Re: Teasing and Asperger's

[Guest guest]

I am sorry to hear this, but my husband does the same thing and he is his biological son plus he admits to having AS too. My son does not get teasing or joking and he has a short, short temper (just like me I am sorry to say that). It gets him in trouble all the time and people just don't want to understand that they cannot help it and it just hard to control their impulses.

I am very depressed today and most days because it is so an up-hill road and you feel you are dragging the whole wolrd with you doing al the work.

Ide

From: sue.russo <sue.russo@...> Sent: Thursday, February 5, 2009 9:22:23 AMSubject: ( ) Teasing and Asperger's

How can I get my husband to understand that the joking around he likes to do with my son is not neccesarily interpreted by my son the way he thinks it should be. He likes to jokes and will say things in a funny way like moron while he is coughing. My son responds by calling him a bad name and then my husband blows up. I try to explain why my son reacts this way and he thinks I am just siding with my son. I tell him to read about Asperger's traits but he seems to think I use it as an excuse for my sons bad behavior. My son is his stepson so it makes for very tense feelings in the house. Any thoughts on how to get him to better understand my sons problem.

[Guest guest]

My husband is exactly the same way with our son. It's typical male

behavior but they just don't understand that our kids are different

and respond differently than typical children would.

>

> How can I get my husband to understand that the joking around he

likes to do with my son is

> not neccesarily interpreted by my son the way he thinks it should

be. He likes to jokes and

> will say things in a funny way like moron while he is coughing. My

son responds by calling

> him a bad name and then my husband blows up. I try to explain why

my son reacts this way

> and he thinks I am just siding with my son. I tell him to read

about Asperger's traits but he

> seems to think I use it as an excuse for my sons bad behavior. My

son is his stepson so it

> makes for very tense feelings in the house. Any thoughts on how to

get him to better

> understand my sons problem.

>

[Guest guest]

Sue,

I sure do know what you mean..My husband keeps yelling at my son for

constantly talking during TV shows but he cant help it.. I tell my

husband " Dont you realize after all this time of yelling at him he doest

stop?That means he cant help it! " And my hubby will just say " He has to

learn, stop making excuses for him " ...I tell him to just ignore him.. So

frustrating!

Conni

[Guest guest]

Oh my gosh, I wish I can help but I am in the EXACT same boat!! I haven't found a solution yet. Hopefully someone else has some suggestions

From: sue.russo <sue.russo@...>Subject: ( ) Teasing and Asperger's Date: Thursday, February 5, 2009, 7:22 AM

How can I get my husband to understand that the joking around he likes to do with my son is not neccesarily interpreted by my son the way he thinks it should be. He likes to jokes and will say things in a funny way like moron while he is coughing. My son responds by calling him a bad name and then my husband blows up. I try to explain why my son reacts this way and he thinks I am just siding with my son. I tell him to read about Asperger's traits but he seems to think I use it as an excuse for my sons bad behavior. My son is his stepson so it makes for very tense feelings in the house. Any thoughts on how to get him to better understand my sons problem.

[Guest guest]

"Typical male behavior"...I'd be careful with this one. Not all men are the same. There are several males in Dylan's life (12 yr old, Aspergers) who are patient and try to figure out what's instigating Dylan's behavior before reacting. Both myself and my dad joke with Dylan a lot and he's able to figure out what's going on and turn in right back around on us. In fact, now he instigates the joking a lot, too much sometimes in fact. He can sometimes not have a good pulse on when he needs to drop the sarcasm in certain situations. We're still trying to teach him, but Dylan's sense of humor is one of my favorite things about him.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: jxmille <jxmille@...> Sent: Thursday, February 5, 2009 1:23:27 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Teasing and Asperger's

My husband is exactly the same way with our son. It's typical male behavior but they just don't understand that our kids are different and respond differently than typical children would. >> How can I get my husband to understand that the joking around he likes to do with my son is > not neccesarily interpreted by my son the way he thinks it should be. He likes to jokes and > will say things in a funny way like moron while he is coughing. My son responds by calling > him a bad name and then my husband blows up. I try to explain why my son reacts this way > and he thinks I am just siding with my son. I tell him to read about Asperger's traits but he

> seems to think I use it as an excuse for my sons bad behavior. My son is his stepson so it > makes for very tense feelings in the house. Any thoughts on how to get him to better > understand my sons problem.>

[Guest guest]

Sue and ,

My husband today said he doesnt trust doctors and thinks they are " all

out to make money " ..I said what money to they have to gain by saying our

sons have Aspergers? And I also told him that everyone in this

group describes their children who have Aspergers and they sound just

like our kids..He thinks its some conspiracy theory..ohhhh Kayyyyy...

Conni