any advice welcome!....

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this time last year my son was 4 1/2 and his school pointed out to me that his

" quirks " and lack of social skills weren't quite normal, he was seen by the

school nurses who suggested he had aspergers and when i read up on it i realised

it fits with his behaviour. unfortunately he got severly bullied at school and

they excused the bullying as my son was different to the other children (as if

he deserved it!) so i changed his school in june. we then got refferred to the

childrens developement centre and saw an awful dr who hadnt read the notes (she

didn't see that this had orriginally been picked up by the school, NOT ME! and

she blamed his behaviour on being an only child when he has a sister!) the forms

his new school (he'd only been there a few weeks) had filled out implied he had

adhd and my forms implied he had aspergers, i was treated as if i was there

because i wanted my son to have problems which couldn't be further from the

truth. i left that meeting being told she doesnt diagnose children under 6 and

she'd review him in a few months. we went back in december and once again the dr

wasnt interested in anything i had to say and both mine and the schools forms

came back for aspergers this time but the dr said theres nothing wrong with him

he's just immature and she'd see us in a year when he was over 6. i then got

sent a letter saying he'd been discharged and if i had any problems to speak to

the health visitor. i was going to leave it but recently he's been so negative

and a couple of his traits i need help with how to help him with them (he has a

special way of going to the toilet and will only go at home and has had

accidents because he wont go at school and he struggles immensley in new social

situations, he gets so upset over little things and has other problems that i

cant find ways of helping him cope) i'm now waiting for the school nurses to

refer him again but i'm worried that i'm dragging him (and me) through it all

again but not going to get any help. its driving me mad because i just want him

to be happy and i need help on how to understand him better, its breaking my

heart.