Re: My husbands Ex, what should i do?

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Sounds like an annoying grade school yard competition! I'd just ignore her story about the youngest child, at least for the time being. I wasn't sure if I read your letter correctly, but are you saying that your husband is the father of the 2 children your friend has? If that's the case, I'd let him deal with getting the answers. Best for him to get the answers directly from the pediatrician. You've got enough on your plate to handle. You don't need stories from her to add to your head spins!! Mimsnoilef2000 <noilef2000@...> wrote: Ok my husbands ex girlfriend and I were best friends since 8th grade.Although she didn't like the fact that i started to go out with her exa couple months after they broke up we have remained friends.My husband and his ex had two kids. Their youngest son is only a monthand a half older than my oldest son.During one of our usual calls seeing what each of us were doing andhow the kids are i told her about the doctor said my son has AS andexplained about what it was since she DIDN'T know, and about me tryingto get him evaluated. After i told her she got all happy saying thatthe doctor (all four of our boys have the same pediatrician) told herthat her youngest son was autistic.I know this is not true because my husband does check with thePediatricians office to keep an update on visits the kids

outside ofour household have. I told my mom this and when my mom confronted myhusbands ex, she claimed her son was put into birth to three for AS,when my mom asked her why/proof, she said it was because her son hits.I know that her side of the family has multiple mental issues. Butwhen it comes to her son having ANY type of autism, we know thats nottrue. We have noticed that anything that is or has been wrong with myson it has to happen with hers. My son had tubes in his ears, shegetting a referal to see if hers needs it too. My son is on pediasurecause he wont eat, she claims her son doesnt eat too. That i fondfunny cause if im over at her house of her son is at mine or daycare,this kids eats like there is gonna be no tomorow.Short of beating it into her head i don't know how to get her tounderstand that her claiming that her son has been diagnosed with ASlike mine has, when we already have proof that the

doctor said hedidn't, is not something to be saying. Its not fun and games topretend your child has ANY type of autism and she shouldn't be tellingeveryone that he's autistic. I know it might be her trying to relatemore to me but this is going overboard. Any advice?

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I don't mean to sound mean, but I think you are taking it overboard. She is doing all the talk, but it really isn't hurting anyone but her. So what if she says this. I don't think this is a fixable situation. Let bygones be bygones.

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Ok my husbands ex girlfriend and I were best friends since 8th grade.Although she didn't like the fact that i started to go out with her exa couple months after they broke up we have remained friends.My husband and his ex had two kids. Their youngest son is only a monthand a half older than my oldest son.During one of our usual calls seeing what each of us were doing andhow the kids are i told her about the doctor said my son has AS andexplained about what it was since she DIDN'T know, and about me tryingto get him evaluated. After i told her she got all happy saying thatthe doctor (all four of our boys have the same pediatrician) told herthat her youngest son was autistic.I know this is not true because my husband does check with thePediatricians office to keep an update on visits the kids outside ofour household have. I told my mom this and when my mom confronted myhusbands ex, she claimed her son was put into birth to three for AS,when my mom asked her why/proof, she said it was because her son hits.I know that her side of the family has multiple mental issues. Butwhen it comes to her son having ANY type of autism, we know thats nottrue. We have noticed that anything that is or has been wrong with myson it has to happen with hers. My son had tubes in his ears, shegetting a referal to see if hers needs it too. My son is on pediasurecause he wont eat, she claims her son doesnt eat too. That i fondfunny cause if im over at her house of her son is at mine or daycare,this kids eats like there is gonna be no tomorow.Short of beating it into her head i don't know how to get her tounderstand that her claiming that her son has been diagnosed with ASlike mine has, when we already have proof that the doctor said hedidn't, is not something to be saying. Its not fun and games topretend your child has ANY type of autism and she shouldn't be tellingeveryone that he's autistic. I know it might be her trying to relatemore to me but this is going overboard. Any advice?

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no advice, but it sounds like she envies you. (not with your son having autism) its you... maybe she sees you as a strong woman, that is in control of everything. and can handle yourself in all situations. so, she envies you.noilef2000 <noilef2000@...> wrote: Ok my husbands ex girlfriend and I were best friends since 8th grade.Although she didn't like the fact that i started to go out with her exa couple months after they broke up we have remained friends.My husband and his

ex had two kids. Their youngest son is only a monthand a half older than my oldest son.During one of our usual calls seeing what each of us were doing andhow the kids are i told her about the doctor said my son has AS andexplained about what it was since she DIDN'T know, and about me tryingto get him evaluated. After i told her she got all happy saying thatthe doctor (all four of our boys have the same pediatrician) told herthat her youngest son was autistic.I know this is not true because my husband does check with thePediatricians office to keep an update on visits the kids outside ofour household have. I told my mom this and when my mom confronted myhusbands ex, she claimed her son was put into birth to three for AS,when my mom asked her why/proof, she said it was because her son hits.I know that her side of the family has multiple mental issues. Butwhen it comes to her son having ANY type of autism, we

know thats nottrue. We have noticed that anything that is or has been wrong with myson it has to happen with hers. My son had tubes in his ears, shegetting a referal to see if hers needs it too. My son is on pediasurecause he wont eat, she claims her son doesnt eat too. That i fondfunny cause if im over at her house of her son is at mine or daycare,this kids eats like there is gonna be no tomorow.Short of beating it into her head i don't know how to get her tounderstand that her claiming that her son has been diagnosed with ASlike mine has, when we already have proof that the doctor said hedidn't, is not something to be saying. Its not fun and games topretend your child has ANY type of autism and she shouldn't be tellingeveryone that he's autistic. I know it might be her trying to relatemore to me but this is going overboard. Any advice?

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Hi, I know someone just like the person you described. what this person did was- want to prove she could do things better then me. when she did try to prove she can do it better. it involved another person (her husband) and her hurting him so bad including taking him to court. and making up a false story to put him out of her home.. but her end results proved her wrong and she couldn't get him out.. but he still had to go to court because of her cruel ways. when I thought about all the things this person did, and how they involved me, and her needing to prove she can do things better and failed. she started to hate me. but when I woke up to all this and all the negative things she has done for attention. because all she is about is money & craves attention. I decided to stay away from her all together & completely. I just don't

have time for someone like her. As bad as this sounds to you and anyone else. even though, in your situation your concerned about what she is doing to her child. I would avoid her completely. because the more you try to prove to her that there is nothing wrong with her child. " She " will prove to you there is. (that can get uglier for her child) so, are you really protecting the child?. with that said, someone mentioned just bring it up to her ped doctor. let him know what she is doing and let him check everything out. I think this person has issues that needs professional help. just like the person I know. Rose noilef2000 <noilef2000 (DOT) com> wrote: Ok my husbands ex girlfriend and I were best friends since 8th grade.Although she didn't like the fact that i started to go out with her exa couple months after they broke up we have remained friends.My husband and his ex had two kids. Their youngest son is only a monthand a half older than my oldest son.During one of our usual calls seeing what each of us were doing andhow the kids are i told her about the doctor said my son has AS andexplained about what it was since she DIDN'T know, and about me tryingto get him evaluated. After i told her she got all happy saying thatthe doctor (all four of our boys have the same pediatrician) told herthat her youngest son was autistic.I know this is not true because my husband does check with thePediatricians office to keep an update on visits the kids outside ofour household have. I told my mom this and when

my mom confronted myhusbands ex, she claimed her son was put into birth to three for AS,when my mom asked her why/proof, she said it was because her son hits.I know that her side of the family has multiple mental issues. Butwhen it comes to her son having ANY type of autism, we know thats nottrue. We have noticed that anything that is or has been wrong with myson it has to happen with hers. My son had tubes in his ears, shegetting a referal to see if hers needs it too. My son is on pediasurecause he wont eat, she claims her son doesnt eat too. That i fondfunny cause if im over at her house of her son is at mine or daycare,this kids eats like there is gonna be no tomorow.Short of beating it into her head i don't know how to get her tounderstand that her claiming that her son has been diagnosed with ASlike mine has, when we already have proof that the doctor said hedidn't, is not something to be saying. Its not

fun and games topretend your child has ANY type of autism and she shouldn't be tellingeveryone that he's autistic. I know it might be her trying to relatemore to me but this is going overboard. Any advice? Jewel <truegrittle@...> wrote: I would just ignore her comments about her kid having it but I wouldn't tell her much about the symptoms either. Take care,Betty noilef2000 <noilef2000 > wrote: Ok my husbands ex girlfriend and I were best friends since 8th grade.Although she didn't like the fact that i started to go out with her exa couple months after they broke up we have remained friends.My husband and his ex had two kids. Their youngest son is only a monthand a half older than my oldest son.During one of our usual calls seeing what each of us were doing andhow the kids are i told her about the doctor said my son has AS andexplained about what it was since she DIDN'T know, and about me tryingto get him evaluated. After i told her she got all happy saying thatthe doctor (all four of our boys have the same

pediatrician) told herthat her youngest son was autistic.I know this is not true because my husband does check with thePediatricians office to keep an update on visits the kids outside ofour household have. I told my mom this and when my mom confronted myhusbands ex, she claimed her son was put into birth to three for AS,when my mom asked her why/proof, she said it was because her son hits.I know that her side of the family has multiple mental issues. Butwhen it comes to her son having ANY type of autism, we know thats nottrue. We have noticed that anything that is or has been wrong with myson it has to happen with hers. My son had tubes in his ears, shegetting a referal to see if hers needs it too. My son is on pediasurecause he wont eat, she claims her son doesnt eat too. That i fondfunny cause if im over at her house of her son is at mine or daycare,this kids eats like there is gonna be no

tomorow.Short of beating it into her head i don't know how to get her tounderstand that her claiming that her son has been diagnosed with ASlike mine has, when we already have proof that the doctor said hedidn't, is not something to be saying. Its not fun and games topretend your child has ANY type of autism and she shouldn't be tellingeveryone that he's autistic. I know it might be her trying to relatemore to me but this is going overboard. Any advice? Take care, Betty Like movies? Here's a limited-time offer: Blockbuster Total Access for one month at no cost.

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Unfortunately, I don't see that there's anything you can do. If your dh is the father, he would be the one with some say in the situation. Technically, you're just an outsider. If it were me, I'd steer clear of her. She's probably just trying to push your buttons. Don't let her have that satisfaction. Mimsnoilef2000 <noilef2000@...> wrote: Unfortunantly my husband does not have anything to do with hisprevious half of his life.Im not bothered that

shes trying to shove the fact her son needs to belike mine, but its the fact she is telling EVERYONE, daycare, birth tothree, even my husbands family that he is autistic. She even makesthose comments to her son, like he can go ahead and hit other kids andtell him he wont get in trouble because hes autistic.My husband has even checked with the pediatrician and birth to three.There are no documentation saying that he is or had been diagnosedwith ANY type of developmental delays, autism, nothing. When we askthe childcare center and birth to three about it they said thats whatthe doctor TOLD her but she was unable to provide them with a notefrom the doctor for proof and goes off her word. My issue not only lies with her try to match up to me, which is whatit seems like, but her feeding people lies which can in the end harmher child.We should have envolved CPS a couple months ago due to the fact thatshe let her son go

a week with an notacable ear inffection, didnt givehim tylenol or anything, and refussed to take him to the doctor tillit got so bad trying to get a referal for tubes, even admitted shefigured if it didnt go away she thought she would get a referal fortubes. This was his 3rd ear infection in life and she started thisafter my son had tubes in his ears for 1-2 ear infections a monthsince 3 months of age. We even have the dr visit report of her doing this.My concern is how to get her to knock off the autism stuff before shehurts her son for attention.My uncle had dyslexia when he was young and they put him in special edcause they though that his learning disability made him dumb, he isnormal and now unsocial because of that experience when he was young.I dont want her to do this to her son.I know my husband cant do anything, we have certian reasons why, butwhat can i do to stop this mine sons has to be like yours

crap?I would accept her autism story IF it already hasnt been ruled out bythe Dr.

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