RE: Re:Married to an aspie

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I knew from the beginning that my husband was "weird", but he was the one to realize the similarities between him and our son. We would like to have a formal diagnosis for him.

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From: Miriam <callis4773@...> Sent: Tuesday, February 17, 2009 1:41:13 PMSubject: ( ) Re:Married to an aspie

For me it was a "come to realize" thing. My husband realized it too so it helped.>> , > > I am reading this group mainly because of the difficulties I have with my> spouse, although I do believe my oldest (25) and youngest (7) dd's have Asp.> I am awaiting 2 books from Amazon right now. They are _The Other Half> of Asperger Syndrome: A guide to an Intimate Relationship with a Partner who> has Asperger Syndrome_ and _Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term> Relationships_ . I will try to let report here what I think after I read> them. I think I might try to visit that wivesofaspies group too. > > I am curious. do most of the wives

just 'come to realize' the spouse's> asperger's, or is it usually a formal diagnosis? > > > > Thanks,> > >

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Same with us....a come to realize thing as well....for both of us. I have read some of the books. They didn't help much. Basically confirming "it is what it is...."

( ) Re:Married to an aspie

For me it was a "come to realize" thing. My husband realized it too so it helped.>> , > > I am reading this group mainly because of the difficulties I have with my> spouse, although I do believe my oldest (25) and youngest (7) dd's have Asp.> I am awaiting 2 books from Amazon right now. They are _The Other Half> of Asperger Syndrome: A guide to an Intimate Relationship with a Partner who> has Asperger Syndrome_ and _Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term> Relationships_. I will try to let report here what I think after I read> them. I think I might try to visit that wivesofaspies group too. > > I am curious. do most of the wives just 'come to realize' the spouse's> asperger's, or is it usually a formal diagnosis? > > > > Thanks,> > >

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Same for us too –

although we didn’t come to realise until after it had nearly destroyed

our family.

After life had settled down again then we

finally began talking and figured it out through DD. Since then though it has been the most

positive step we’ve taken as we’ve begun to figure out and laugh

gently at the various situations it creates – appreciating the

differences rather than viewing each other as obstructive. For us a label has “enabled”

rather than “disabled”.

It’s never been formally diagnosed

in any of DH’s family so we are paving the way with DD but have been told

the formal dx should come through in the next few months for her.

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Re:Married to an aspie

Same with us....a come to realize

thing as well....for both of us. I have read some of the books.

They didn't help much. Basically confirming " it is what it

is.... "

( ) Re:Married to an aspie

For me it was a

" come to realize " thing. My husband realized it too

so it helped.

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I learned a lot about myself after my 2 kids were diagnosed.