Preparing for School, Recs for Social Phobias, Stranger Anxiety

[Guest guest]

I believe we may have found the school for 6 yo dd; a private Christian school

with a very strong special ed department. Now, how to prepare her? I am already

worried she's going to be expelled. She is horribly rude to anyone she doesn't

know and is dead set against going to school. She says she won't do any of the

work and she'll just sit there and be rude all day. Great. Any ideas? Is it

advisable to offer her a reward for not showing these rude behaviors to

strangers? Am I going about this the wrong way? I don't want her chatting with

people on the street but everyone at the school will be strangers at first and

I'm trying to turn this around. And how can I convince her that every child in

the world isn't being mean and teasing her? She's dead set that everyone is mean

to her when she's the one with the poor attitude. I know I keep harping on this

but I'm very, very worried about her being about to cope " out there. " We have

three and a half months to implement some strategies and behavior therapy, I

just don't know what the best approaches are.

Thanks in advance,

in FL

[Guest guest]

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> I believe we may have found the school for 6 yo dd; a private Christian

school with a very strong special ed department. Now, how to prepare her?

Here is my BTDT. Ny 14yo with AS is now in public school, but we did private

for a couple of years. Explain your daughter to them, just like you just did to

us, and let them do their thing. Don't ignore what they are doing, but don't

assume you need to take over or tell them what they need to do. Give them a

chance to do their job--you're paying a lot of money for it! Don't make

unnecessary work for yourself. They wouldn't have accepted her if they weren't

up for the challenge.

Ruth

[Guest guest]

I think I would try to use the 3 1/2 months to find things that will work.

SOMETHING must work for motivating her, you just have to find it, and may need

to get very creative.

Another thing is I would really get into Social Stories; I'm not sure if you've

tried those before. Even those that aren't officially 'social stories' books,

but have a story line that show what happens in different situations have been

very helpful.

Also, do you think it would be possible to find other kids who will be in her

class that live close enough to where you could try to setup play dates in

advance of school starting? (Don't know if the school would give you any

information on that tho...). This way, at least one or a couple of the kids in

her class won't be 'strangers'.

And always point out when people are being nice to her and not mean. Over and

over again...

TJ

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> I believe we may have found the school for 6 yo dd; a private Christian

school with a very strong special ed department. Now, how to prepare her? I am

already worried she's going to be expelled. She is horribly rude to anyone she

doesn't know and is dead set against going to school. She says she won't do any

of the work and she'll just sit there and be rude all day. Great. Any ideas? Is

it advisable to offer her a reward for not showing these rude behaviors to

strangers? Am I going about this the wrong way? I don't want her chatting with

people on the street but everyone at the school will be strangers at first and

I'm trying to turn this around. And how can I convince her that every child in

the world isn't being mean and teasing her? She's dead set that everyone is mean

to her when she's the one with the poor attitude. I know I keep harping on this

but I'm very, very worried about her being about to cope " out there. " We have

three and a half months to implement some strategies and behavior therapy, I

just don't know what the best approaches are.

>

> Thanks in advance,

> in FL

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