Guest guest Posted January 16, 2008 Report Share Posted January 16, 2008 Hi Group, I'm looking for your ideas. Our daughter presents as anxious some days/times at home. She is four years old, and diagnosed with Aspergers and is also undergoing treatment for Sensory Integration. Sometimes she is " calm-alert " but at other times she gets hyper or anxious. We are faithfully completing her sensory diet. Her OT is going to try Cranial Sacral therapy for the first time this week, which she thinks may help with anxiety. Her anxiety is often in regards to her 18-month old brother getting her stuff. (her room, which is off-limits to him and she closes the door regularly; her toy she's playing with at the time or her drink etc.) We are consistent with giving her support if he interferes or gets in her space, and vice versa. We work on turn taking and waiting until one child is finished with a toy before the other can use it. At other times she is also anxious/demanding towards us, her parents. She panics and wants things a certain way. She is very controlling. Some of the inappropriate things she does when she's anxious and not calm/alert is screaming, grabbing objects, pushing brother. Also an issue with throwing objects but it could be caused by sensory needs which we are working on. So, what do we do to help her to be calm, besides the sensory things? Could this be a stage which she'll grow out of? How do we address the negative behaviors? We use consequences, but I'll admit it hasn't been consistent because I'm not convinced that she always knows what she's doing, or could control these reactions. She can go from playing calmly to a sudden anxious and impulsive reaction after a trigger. Or she could be in a general state of anxiety, about to tantrum, at which point I try to do calming sensory things. I really appreciate your ideas. Medication is the last thing we would want to consider, especially at this young age. My husband has also not accepted the diagnosis yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2008 Report Share Posted January 24, 2008 First off, you are wrong. One of the symptoms of Asperger's deals with their inability to understand " normal " social cues, expectations and behavior. She truly hasn't a clue that her behavior is inappropriate and not acceptable to non-Aspie population. Consistency is key to helping these kids. The consequence must fit the crime. Remember one thing: these kids have no sense of time. Grounding, for example, should not be as long as other kids. Explain the rationale of all expectations. Never assume they know. THEY don't. Too much activities, commotion, noise will cause anxiety. Watch for triggers that tend to make her worse. Their memories are not that great. This means you will need to sound like a parrot and repeat it again, and again, and again until they get it. However, a bright side to this. Once they get it they don't forget. Aspies have a hard time reading faces and social cues. They need help to recognize these things. So keep that in mind. The above will help decrease anxiety. Also try pressure on her body to help decrease her anxiety. Many parents will buy or make a vest or sorts with weights in it that " hug " the body to calm the child through the day. So, see if just holding her tightly for a moment ot two as you explain why her behavior is not appropriate. You may need to really break it down into " Do you remember how YOU felt when .......... " or " If you were (doing such and such) put her in the other shoe ... would you feel sad or happy if (whomever) did such and such to you? " There is a little to consider. <g> Dee > > Hi Group, > > I'm looking for your ideas. > .........snip........................... So, what do we do to help her to be calm, besides the sensory things? Could this be a stage which she'll grow out of? How do we address the negative behaviors? We use consequences, but I'll admit it hasn't been consistent because I'm not convinced that she always knows what she's doing, or could control these reactions. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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