Re: anybody else have a destructive child

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My son, who is 11, is the same way. They just are curious but drives us crazy. Keeping him busy is a challenge. He wants to be a scientist when he grows up. They sell science kits for different experiments at Target or Walmart. Maybe you can check with your local electric apprentenship hall and see if someone want to take him and sponsor him.

You are not alone.

Ide

From: lori jennings <lozzy3us@...> Sent: Wednesday, April 8, 2009 11:44:41 AMSubject: ( ) anybody else have a destructive child

My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of the phone jack and trying to "rewire it". It seems he breaks every toy he gets. I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am wondering if anyone has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in wiring and elecricity, and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?

Lori

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What about buying a bunch of used appliances or similar from Goodwill that he

can take apart? I would supply with all the materials and safe liquids, powders

etc. that he could possibly want.

Sue in TN

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> My son, who is 11, is the same way.  They just are curious but drives us

crazy.  Keeping him busy is a challenge.  He wants to be a scientist when he

grows up. They sell science kits for different experiments at Target or

Walmart.  Maybe you can check with your local electric apprentenship hall and

see if someone want to take him and sponsor him.

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> You are not alone.

>

> Ide

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> From: lori jennings <lozzy3us@...>

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> Sent: Wednesday, April 8, 2009 11:44:41 AM

> Subject: ( ) anybody else have a destructive child

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> My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly

even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too

long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost

everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the

screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of

the phone jack and trying to " rewire it " . It seems he breaks every toy he gets.

I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am  wondering if anyone

has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in

wiring and elecricity,  and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is

the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?

> Lori

>

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http://www.hobbyengineering.com/CatEEKIDS.html

http://www.discoverthis.com/electricity.html

http://www.science-city.com/elkitprkitfo.html

I bet you could find a ton more If he’s interested in that

sort of thing, then I’d say that’s a good interest to harvest… but give him the

“tools”, so to speak, to explore and be curious in a safe way They make TONS

of cool science/electricity/etc kits for kids, with varying ages of

appropriateness Have fun looking and let us know what you find for his

birthday

Curiousity is a GOOD trait… as long as we can guide them to be

curious in a safe, and non-destructive (to self, others or property!) way !!

=)

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Sent: Wednesday, April 08, 2009 2:15 PM

Subject: ( ) anybody else have a destructive child

My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely

destructive. I can hardly even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know

if he has been in there too long I better check on him. He is always making a

potion. I have removed almost everthing out of the bathroom which irritates

my 16 yr old son. He takes the screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I

caught him taking the wires out of the phone jack and trying to " rewire

it " . It seems he breaks every toy he gets. I try to keep him busy and with

me most of the time. I am wondering if anyone has anything they give

their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in wiring and

elecricity, and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is the

23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?

Lori

[Guest guest]

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> My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly

even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too

long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost

everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the

screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of

the phone jack and trying to " rewire it " . It seems he breaks every toy he gets.

I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am  wondering if anyone

has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in

wiring and elecricity,  and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is

the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?

One of our sons is somewhat like this, although I wouldn't call him " extreme " .

He has cost us a lot of money though! I take it he has not lived with you long

since you are not used to this. The others' suggestions are great--keep old

appliances and gadgets and let him have them, buy him tools, buy him kits that

are of interest to him. There are all kinds of kits out there, although you

can't buy him just anything, you will need to get input from him on what

interests him. ALSO, find activities to keep him busy--sports and camps and

such. Encourage him to meet neighbor kids, kids at school, etc. Don't hesitate

to drive him to other kids' houses to play LOL. If he is going to be with you,

he will make friends (I assume he is not the aspie you are not on the list for)

and get busier. That will help. Try to find out why he is doing what he is

doing and do some teaching. Our son doesn't have any dx, but he definitely has

some focus issues and sensory issues. He'll do things like take batteries out

of one device for another without thinking through that maybe it would be

smarter to get new batteries. He'll kind of absent-mindedly " fix " something

that is bugging him (like your nephew and his re-wiring) without thinking that

maybe he should ask permission and maybe not everyone will like his " fix " . So,

we have to think about why he is doing these things, make him think about why he

is doing these things, talk to him, and request different behavior. Like the

AS, it is a long-term process. Giving him some fidget toys may help too. But,

if you can keep him busier doing more legitimate things, at least some of them

out of the house, that will help give you a break. I never found a very good

solution for the totally meaningless, strictly fidgety stuff like the way your

nephew is doing things like taking screws out of light switches. Although I can

happily report that he did grow out of totally meaningless stuff like that (he

is now 14).

Funny story... When he was about 3, he had just learned how to use a screw

driver and we accidentally left one in his room. He and his twin brother

completely disassembled their toddler beds during their naptime and were happily

playing with the pieces when we went to get them up. A funny story about a

nephew of mine... They left him with a radio and some tools for a few

minutes--went to the bathroom or something. He completely disassembled the

radio in a few minutes and was crying because he couldn't get it back together

again. I mean COMPLETELY, like every little piece. It was ruined LOL. So, you

really are not alone.

Ruth

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your suggestions. My nephew has lived with me for a little over 4 yrs. I am used to him taking things apart but it doesn't make it any easiet and his extent for tearing things up seems to be getting worse. He does not attend alot of things. He is my aspie. He has complications being around people so he doesn't have "playdates" so camps would be out of the questions. Besides we live in a extremely small community and there is not they offer for kids like him. I was thinking of some kind of kit for his birthday but don't really want to encourage the behavior.

Lori

From: r_woman2 <me2ruth@...>Subject: ( ) Re: anybody else have a destructive child Date: Wednesday, April 8, 2009, 2:18 PM

>> My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of the phone jack and trying to "rewire it". It seems he breaks every toy he gets. I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am wondering if anyone has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in wiring and elecricity, and anything to do with science. Also his

birthday is the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?One of our sons is somewhat like this, although I wouldn't call him "extreme". He has cost us a lot of money though! I take it he has not lived with you long since you are not used to this. The others' suggestions are great--keep old appliances and gadgets and let him have them, buy him tools, buy him kits that are of interest to him. There are all kinds of kits out there, although you can't buy him just anything, you will need to get input from him on what interests him. ALSO, find activities to keep him busy--sports and camps and such. Encourage him to meet neighbor kids, kids at school, etc. Don't hesitate to drive him to other kids' houses to play LOL. If he is going to be with you, he will make friends (I assume he is not the aspie you are not on the list for) and get busier. That will help. Try

to find out why he is doing what he is doing and do some teaching. Our son doesn't have any dx, but he definitely has some focus issues and sensory issues. He'll do things like take batteries out of one device for another without thinking through that maybe it would be smarter to get new batteries. He'll kind of absent-mindedly "fix" something that is bugging him (like your nephew and his re-wiring) without thinking that maybe he should ask permission and maybe not everyone will like his "fix". So, we have to think about why he is doing these things, make him think about why he is doing these things, talk to him, and request different behavior. Like the AS, it is a long-term process. Giving him some fidget toys may help too. But, if you can keep him busier doing more legitimate things, at least some of them out of the house, that will help give you a break. I never found a very good solution for the

totally meaningless, strictly fidgety stuff like the way your nephew is doing things like taking screws out of light switches. Although I can happily report that he did grow out of totally meaningless stuff like that (he is now 14). Funny story... When he was about 3, he had just learned how to use a screw driver and we accidentally left one in his room. He and his twin brother completely disassembled their toddler beds during their naptime and were happily playing with the pieces when we went to get them up. A funny story about a nephew of mine... They left him with a radio and some tools for a few minutes--went to the bathroom or something. He completely disassembled the radio in a few minutes and was crying because he couldn't get it back together again. I mean COMPLETELY, like every little piece. It was ruined LOL. So, you really are not

alone.Ruth------------------------------------

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We have made the following (or attempted the following) at our house.... Thus, my rapidly expanding grey hair and need for increasing doses of antianxiety medication for myself...

Nuclear reactor out of radioactive americium found in old smoke detectors, to heat coffee in the kitchen

Laser cannon from old CRT computer monitors, with attempts to radiate plants to see the effects

Cloning his sister and myself with drops of our blood mixed with albumin/egg combinations

cloning trees with diabetes syringes, extracting DNA from plants

airplanes, motorized items, solar powered things

windmill

windmill electricity generator

chloroform from household chemicals to kill ants

various bug killers made from tabasco sauce and garlic, sprayed on garden plants

rewired telephones, lightswitches, lamps, radios, etc.

Any/all possible chemistry experiments, including buying vast quantities of alcohol, acetone, and hydrogen peroxide

Collection of elements from element supply company samples

Half of our entire living room has taken apart and put back together computers, electronic circuit boards, wired, soldering irons, batteries, etc. etc. etc......

( ) anybody else have a destructive child

My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of the phone jack and trying to "rewire it". It seems he breaks every toy he gets. I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am wondering if anyone has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in wiring and elecricity, and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?

Lori

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your suggestions. My nephew has lived with me for a little over 4 yrs. I am used to him taking things apart but it doesn't make it any easiet and his extent for tearing things up seems to be getting worse. He does not attend alot of things. He is my aspie. He has complications being around people so he doesn't have "playdates" so camps would be out of the questions. Besides we live in a extremely small community and there is not they offer for kids like him. I was thinking of some kind of kit for his birthday but don't really want to encourage the behavior.

Lori

From: r_woman2 <me2ruth >Subject: ( ) Re: anybody else have a destructive child Date: Wednesday, April 8, 2009, 2:18 PM

>> My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of the phone jack and trying to "rewire it". It seems he breaks every toy he gets. I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am wondering if anyone has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in wiring and elecricity, and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?One of our sons is somewhat like this, although I wouldn't call him "extreme". He has cost us a lot of money though! I take it he has not lived with you long since you are not used to this. The others' suggestions are great--keep old appliances and gadgets and let him have them, buy him tools, buy him kits that are of interest to him. There are all kinds of kits out there, although you can't buy him just anything, you will need to get input from him on what interests him. ALSO, find activities to keep him busy--sports and camps and such. Encourage him to meet neighbor kids, kids at school, etc. Don't hesitate to drive him to other kids' houses to play LOL. If he is going to be with you, he will make friends (I assume he is not the aspie you are not on the list for) and get busier. That will help. Try to find out why he is doing what he is doing and do some teaching. Our son doesn't have any dx, but he definitely has some focus issues and sensory issues. He'll do things like take batteries out of one device for another without thinking through that maybe it would be smarter to get new batteries. He'll kind of absent-mindedly "fix" something that is bugging him (like your nephew and his re-wiring) without thinking that maybe he should ask permission and maybe not everyone will like his "fix". So, we have to think about why he is doing these things, make him think about why he is doing these things, talk to him, and request different behavior. Like the AS, it is a long-term process. Giving him some fidget toys may help too. But, if you can keep him busier doing more legitimate things, at least some of them out of the house, that will help give you a break. I never found a very good solution for the totally meaningless, strictly fidgety stuff like the way your nephew is doing things like taking screws out of light switches. Although I can happily report that he did grow out of totally meaningless stuff like that (he is now 14). Funny story... When he was about 3, he had just learned how to use a screw driver and we accidentally left one in his room. He and his twin brother completely disassembled their toddler beds during their naptime and were happily playing with the pieces when we went to get them up. A funny story about a nephew of mine... They left him with a radio and some tools for a few minutes--went to the bathroom or something. He completely disassembled the radio in a few minutes and was crying because he couldn't get it back together again. I mean COMPLETELY, like every little piece. It was ruined LOL. So, you really are not alone.Ruth------------------------------------

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My husband coincidentally just sent me this funny Dilbert video about kids who take things apart...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CmYDgncMhXwI think you guys can appreciate the humor.>> Hey!!! We've done the stun gun disposable cameras too!!!!! It was used as a stun gun for the aggressive rooster. We have a fire extinguisher that is empty that a neighbor gave him (they ALL give him things now!) and he fills it with the green food coloring/cornstarch and water and uses it to spray his sister for the fun of it. He pressurizes it with the air compressor. > Ahhh. Never a dull moment! Fortunately, he is actually afraid of getting hurt or hurting his sister so we haven't had any run ins with fire department yet. One day, however, I came home and there were about 5 gas and electric company cars parked in front of my house. I almost died. Fortunately, they were on the street fixing something else..... not here for me...> Once, the sheriff came to the door and I though "oh god, what." It was just about a neighbors dog and some neighbors complaint, nothing to do with us.....> I figure the FBI will show up some day at this rate...... He likes to hack into anything/everything in our house..... for fun. Also, anything wireless that is left insecure. He brings his laptop to the dentist every time and tells him how insecure his system is. They fixed it this last time. Nothing malicious, just to "penetration test" everyone.> I keep telling him..... it will be so sad when dear old mom turns you in for hacking! > ( ) anybody else have a destructive child> > > My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of the phone jack and trying to "rewire it". It seems he breaks every toy he gets. I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am wondering if anyone has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in wiring and elecricity, and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?> Lori > > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------> Feeling the pinch at the grocery store? Make dinner for $10 or less.>

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Sounds like my son. He is 10. He has taken apart light switches (with the

power still on), drilled holes in cabinets, destroyed furniture and taken apart

toys. We deal with it by trying to keep the tools locked up. We have refused

to buy more furnature for the play room so what they have is it. Any broken toys

are thrown away. He is just very curious about how everything works and doesn't

stop to think of the long term consequenses.

Vicki

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> > My son, who is 11, is the same way.  They just are curious but drives us

crazy.  Keeping him busy is a challenge.  He wants to be a scientist when he

grows up. They sell science kits for different experiments at Target or

Walmart.  Maybe you can check with your local electric apprentenship hall and

see if someone want to take him and sponsor him.

> >

> > You are not alone.

> >

> > Ide

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> > ________________________________

> > From: lori jennings <lozzy3us@>

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> > Sent: Wednesday, April 8, 2009 11:44:41 AM

> > Subject: ( ) anybody else have a destructive child

> >

> >

> > My 9 yr old nephew who lives with us is extremely destructive. I can hardly

even let him go to the bathroom by himself. I know if he has been in there too

long I better check on him. He is always making a potion. I have removed almost

everthing out of the bathroom which irritates my 16 yr old son. He takes the

screws out of the light switches. Lastnight I caught him taking the wires out of

the phone jack and trying to " rewire it " . It seems he breaks every toy he gets.

I try to keep him busy and with me most of the time. I am  wondering if anyone

has anything they give their child to keep them busy. He is very interested in

wiring and elecricity,  and anything to do with science. Also his birthday is

the 23rd of this month and I am at a loss as to what to get him. Any ideas!?

> > Lori

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