotional reunions, huh?

LOL.

The last time we took him back, I started in about three miles from

dropping him off asking, " did you have a good time? " yes, he had.

Well, you need to tell us " thanks mom and dad! " etc. Otherwise he

would have have just hopped out of car without a backward glance or

wave. (again, I've seen too many movie " goodbyes!) I know he has to

make a mental adjustment between us and school, but he's not rude. I

just take this as yet another try to teach social skills.

Ah, never ending is it!

Sue in TN

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> Sue,

> thanks for the heads up. I sometimes scan through or delete these

if I don't have time. So I didn't read this one and it's a good one!

> Now I wish I was organized enough to do things like this. I still

haven't even gotten the tree up, laundry is stacked to the ceiling and

the living room needs a real family to love it. lol.

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> Roxanna

> You're Unique

> Just like everyone else...

> ( ) Interesting technique to teach about

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> I subscribe to 's Social Best newsletter and her recent

> column is very thought-provoking. As I first read it I was very

> uncomfortable as a mom who is always trying to provide the " perfect

> gift " that is " just what someone has always wanted. " But her technique

> of using a less than perfect gift to teach children on the spectrum

> ways to be socially gracious is great. You can read it here:

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http://community.icontact.com/p/socialperspectives/newsletters/social-best/posts\

/fname-s-social-best-december-3-practice-receiving

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> Sue in Tennessee

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Wow, we have similar lives. lol. I think I started noticing this kind of thing back when my ds was 16. He was being tutored at the library so I would drive him there and pick him twice a week. Well, same deal as you got - in and out of the car without a "thanks mom" or "See ya in two hours mom" or "Hi!" "Bye", "Do I know you?" lol.

Then when I picked him up, it would usually be lunchtime and he would just get in the car and without even a "hi", growl one word at me - "LUNCH!" This meant: Hi Mom, glad you came to get me and now I'm really hungry so you could you buy me a taco bell? But you know, why waste time on words when one word says it all? lol.

I started hounding him to tell me "hi" first. He would get in the car and I would sit there staring at him with a smile until he would remember and say "hi mom." After a while, he would start laughing before he could get the 'hi mom' out. And usually he would say, "Hi mom LUNCH!" Ugh ugh ugh. He really never was a wordy kid his whole life so far....lol

Well, he is still not as great. Now I take him to school every day and pick him up every day. He says "ok" to everything I say to him as soon as we get near the school. I'll be like, "Oh, it's so cold today!" and he replies, "Ok" and then I'll say, "I wonder when you get out for Xmas break?" and he replies, "Ok." LOL and on and on....He at least is realizing that he must reply. and he's going to be 20 in a few weeks.

RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else...

( ) Interesting technique to teach aboutgiving> > > I subscribe to 's Social Best newsletter and her recent> column is very thought-provoking. As I first read it I was very> uncomfortable as a mom who is always trying to provide the "perfect> gift" that is "just what someone has always wanted." But her technique> of using a less than perfect gift to teach children on the spectrum> ways to be socially gracious is great. You can read it here: > > http://community.icontact.com/p/socialperspectives/newsletters/social-best/posts/fname-s-social-best-december-3-practice-receiving> > Sue in Tennessee> > > > > > >----------------------------------------------------------> > > > No virus found in this incoming message.> Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.9.14/1829 - Release Date:12/4/2008 2:59 PM>

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