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Thanks for all the new tips, especially curious about the driving!

My DS loves the idea of driving (even at 10) and did remarkably well

at the driving course in Legoland,,,, far better than the

other 'maniacs' on the course! I can only hope it is a good sign of

good driving in the real world---in about 8 years!! LOL

I am in Fresno, CA- In the central valley (biggest in the WORLD) and

have an incredibly supportive family as well. The 'friend' thing is

a source of dismay, but I tell and myself that sometimes you

have to 'grow into' your friends, kinda like the clothes and gizmos

that get passed down from others. He gets along great with the

younger, and adult types, just not 10-14 crowd as yet.

He is lucky in that he is part of a 'magnet' school that focuses on

the visual, dramatic and musical arts programs. It is also a K-8

school, and now with this new designation, the likelihood of his

being 'expelled' or removed from this school is greatly reduced.

This school has made a dramatic change in his academics and general

love of learning. He went from a majority of 'D' grades to a 'B'

average in one semester and continued all through the school year. I

am so proud. now... to work on the social skills!

I'm a teacher as well. I teach 5th grade at another school, and have

for 12 years. So I feel remarkably lucky to be able to use my life

experiences with to assist my students with their 'unique'

issues. OCD with helps me get my students' OCD issues off the

table from in-class stressing.

Now that is 5th grade, and at a Christian Camp for a week, I

bravely removed some of the more juvenile games, toys and 'stuff'

from his room. In hopes of helping him visualize a more mature image

of himself. Tons of stuffed bears, board games (candyland, chutes

and ladders - which he doesn't play with) are to receive new lives

with some fortunate children that need them. just hordes them

and has difficulty letting go. I'm hoping this doesn't send him over

the edge, advice anyone?? I'm putting that stuff in the garage for a

week to see how it plays out when he gets home. Then the final cut

to a charity.

Steed

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Hi and welcome!! Wow you got your son to camp! Good for you...that is a plus! And, the school he goes to sounds wonderful....my son is 12 3/4 and going into 7th. 5th grade was the hardest...my sister a teacher in AZ (spe ed for 30 years) said 5th grade is the hardest. I think it was extra hard on my son as he was in an inclusion class and his case manager was a terror on wheels. She disliked my son from the beginning and was bent on changing him....and since he would not conform to her standards ...she really clamped down on him. He would pick everything...clothes, hair, fingers, pens, and even his nose. Of course this is what grossed her out and so she was determined to make him quit....guess what ...back fire....he only did it more to annoy her...Our kids are smart cookies. They have such a different outlook on things, learn differently

and interpret things differently.

As far as your son's stuff...I just gave away some of my son's stuff....he finally out grew them and gave me the okay...we gave them to his mobile therapist who gives them to needy families or uses them as rewards for the kids she works with.

Maybe talk to your son first...see how he feels about it...tell him there are children out there with no toys at all...I'm not sure if he will understand that....see if he is ready...if not why rush it....he will get there....

My son does better with adult and older children. He is not crazy about younger kids...he says they can be annoying ...like he himself isn't. Ha Ha!!!!!

Does your son have services such as a TSS??? If he does, maybe they can work on social skills....my son is just getting it now....and he knows if he has not taken his meds. he can be really annoying.

Role play with your son. Listen when he is hanging out with another child...see if you pick up anything he does that may turn the other kids off...ask his teachers to observe.

Observe people together and ask your son what he sees...does he intrepret people correctly....

And, hang in there...read and post and read and ask questions...read what ever you can get your hands on...

jan

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From: greenbirdocean <greenbirdocean@...>Subject: ( ) New in the process Date: Thursday, July 17, 2008, 7:39 PM

Thanks for all the new tips, especially curious about the driving! My DS loves the idea of driving (even at 10) and did remarkably well at the driving course in Legoland,,,, far better than the other 'maniacs' on the course! I can only hope it is a good sign of good driving in the real world---in about 8 years!! LOLI am in Fresno, CA- In the central valley (biggest in the WORLD) and have an incredibly supportive family as well. The 'friend' thing is a source of dismay, but I tell and myself that sometimes you have to 'grow into' your friends, kinda like the clothes and gizmos that get passed down from others. He gets along great with the younger, and adult types, just not 10-14 crowd as yet. He is lucky in that he is part of a 'magnet' school that focuses on the visual, dramatic and musical arts programs. It is also a K-8 school, and now with this new designation, the likelihood of his

being 'expelled' or removed from this school is greatly reduced. This school has made a dramatic change in his academics and general love of learning. He went from a majority of 'D' grades to a 'B' average in one semester and continued all through the school year. I am so proud. now... to work on the social skills!I'm a teacher as well. I teach 5th grade at another school, and have for 12 years. So I feel remarkably lucky to be able to use my life experiences with to assist my students with their 'unique' issues. OCD with helps me get my students' OCD issues off the table from in-class stressing.Now that is 5th grade, and at a Christian Camp for a week, I bravely removed some of the more juvenile games, toys and 'stuff' from his room. In hopes of helping him visualize a more mature image of himself. Tons of stuffed bears, board games (candyland, chutes and ladders - which

he doesn't play with) are to receive new lives with some fortunate children that need them. just hordes them and has difficulty letting go. I'm hoping this doesn't send him over the edge, advice anyone?? I'm putting that stuff in the garage for a week to see how it plays out when he gets home. Then the final cut to a charity. Steed

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It might have helped to have him help get rid of stuff. You might frame it in a way that he gets rid of those things and then you take him out to buy a new game or two to replace the babyish ones?

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Thanks for all the new tips, especially curious about the driving! My DS loves the idea of driving (even at 10) and did remarkably well at the driving course in Legoland,,,, far better than the other 'maniacs' on the course! I can only hope it is a good sign of good driving in the real world---in about 8 years!! LOLI am in Fresno, CA- In the central valley (biggest in the WORLD) and have an incredibly supportive family as well. The 'friend' thing is a source of dismay, but I tell and myself that sometimes you have to 'grow into' your friends, kinda like the clothes and gizmos that get passed down from others. He gets along great with the younger, and adult types, just not 10-14 crowd as yet. He is lucky in that he is part of a 'magnet' school that focuses on the visual, dramatic and musical arts programs. It is also a K-8 school, and now with this new designation, the likelihood of his being 'expelled' or removed from this school is greatly reduced. This school has made a dramatic change in his academics and general love of learning. He went from a majority of 'D' grades to a 'B' average in one semester and continued all through the school year. I am so proud. now... to work on the social skills!I'm a teacher as well. I teach 5th grade at another school, and have for 12 years. So I feel remarkably lucky to be able to use my life experiences with to assist my students with their 'unique' issues. OCD with helps me get my students' OCD issues off the table from in-class stressing.Now that is 5th grade, and at a Christian Camp for a week, I bravely removed some of the more juvenile games, toys and 'stuff' from his room. In hopes of helping him visualize a more mature image of himself. Tons of stuffed bears, board games (candyland, chutes and ladders - which he doesn't play with) are to receive new lives with some fortunate children that need them. just hordes them and has difficulty letting go. I'm hoping this doesn't send him over the edge, advice anyone?? I'm putting that stuff in the garage for a week to see how it plays out when he gets home. Then the final cut to a charity. SteedNo virus found in this incoming message.

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