looking for help/opinion

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My almost 8 year son is making progress in so many area, but still

struggles with social skills.

Yesterday at the park, he tried to chase and kiss some older

elementary aged girls...I talked to him and had him stop.

The girls continued to play chase with him and one mom said it even

looked like they were " egging him on " . He started playing with

another male friend and left the girls alone.

As we left one of the girl's dad stopped me and said, " Your son has

been trying to kiss my daughter and I told him to stop. I will not

tolerate this " .

I felt a little off gurad as my son had not been playing with them

for several minutes, he had stopped trying to kiss/chase them, and I

felt the last statement was a little to much like a threat. I told

the dad I would talk with my son as I also felt it was not okay.

As we got in the car to leave I started talking with my son. Out of

eyesight from the dads these girls, they started laughing and teasing

my son for " getting him in trouble " .

I was very angry...got out of the car, and stopped the dads

saying, " Excuse me, while I am getting onto my son about his behavior

I would like you to do the same with their teasing him. "

One of the girls started tearing up (and as a mom and teacher she was

totally faking it) and the dad put his arm around her and they told

the girls not to listen to me and totally did not acknowledge me.

I told my son that his actions were inapporpriate but that the girls

were also not right (and confusing) to still laugh and play with him

after I got onto him. My plan is to not let him play with these girls

the next time they are at the park and explain they are trying to get

him in trouble.

I still feel it was apporpriate to speak up, but my husband says it

didn't change or help anything. I am sure I am protective of my son,

but we always make him responsible for his behavior...meds,

supplements or not. He has enough trouble with reading social skills

he doesn't need kids being manipulative.

He has 4 more years at this school and my daughter starts

kindergarten there next fall. This is not the first situation with

what I call this group of parents (We volunteer and do everything so

we are entitled....)

I guess I am venting mostly, but wonder should I have just let it go

and only talk with my son or do I continue to speak out in these

situations...any thoughts or suggestions appreciated.