Guest guest Posted February 2, 2009 Report Share Posted February 2, 2009 Thanks for asking. It went very smoothly. We can do it the easy way or the hard way. They opted for the easy way. Thank god! So, just reviewing all documents, sign, and hopefully I have them off my back for another year!!!! That means, translated, NO CONTACT WITH THE SCHOOL FOR ONE ENTIRE YEAR! That means no team meetings, no IEP meetings, no updates, no phone calls, no "come pick him up's", no conferences, no discussions, no nothing!!!!! Ok, but I do still have to home school him and do all the work myself, but that is SO MUCH EASIER than having him at school, where I was STILL homeschooling him, but instead it was after he came home from 6 hours of torture per day. He just started two college distance learning classes and is doing great, and we are accelerating him out as fast as we can. At 11 he was removed from the gifted classroom because the teacher was clueless and placed in a resource classroom at the same school. Now, at almost 13 we have accelerated him to almost done with 9th grade curriculum and I am estimating that he will be done with high school by 15 or 16. He can get college AND high school credit both at the same time. He is taking the Cisco Networking classes so after the third class he can get a CCNA certificate (and earn high school elective credits at the same time.) He learns amazingly fast from a book and his social skills are improving OUT of the school much faster than they were IN the school. Towards the end school was worse than even babysitting. He hated the aides and spent the day figuring out how to torture them, he had nothing in common with any of the kids, and wanted to do computer programming and electronics at home and nothing else. Now we have him going to adult computer programming meetings, clubs, and other adult social activities. I still have to babysit and prompt the whole time, but he is MOTIVATED to be socially appropriate with these folks as they share his interests. Behaviors are at an all time low and meltdowns are minimal. At school he was doing stupid "sensory exercises" and things that he KNEW were stupid. Now, he is digging a hole to put our potted Christmas tree in and there is actually a REASON to be digging. Gardening has to be done because the plant is growing too tall, wood has to be chipped, the chicken coop has to be cleaned out. A lot better than throwing a weighted ball back and forth to people you can't stand. He is out and about in the community and appropriate. I was so stressed about going to our meeting. I knew if they jerked me around that I was going to be so angry and obsess on it for weeks and plot my strategy and on and on and on. As it is, I am only working 3 days a week so that I can homeschool him. They are funding my mother 15.00 per hour, 15 hours per week only. That is all it is costing. I am not being paid. How can they complain. Just leave us the hell alone and don't try to "fix" him. Let him grow and mature at his own rate. He will never be socializing normally with 12 year olds or adult therapists..... ever. He needs to learn to interact with humanity who isn't trying to "fix" him and needs to learn to pass for normal as best as he can. So far, this year as been dramatic progress in that regard. OK. I'll stop. I'm rambling. Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 It sounds like he is thriving now so obviously you're doing the right thing, and it looks like the school sees that. Congratulations! > > Thanks for asking. It went very smoothly. We can do it the easy way or the hard way. They opted for the easy way. Thank god! So, just reviewing all documents, sign, and hopefully I have them off my back for another year!!!! That means, translated, NO CONTACT WITH THE SCHOOL FOR ONE ENTIRE YEAR! That means no team meetings, no IEP meetings, no updates, no phone calls, no " come pick him up's " , no conferences, no discussions, no nothing!!!!! Ok, but I do still have to home school him and do all the work myself, but that is SO MUCH EASIER than having him at school, where I was STILL homeschooling him, but instead it was after he came home from 6 hours of torture per day. He just started two college distance learning classes and is doing great, and we are accelerating him out as fast as we can. At 11 he was removed from the gifted classroom because the teacher was clueless and placed in a resource classroom at the same school. Now, at almost 13 we have accelerated him to almost done with 9th grade curriculum and I am estimating that he will be done with high school by 15 or 16. He can get college AND high school credit both at the same time. He is taking the Cisco Networking classes so after the third class he can get a CCNA certificate (and earn high school elective credits at the same time.) He learns amazingly fast from a book and his social skills are improving OUT of the school much faster than they were IN the school. Towards the end school was worse than even babysitting. He hated the aides and spent the day figuring out how to torture them, he had nothing in common with any of the kids, and wanted to do computer programming and electronics at home and nothing else. Now we have him going to adult computer programming meetings, clubs, and other adult social activities. I still have to babysit and prompt the whole time, but he is MOTIVATED to be socially appropriate with these folks as they share his interests. Behaviors are at an all time low and meltdowns are minimal. At school he was doing stupid " sensory exercises " and things that he KNEW were stupid. Now, he is digging a hole to put our potted Christmas tree in and there is actually a REASON to be digging. Gardening has to be done because the plant is growing too tall, wood has to be chipped, the chicken coop has to be cleaned out. A lot better than throwing a weighted ball back and forth to people you can't stand. He is out and about in the community and appropriate. > > I was so stressed about going to our meeting. I knew if they jerked me around that I was going to be so angry and obsess on it for weeks and plot my strategy and on and on and on. As it is, I am only working 3 days a week so that I can homeschool him. They are funding my mother 15.00 per hour, 15 hours per week only. That is all it is costing. I am not being paid. How can they complain. Just leave us the hell alone and don't try to " fix " him. Let him grow and mature at his own rate. He will never be socializing normally with 12 year olds or adult therapists..... ever. He needs to learn to interact with humanity who isn't trying to " fix " him and needs to learn to pass for normal as best as he can. So far, this year as been dramatic progress in that regard. > > OK. I'll stop. I'm rambling. > > Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... > > > > So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------- --------- > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com > Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2009 Report Share Posted February 3, 2009 > > Thanks for asking. It went very smoothly. We can do it the easy way or the hard way. They opted for the easy way. Thank god! So, just reviewing all documents, sign, and hopefully I have them off my back for another year!!!! That means, translated, NO CONTACT WITH THE SCHOOL FOR ONE ENTIRE YEAR! I'm so happy for you Debra! Thanks for sharing such a positive story--many of us need it! I only hope I can find as good an answer for my son. Ruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2009 Report Share Posted February 5, 2009 Do they give you the curriculum to follow then? That is such great news that they didn't cause you any grief to get everything signed for another year! Yeah! It's nice that he is motivated to learn. My ds has no desire to learn anything so trying to teach him in like pulling teeth. RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.16/1930 - Release Date: 02/02/09 07:51:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2009 Report Share Posted February 5, 2009 We are doing the high school independent studies curriculum. Yes, they give us exactly what to follow. It is totally pulling teeth to get him to learn! I wish it was easy. But, the golden ticket of computer time looms over him always. We spread it out over 7 days per week and thank god he learns very quickly, so it isn't much per day. He is very motivated to learn computer programming on his own terms, but even the computer class has to be broken into 10 minute work sessions and still reinforced. Organization is terrible and I don't have high hopes that it will ever be any better, judging from affected adults in the family and their skill level. We keep trying to teach organizational skills and prompt them but it is like trying to teach a 1 year old to read. It is exhausting to keep up with, but at least I see progress and success. I am hoping some day he will move out, get a job and be able to keep a job, but I don't know. Hopefully maturity will help a lot. He REALLY wants to get a job badly and also would LOVE to live on his own. So, at least we have that going for us. I shudder to think was his apartment would look like!!!! Empty TV dinners everywhere, computer parts and wires piled up, dirty clothes, and a very bad smell. That would be my guess! Oh well...... Debra Balke Parent of 13 year old HFA boy, 9 year old Aspergers girl, Aspergers husband..... Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.16/1930 - Release Date: 02/02/09 07:51:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2009 Report Share Posted February 5, 2009 Oh wow, you sound just like where I am at with mine. I just wrote up his 2nd quarter progress report. He has teachers online (e-schooling) and they all write great reports. But they see the end product. so I sometimes think, "duh!" lol. They write, "Reece turns all his work in on time." And I am sitting here, hair a mess and in my jammies because who has time to take care of oneself when one is busy organizing all his work and making sure it is sent in on time?! LOL. I wanted to write, "Of course it is in on time. Why would I sit here and watch him fail?" I think that is one of the keys to it all really. He was failing at school because he was on his own and people did not prompt him or expect him to do any better. If someone is sitting there, cueing him, expecting him to do this, he does it. If I let him do it on his own, he would not care how it looked, if sentences were complete, if he even answered the question at all. So I am here and I read his tests to him so he can't rush through it. I read assignments with him so I can see he gets it. I eliminate busy work as we go so he doesn't snore on me too often. I mean, it is like I am his personal assistant and cheer leader. Sometimes his evil task master. lol...lol... Yesterday, he was "too tired" to do any work. This is a daily thing with him (i.e. I'm bored.) He keeps falling asleep even as we sit here attending classes and doing work. I am constantly, "Reece, wake up" and "Reece, what do you think that means?" and anything I can do to keep him awake and focused. But it feels like I am dragging him through quick sand the whole time. Then it comes time to go to speech therapy and he exploded and yelled, "WHY DO YOU DO THAT? WHY DO YOU MAKE ME DO THIS WHEN YOU CAN SEE HOW TIRED I AM?" But you know, if I waited for him to WANT to do something, we'd never do anything. It boggles my mind that he can be so intelligent and "gifted" and yet, he doesn't have any desire to learn this stuff. sigh...I guess I am whining now. But writing his progress report kind of kicked this into gear, more or less...evaluating how far we have come this year...and I don't think that far really. I worry about advancing his curriculum and yet, as we do the regular daily stuff, it isn't working there either. He has only one advanced class right now - a high school algebra class. But he seems bored by the "sit in class while teacher explains it four time..." method. He does better if I read through the section with him, give him problems to do, go over the answers and move on. But he has no great skill yet that he wants to do - like computers. He just wants to play computer games. That is life. I wish he had an interest I could capitalize on!!!! I need to try and create one for him. But I just wanna go take a nap!!!!! WAAAAAA! We have a long line of computer/math geeks - one of my brothers is a programmer/analyst working from home and the other is working in "statistics". I just need to figure out what kind of niche Reece might have in life. I wonder if they have a job as professional Runescape player? hmmmm.... RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.16/1930 - Release Date: 02/02/09 07:51:00 No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.18/1936 - Release Date: 02/05/09 11:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2009 Report Share Posted February 5, 2009 Oh god that sounds JUST like my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is EXACTLY what it is like working with my son!!!!!!! We should videotape and send to each other, just for laughs. Falling asleep, not looking at the book, doesn't even know what the question was I am asking him to answer, can't turn the pages to find the answer, etc. etc. etc. Why are you being so mean making me work!!!??? Yes, we are always on time, assignments done, etc. etc. Because I am making sure he does it!!! Today I removed the computer because math wasn't done last night that he said he would do. He is going to wake up and have a complete fit. I am at work, my mom is babysitting. She is going to tell him I took it with me and then let him stew. He will either do the work or refuse to do anything out of spite. It is going to be one of those days. At least there is no lecture, it is just me explaining the chapter and then he does the problems. We are very lucky that he has an interest that can be an actual job. But, what will happen when the boss tells him to do a boring task for 2 weeks??? Will he be able to do it and keep the job???? I keep telling myself, worst case, he can live on disability, eat TV dinners, and play on the computer and at least he won't be living with me. Isn't that terrible? LOL Best case, he can get a great job, support me in my old age. Oh but wait, I think my old age is upon me now. At least it feels like it!!!! Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.16/1930 - Release Date: 02/02/09 07:51:00 No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.18/1936 - Release Date: 02/05/09 11:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2009 Report Share Posted February 5, 2009 ROFL!!!! I am so there!! LOL!!! In my nightmares...er...dreams...he is eating hot pockets, playing video games all day and still living with me!!! In fact, I can just see my body decaying in a room as he doesn't notice I've died. LOL.... That would require looking up from his computer screen...but then I wake up and realize, duh...he would notice I was dead because the food would stop coming! whew, problem solved! lol.... RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.16/1930 - Release Date: 02/02/09 07:51:00 No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.18/1936 - Release Date: 02/05/09 11:34:00 No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.0.233 / Virus Database: 270.10.18/1936 - Release Date: 02/05/09 11:34:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2009 Report Share Posted February 7, 2009 That's awesome! Keep in mind too, there are just like this one specifically for homeschooling kids with Aspergers. I found them very helpful. From: Debra Balke <dlbalke@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Debra? Date: Monday, February 2, 2009, 3:58 PM Thanks for asking. It went very smoothly. We can do it the easy way or the hard way. They opted for the easy way. Thank god! So, just reviewing all documents, sign, and hopefully I have them off my back for another year!!!! That means, translated, NO CONTACT WITH THE SCHOOL FOR ONE ENTIRE YEAR! That means no team meetings, no IEP meetings, no updates, no phone calls, no "come pick him up's", no conferences, no discussions, no nothing!!!!! Ok, but I do still have to home school him and do all the work myself, but that is SO MUCH EASIER than having him at school, where I was STILL homeschooling him, but instead it was after he came home from 6 hours of torture per day. He just started two college distance learning classes and is doing great, and we are accelerating him out as fast as we can. At 11 he was removed from the gifted classroom because the teacher was clueless and placed in a resource classroom at the same school. Now, at almost 13 we have accelerated him to almost done with 9th grade curriculum and I am estimating that he will be done with high school by 15 or 16. He can get college AND high school credit both at the same time. He is taking the Cisco Networking classes so after the third class he can get a CCNA certificate (and earn high school elective credits at the same time.) He learns amazingly fast from a book and his social skills are improving OUT of the school much faster than they were IN the school. Towards the end school was worse than even babysitting. He hated the aides and spent the day figuring out how to torture them, he had nothing in common with any of the kids, and wanted to do computer programming and electronics at home and nothing else. Now we have him going to adult computer programming meetings, clubs, and other adult social activities. I still have to babysit and prompt the whole time, but he is MOTIVATED to be socially appropriate with these folks as they share his interests. Behaviors are at an all time low and meltdowns are minimal. At school he was doing stupid "sensory exercises" and things that he KNEW were stupid. Now, he is digging a hole to put our potted Christmas tree in and there is actually a REASON to be digging. Gardening has to be done because the plant is growing too tall, wood has to be chipped, the chicken coop has to be cleaned out. A lot better than throwing a weighted ball back and forth to people you can't stand. He is out and about in the community and appropriate. I was so stressed about going to our meeting. I knew if they jerked me around that I was going to be so angry and obsess on it for weeks and plot my strategy and on and on and on. As it is, I am only working 3 days a week so that I can homeschool him. They are funding my mother 15.00 per hour, 15 hours per week only. That is all it is costing. I am not being paid. How can they complain. Just leave us the hell alone and don't try to "fix" him. Let him grow and mature at his own rate. He will never be socializing normally with 12 year olds or adult therapists.. ... ever. He needs to learn to interact with humanity who isn't trying to "fix" him and needs to learn to pass for normal as best as he can. So far, this year as been dramatic progress in that regard. OK. I'll stop. I'm rambling. Re: ( ) My little girl/long long long... So far we have fortunately avoided the lawyers altogether. But, still needing a settlement agreement because of the structure of the agreement is not allowed by the IEP..... Wish me luck Friday. Hopefully it will go smoothly. If not, I know how to deal with it.... I just don't want to have to go through it again.... No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg. com Version: 8.0.176 / Virus Database: 270.10.12/1909 - Release Date: 1/22/2009 7:08 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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