Re: Re: NEED ADVICE ASAP-Vickie-IEP Team

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Vickie....are you not part of the IEP team???? Here in PA the parent is a definite part of the IEP team....

Jan

Janice Rushen

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From: Vickie Boehnlein <baneline1@...>Subject: ( ) Re: NEED ADVICE ASAP Date: Wednesday, January 7, 2009, 2:12 PM

I am assuming from your id that you are from Michigan. I only say this because if you were from another country other than the US this would not necesarily apply but if the teacher knows that your son has AS I assume that you have a 504 or IEP in place. With this assumption there should be a plan in place for behavior or education problems. Is the teacher following the plan?A quick story from my history. I had a teacher that wasn't really good at dealing with my son's issues. I received a letter from the principal after several instances behavior problems. The letter essentially stated that if the behavior problems continued I would be called to pick him up from school after insidences. To me this sounded like informal suspension so I contaced the state department of education and talked with the head of special ed. Her first question was what does the IEP say should be done when he has a

behavior problem. It had been set up in our IEP that they would send him to the Special Ed room until he was calm enough to return to class. She said that they needed to follow the plan. I called and talked to the principal and basically said I got your letter but shouldn't you be following the IEP. From that day on they started following the IEP and working much closer with the spec ed teacher. Things have improved immesurably since then mostly because the spec ed teacher was more involved in his education. I understand that the teacher is frustrated and coming accross a little harshly. Over the years we have had many times when we thought things were fine only to find out that for a week or more they had had problems at school. Often this led to our talking to the Psychiatrist and adjusting my sons meds. Sometimes it is just about other things like holidays. My son always has problems for the

week or two before any holdidy. When I get the calls or notes that indicate a problem a big part of me is frustrated that they waited so long to let me know. But when I think about it I realize that they are also trying to figure out if something has changed in the classroom that is causing the problems. They are trying to do their job and teach. I have always tried to take these challenges and use it to prove to them that I want to be a part of the team. I do my part to see if I can figure out what is at the root of the problem. I let them know that I want to help them figure out a solution. Maybe she just wants to know that she has your support. You can always go to war with the school later if diplomacy doesn't work but maybe you should just call or go to the school and talk to the teacher, spec ed teacher etc.Vickie > I got this email from my son's teacher today.> Wind,

> Jayden's behavior over the past three days has been really bad. He > has a huge attitude when asked to do anything, and I do mean > ANYTHING. My patience has run out and I won't tolerate his > stubborness, when the things I am asking him to do are things that he > is capable of. He simply doesn't want to work or follow any > directions, and thinks that if he pouts and drags his feet long > enough that I will just forget or it will go away. Therefore, I am > taking away his lunch recess today and sending him to Homework Help > in the library. I will continue to do this for every day that this > continues until he seems to understand that he cannot do whatever he > wants. He refused to do his reading assignment and then would not > work on his writing with Mrs. Heimerl either. We just can't tolerate > the disrespect he is demonstrating and blame it

on the aspergers. > Is there anything from the homefront that is going on that may be > contributing to this, besides just coming back from break? Did he > take a break from his meds while on break and they need time to kick > in again? I just haven't seen him quite this bad before and am > looking for a reason. As of right now I have not shared this with > Mrs. Petrovich, so you only need to reply back to me. > Thanks for your help,> Marie> > I am trying to formualte a response and so far, what I've come up > with, is not nice. LOL Please help!! here's my response so far...> > Marie, > He has been fine at home so I have no idea why he is having trouble > at school. I would prefer you not try to interpret what he is > thinking or feeling because you, nor I, have any idea. I seriously > doubt he doesn't want to work or follow

directions because he > certainly does not enjoy getting into trouble. And, if i recall our > conference, he is trying to do exactly what YOU suggested. in front > of him..avoiding the work. When asked about negative behaviors he > rarely knows why he did them and feels bad about it. > > Thanks for your help!!>