RE: young male aspies, and Roxanna's comment

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Wow....how amazing...can we trade...my son (13) is the messiest...when he enters a room it is like a tornado hit! Ha Ha

Have you ever asked him if he is lonely? I know a girl who is 17 and AS and has no friends...but she is not lonely and doesn't really care to mingle with the other students. she wants to read all the time. And, she has so many rules in her head that she is too busy to try and make friends.

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: Sue Ann <iamgr8ful@...>Subject: ( ) young male aspies, and Roxanna's comment Date: Monday, February 2, 2009, 2:18 PM

I noticed Roxanna's comment, at the bottom, in another thread..My 19 yr old DS likes everything orderly, no clutter. And I noticewhen he is stressed, he will go around the house and find any paperthat is no longer needed and throw it away or, if it has our names orpersonal info, he'll shred it. He has the cleanest room in the house.I have to hide anything that I want to save. LOLBut, I did want to ask if your son lives at home and how that isgoing? My son is at home and attending college classes. I am stilllooking for a support group or therapist in the area who is familiarwith Asperger's, let alone works with young adults. And my DH isfinally coming to the realization that our DS will not 'just' moveforward in life as quickly as other young men.I'm curious how others are dealing with this. I still cry about it attimes, though I'm not sure DS is feeling lonely, or if it's just

methinking he is.Sue---Roxanna said..." Some of the symptoms remind me a lot of my own ds, who is hfa andnow 20 yo! When he was a little guy, he would cling to me for dearlife all the time. Naturally, everyone would comment on it as if Icaused his problems and that was one symptom of it. lol. When he wasolder, middle school age, he started shredding paper as his way tostim/burn off anxiety.."

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LOL I got the messy guy too! With him, he tends to collect -

EVERYTHING - and it piles up until it is out of control. About twice

a year, while he is in school, I go through the room and clean house!

Mind you, he doesn't even notice anything missing. Just that it is

tidier! (But, I guess that is good for me!) ; )

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> I noticed Roxanna's comment, at the bottom, in another thread..

> My 19 yr old DS likes everything orderly, no clutter. And I notice

> when he is stressed, he will go around the house and find any paper

> that is no longer needed and throw it away or, if it has our names

or

> personal info, he'll shred it. He has the cleanest room in the

house.

> I have to hide anything that I want to save. LOL

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I must

be raising Jan’s son’s twin sister!

You’ve described my 8 year old aspie

exactly!

( ) young male aspies, and Roxanna's comment

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> I noticed Roxanna's comment, at the bottom, in another thread..

> My 19 yr old DS likes everything orderly, no clutter. And I notice

> when he is stressed, he will go around the house and find any paper

> that is no longer needed and throw it away or, if it has our names

or

> personal info, he'll shred it. He has the cleanest room in the

house.

> I have to hide anything that I want to save. LOL

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Hi Sue,

I have a friend who has a ds with AS and he is a "neat freak" as well. I am jealous. <G> My two with HFA are anything but neat. My older ds, now 20 yo, is finally very good about taking care of his stuff but not about cleaning up or being organized.

My ds still lives at home and I see him here for the near future. I can't imagine him leaving, really. He is attending a "career center" 2 year program on computers. He is doing really well with it, getting all A's. He has 2 certificates related to job opportunities in computers so far. So this is all good. I mean, we are really pleased that he is doing so well. He is getting no help with socialization or how to live on his own or get a job, etc. That is a major deficit for him. Prior to the career center, he could not go to school and had to be tutored. So I think we are just happy for the moment that he is attending classes. I want to work on "what's next" because this is the end of the program this school year. But I don't know what we will do next! It is starting to stress me out.

My dh is slower to accept things as well. Does your ds drive yet? Does he drive himself to college?

RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else...

( ) young male aspies, and Roxanna's comment

I noticed Roxanna's comment, at the bottom, in another thread..My 19 yr old DS likes everything orderly, no clutter. And I noticewhen he is stressed, he will go around the house and find any paperthat is no longer needed and throw it away or, if it has our names orpersonal info, he'll shred it. He has the cleanest room in the house.I have to hide anything that I want to save. LOLBut, I did want to ask if your son lives at home and how that isgoing? My son is at home and attending college classes. I am stilllooking for a support group or therapist in the area who is familiarwith Asperger's, let alone works with young adults. And my DH isfinally coming to the realization that our DS will not 'just' moveforward in life as quickly as other young men.I'm curious how others are dealing with this. I still cry about it attimes, though I'm not sure DS is feeling lonely, or if it's just methinking he is.Sue---Roxanna said..." Some of the symptoms remind me a lot of my own ds, who is hfa andnow 20 yo! When he was a little guy, he would cling to me for dearlife all the time. Naturally, everyone would comment on it as if Icaused his problems and that was one symptom of it. lol. When he wasolder, middle school age, he started shredding paper as his way tostim/burn off anxiety.."

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Oh how funny...my son has a twin. And, he is driving me nuts...even in school he forgets, loses things, doesn't hand in homework and forgets to go to band lessons. In fact he will be getting a D in band this quarter and I am upset with him. He loses his wallet every other day....

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: tdhssp <johnvelshaw (DOT) ca>Subject: Re: ( ) young male aspies, and Roxanna's comment Date: Wednesday, February 4, 2009, 11:02 AM

LOL I got the messy guy too! With him, he tends to collect - EVERYTHING - and it piles up until it is out of control. About twice a year, while he is in school, I go through the room and clean house! Mind you, he doesn't even notice anything missing. Just that it is tidier! (But, I guess that is good for me!) ; )> > From: Sue Ann <iamgr8ful@. ..>> Subject: ( ) young male aspies, and Roxanna's comment> > Date: Monday, February 2, 2009, 2:18 PM> > > > > > > I noticed Roxanna's comment, at the bottom, in another thread..> My 19 yr old DS likes everything orderly, no clutter. And I notice> when he is stressed, he will go around the house and find any paper> that is no longer needed and throw it away or, if it has our names or> personal info, he'll shred it. He has the cleanest room in the house.> I have to hide anything that I want to save. LOL

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My son hates disorder but doesn't have a clue how to arrive there. He freaks if it's bedtime and his room is a mess. I literally have to walk him through the steps.

When he wasn't showing his aspieness, as recent as 6 months ago, you were able to count on a splatter-free bathroom for weeks! today, not an hour goes by and he's my only boy! He also has a thing with officially putting on his clothes backwards, the labels of his sweaters and pajamas are ALWAYS In the front, and feigns innocence when it's pointed out to him. DO you think he legitimately doesn't realize? He's 9 years old! blue pajama with red racing car... on the back?!

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