New Things I have learned

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone....I can't thank you all enough for your encouraging

words and thought and prayers. I have discovered a few things and

thought I would pass it on....this is only what I have recently

discovered with my son and it doesn't mean it happens with all.

1. Friendships: I just recently learned from 3 of my son's friends

that the reason he loses friends is that he can be " really

annoying " ....in otherwords ...it's too much work for them. For

instance: my son's friend, E, was suppose to come over. But didn't

and D, my son, got upset. He called him and E said some things and

then hung up on him. E left some weird nasty comments on AIM. Well,

the next day E called my son and my son had me talk to E. E asked me

if I was Angry at him and of course I said no just disappointed in

that he hurt D so much. We talked and E explained that my son had

called him 12 times about coming over and the last time he called he

was on his way up. It got him so angry that he changed his mind. So

I spoke to E about D and explained his DX. I then said to E....next

time, instead of letting it get to that point...just tell D after the

2nd call. Let him know (in a good way...teach him.. I have now told

his 2 other friends. Now these boys are 1 and 2 years older than my

son so they are a little more mature. His good friend S who is 2

years older is the most understanding of all. I told him and asked

him to help D...to guide him if he could.....like a big brother. And,

S looked at me and nodded.

2. Jokes: E was playing my son's guitar...and told my son he had the

strap on backwards. So D said...you can switch it. E replied...yeah,

yeah, yeah I do all the work.....(he was kidding my son). But

could not tell that...he got a little upset and E had to tell him to

calm down. So, he doesn't seem to get the little jokes kids say or

do and takes things literally. And, maybe thats what happend on the

bus or other places?

3. loudness: I heard E tell my son several times to quiet down...he

was too loud. And, I do know my son can be Loud.

4. The kids roll their eyes when D says things...things most kids

would keep quiet about in front of adults or their parents. (it's

kind of nice that I can find out what is going on).

So, now I am going to write all these down so that my son's TSS and

the school can work with him on them. I also notice that my son can

not do his homework with noise or distraction. And, he said he loved

going to in-school suspension because they put him in the audiotrium

with a monitor. He said no one bothered him and he got all his work

done plus.

The only thing now is I am on pins and needles all the time...I am

waiting for the ball to drop any minute....D pissed someone off, or

he got teased or he slipped with his mouth or what ever might come

next.

I have learned all this just over the weekend and now that I have all

of you and know his DX and can keep reading and listening to him and

his friends. It's just scrary as kids today are so advanced.