Re: Son so moody and mean-freakin

January 22, 2009

Your post was "freakn" funny! I got a good chuckle. And, to tell you the truth...how could they give him detention when he called someone an Olm....it actually sounds like the chant ummmmmmm! Sort of calming. But how did the school know what it meant...as it could have meant anything....too much for me!

Jan

Janice Rushen

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From: MacAllister <smacalli@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Son so moody and mean Date: Thursday, January 22, 2009, 12:02 PM

Oh...here's a good one. Dylan (12, Aspergers) came up with the word "olm" a few years ago. Olm can mean whatever he wants it to mean and he communicated that point very clearly. Well, he got into trouble for calling someone an "olm" at school. It wasn't a good thing, but it CRACKED ME UP! I can just hear the teacher saying "you shouldn't be calling people an olm". In fact, when I was emailed about the problem, they didn't come close to spelling it right. But he got lunch detention for it! How can I argue w/ my son when he says "olm" isn't a bad word? He's SO SMART.

Then we moved on from "olm" to "freakin" this and "freakin" that. We all know what that word sounds like, but he swears it's not a bad word so why can't he use it? I aruge that "freakin" isn't a bad word but it sounds too much like the real "f" word. He still uses it though, just not as much.

By the way, he's also very proud of his ability to find "loopholes". He said it's one of the best things about him! I think he needs to be a lawyer one day, but there's no way I'm going through law school with him to make sure he's doing his assignments and turning things in! Or maybe we should just go to law school together. I've been told many times I'd make a good lawyer too =)

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: Roxanna <madideas@zoomintern et.net> Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 10:53:47 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Son so moody and mean

Yes, that is true. The bad language is a problem in the pre-teen/teen years. I think we even have it with my 20 yo (hfa) but he has learned to do it behind our backs. But his siblings tell on him a lot and I am still trying to get him to stop doing it.

One feature my ds picked up is to "beep" in that high pitched beeping sound in place of the bad word. You know how they do that on tv all the time - bleep out words we shouldn't hear...well, Sponge bob had one episode about nasty words. I do admit, it was a funny episode really. But it haunted us and still does because my ds started beeping after that. If he wanted to curse at anyone, he would say, "You are a BEEEEP!" or "Son of a BEEEP!" Sure, we didn't hear the actual nasty words, but they were there anyway. And it was even more embarrassing in public. Nobody notices if someone says "s**t, he**, or da**" these days but everyone looks when they hear a loud "BEEP!"

On a funny note, I noticed that some of the neighbor kids were copying his example so that they could say bad words and not get in trouble, lol. That part I thought was funny. But anyway, I finally told him a "Beep" was the same as if he was saying the actual word so he would get in trouble for it anyway. That seems to have slowed it down some and I am not constantly hearing beeping. There are still bad days when the two younger ds's are upstairs playing and they get mad at eachother - then all I hear is screaming and beeping, lol...The new phrase from cartoons/kid shows lately for him is to say, "What the....?" leaving the "he**" part silent but hanging there. I noticed this is a big phrase lately on tv shows, even for kids. And of course, nobody does it better than my 12 yo. If you heard it once or twice,

here or there, you probably wouldn't really notice it. But my 12 yo doesn't do that - doesn't integrate it normally. Instead, he says it ALL THE TIME. Pretty soon, your eyes are spinning when he even says the first word, you are so sick of hearing it.

RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else...

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so moody and mean> > > > > > Hi all! I am curious...I am not sure if this is just my son or > others > > have the same problems.> > > > My son is 13 and he tries to act "cool"...wants his hair long, > pant > > worn to low down, and wants nothing to do with us....if I talk to > him > > in public...he makes the evilist look and answers in a nasty > tone. > > > > He doesn't help around the house ...just intersted in xbox live. > That > > is his SOLE life....he has a girlfriend.. .but even that has > > cooled...he only cares about getting his way.> > > > Tonight, he asked if I would go back out and pick up his > friend...I > > told him NO....I am tired of being taxi for everybody and my son > > doesn't do anything I ask so why should I do

something he asks. > He > > told me he "hates me" and stomped off to the den. I went in and > told > > him not to start xbox becuase his TSS was coming....he said I not > > going to talk to him...and he was nasty ...so I went over and > > said...fine and pull the xbox out and took it to my room. He then > > told me "I wish you would go to hell" "I hate you"...I hope you > burn > > in hell with Poppy." So, I now sit here very down in the dumps. I > > have a very very cruel son...and I don't like him at the moment > and I > > really don't care what happens as I feel burnt out and tired.> > > > Jan> > > > > > > > > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- --------- --------- --------- -> ----------> > > > > >

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January 22, 2009