New here

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Hi, I'm kinda new here. I joined a while ago because my oldest granddaughter is

an auspie. She is over 23 now so out of my hands mostly. She just got a real

job and I am hoping this will be good for her. It is the kind of job where each

thing is delineated and she can be told exactly what to do in every situation.

This is just what she needs. She gets totally lost when it comes to living in

the real world of decision making and initiating action.

My problem now is her youngest sister, 16 yrs. I have had to do much of the

raising of the 4 sisters since my daughter became incapacitated due to drugs and

other addictions. I have had DGD (dear granddaughter) for 3 years now. She is

much like her older sister but because the older one is so obviously disabled it

made it hard to see this one's disabilities. She was tested last year and got

an IEP but not a 504. They said she was just too smart. She was off the charts

in some areas and way below in others. They can't help. It is an alternative

high school. Of course all the teachers are also auspies not really but maybe

borderline. She has been failing most things for years now and it looked like

some oppositional things but reading here makes me wonder. She definitely has

attachment issues because both her parents have abandoned her. Lately she has

taken a turn for the worse and I'm worried.

We are presently getting her some neurofeedback, a series of 20 treatments that

might help her be more in balance in her brain. The last year has been bad

where she seems to be withdrawing into her own little world of fantasy. She

brags a lot too. Does anyone have that problem? One more thing, she did have a

job for several months and had a very good attitude with work. We had decided

that if worse comes to worse at least she could get a job and not starve.

So I just want to see what I might learn here. Thanks for listening.

Jill