Re: AS /ODD /DEPRESSION/SUICIDE/ETC

[Guest guest]

Hi and welcome. Did the hospital make (educational) recommendations upon discharge? I ask because I'm wondering if she needs a more therapeutic environment than what the school district can provide. I'm assuming it is public school? Pam

In a message dated 2/3/2009 8:09:19 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, watergurleblu@... writes:

hi,ive posted rarely, and never gotten a response however, i really hope i get something this time. i'll go through intro again::my name is julie and i am mom to a now 12 yr girl aspie also dx ODD anxiety clinical depression for starters.today, she just got out of the hospital for an attempted suicide.i'm shattered.long story short, she has a facilatator at school who basically has bullied her all year, all came out in the hospital. she now will switch team of teachers have a new facilatator and be 1/2 days at school until she adjusts being back at school.i have searched, and where is there help for kids like mine? she mostly has issues with ODD. authority,(being me) means nothing.today there is the usual tumultuous relationship and i dont know what else to do. we have an intensive therapist at our house 2 times a week she now will have an additional therapist, she sees a neuropsychiatrist, and no meds are working, although i'm praying since they switched meds in hospital that the new ones will.the anxiety is horrible, and impulsitivity is so bad its like a hurricane lives in my house. she is NEVER happy.and i live on a seperate planet that anyone, or at least thats how it feels.we live in the greensboro nc area. anyone have any suggestions? Great Deals on Dell Laptops. Starting at $499.

[Guest guest]

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> i have searched, and where is there help for kids like mine? she

> mostly has issues with ODD. authority,(being me) means nothing.today

> there is the usual tumultuous relationship and i dont know what else

> to do.

There is a book our neuropsych recommended that really helped me. It

is called Collaborative Intervention: Positive Everyday Routines. If

you search in Amazon you'll find it. It REALLY helped me figure out

how better to deal with my 14yo aspie son. It's $50, but worth it.

They explain where the " oppostional " behavior is coming from so you

can better understand how to deal with it.

Then you get to try to get the school onboard...

Seriously, what types of evaluations has she had and from whom

(qualifications)? That may be part of your problem, that is, lack of

appropriate support. If the therapists are treating her as

oppositional, they won't get anywhere with her, since that isn't

really what is going on.

Ruth

[Guest guest]

>

> i have searched, and where is there help for kids like mine? she

> mostly has issues with ODD. authority,(being me) means nothing.today

> there is the usual tumultuous relationship and i dont know what else

> to do.

There is a book our neuropsych recommended that really helped me. It

is called Collaborative Intervention: Positive Everyday Routines. If

you search in Amazon you'll find it. It REALLY helped me figure out

how better to deal with my 14yo aspie son. It's $50, but worth it.

They explain where the " oppostional " behavior is coming from so you

can better understand how to deal with it.

Then you get to try to get the school onboard...

Seriously, what types of evaluations has she had and from whom

(qualifications)? That may be part of your problem, that is, lack of

appropriate support. If the therapists are treating her as

oppositional, they won't get anywhere with her, since that isn't

really what is going on.

Ruth

[Guest guest]

I have no ideas for you at the moment....but i am sending prayers and hugs. Also, you need a break...can you get one.....treat yourself to a nice lunch or have a manicure.

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: watergurleblu <watergurleblu@...>Subject: ( ) AS /ODD /DEPRESSION/SUICIDE/ETC Date: Monday, February 2, 2009, 8:37 PM

hi,ive posted rarely, and never gotten a response however, i really hope i get something this time. i'll go through intro again::my name is julie and i am mom to a now 12 yr girl aspie also dx ODD anxiety clinical depression for starters.today, she just got out of the hospital for an attempted suicide.i'm shattered.long story short, she has a facilatator at school who basically has bullied her all year, all came out in the hospital. she now will switch team of teachers have a new facilatator and be 1/2 days at school until she adjusts being back at school.i have searched, and where is there help for kids like mine? she mostly has issues with ODD. authority,(being me) means nothing.today there is the usual tumultuous relationship and i dont know what else to do. we have an intensive therapist at our house 2 times a week she now will have an additional therapist, she sees a neuropsychiatrist,

and no meds are working, although i'm praying since they switched meds in hospital that the new ones will.the anxiety is horrible, and impulsitivity is so bad its like a hurricane lives in my house. she is NEVER happy.and i live on a seperate planet that anyone, or at least thats how it feels.we live in the greensboro nc area. anyone have any suggestions?

[Guest guest]

Hi , I actually live in next county from you! SIGH, the sad

shape of mental health in NC! It is sad.

They've cut back on hours for some services for kids which doesn't

benefit the child or families! There's a limit on most services

for " number of hours per week " or " per month. " Sounds like you are

in the " system " with the services you are getting. Don't know where

you could get " more " at. The intensive in-home, I'm not sure the

limits on it; it may be all the time that certain provider has. But

intensive in-home is *supposed* to be good. Is the additional

therapist like one who will do outpatient treatment or someone who

comes to your daughter's location (home or community) to work with

her?

It also sounds like she would benefit from a Day Treatment program

for school. Different providers provide this, the school system may

have it's own program too. I know it can be 1/2 days there, can't

think right now, some students/kids may be there all day. The Day

Treatment is supposedly (note the supposedly) more for those with

mental health diagnoses and probably those receiving other mental

health services.

She should be getting follow-up appoints (maybe those are ones you

mentioned) due to her recent hospitalization, some type outpatient

therapy/counseling. (As someone else said, hospital should have

recommended some things.)

Also there are family support groups I'm sure and maybe some type

family training too, to help you learn best ways to respond to her,

etc.

So sorry you're going thru this, the attempted suicide, that had to

be sooooo scary!!

Is she getting any supports for the Aspergers? Is TEACCH involved in

any way?

>

> hi,

> ive posted rarely, and never gotten a response however, i really

hope

> i get something this time. i'll go through intro again::

> my name is julie and i am mom to a now 12 yr girl aspie also dx ODD

> anxiety clinical depression for starters.today, she just got out of

> the hospital for an attempted suicide.i'm shattered.

> long story short, she has a facilatator at school who basically has

> bullied her all year, all came out in the hospital. she now will

[Guest guest]

hi chris,

the hospital gave me one counselor name and recomended teaach the

last time she was in was in hospital.we are on the waiting list.

sounds like you have cbs services, our hours were cut and eventually

we lost services.that became the downward spiral but not the reason

this all occured.which county are you in it would be great to know

someone is that close by who understands.the intensive home therapy

ends in march, they give 3 months only and wont be making up for time

lost while she was in the hospital.

julie

> >

> > hi,

> > ive posted rarely, and never gotten a response however, i really

> hope

> > i get something this time. i'll go through intro again::

> > my name is julie and i am mom to a now 12 yr girl aspie also dx

ODD

> > anxiety clinical depression for starters.today, she just got out

of

> > the hospital for an attempted suicide.i'm shattered.

> > long story short, she has a facilatator at school who basically

has

> > bullied her all year, all came out in the hospital. she now will

>

[Guest guest]

Hi , I don't get any of those type services but I do help out

with some providers who meet (basically I just take the minutes of

the meetings) and so hear the talk about services, etc.

Well I hope that things begin to take a turn for the better with the

services she's starting now and different facilitator at school,

etc. Wish things could change " overnight " when kids begin therapies,

etc., but it just has to take time.

Only have a minute now, things to do, but we live in Eden!

>

> hi chris,

> the hospital gave me one counselor name and recomended teaach the

> last time she was in was in hospital.we are on the waiting list.

> sounds like you have cbs services, our hours were cut and

eventually

> we lost services.that became the downward spiral but not the reason

> this all occured.which county are you in it would be great to know

> someone is that close by who understands.the intensive home therapy