Re: rollercoster on the downhill...fast

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omg, i know the feeling,and there is never enough time for anything, and when i take the time i feel guilty as if i should be doing something more important. where to start where to go, i just dont know anymore i want to give up sometimes myself but i know that is not the answer either. i feel like sometimes i am losing everything right before my eyes and just dont know how to fight for things anymore. sherryFrom: jrushen

<jrushen@...> Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 6:23:42 PMSubject: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast

yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at 3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made, homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my head.

Son got in trouble for call ex-girlfriend. ..fat.... went ot fix it...got no lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well ...fighting us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the hexx.....

I give up.

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And, I almost forgot...they sent him to fix-it for an hour and he was unable to eat lunch....when in fix it you can't go to lunchroom....but it was too late to order up lunch...no no no no!!!

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: jrushen <jrushen@...>Subject: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast Date: Wednesday, April 22, 2009, 6:23 PM

yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at 3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made, homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my head.Son got in trouble for call ex-girlfriend. ..fat.... went ot fix it...got no lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well ...fighting

us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the hexx.....I give up.

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Do not even think on giving up, you are your children's protector, refuge, only source of unconditional love. When you feel despair try to find the answer beyond yourself.I know how you feel, and if things get extremely difficult to manage I suggest you find a good residential program for your child, the farther away the better. It helped in my case. It will not "cure" your child but, depending on the program, it will teach him life skills, improve his self esteem, management of difficult situations etc.If you go this way, make sure you first visit the place and find out as much as possible about it.My AS d was in a place like that for more than a year and I do not regret it. She was 12 by then.God bless youSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeedFrom: Sherry Burford Date: Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:35:49 -0700 (PDT)< >Subject: Re: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast omg, i know the feeling,and there is never enough time for anything, and when i take the time i feel guilty as if i should be doing something more important. where to start where to go, i just dont know anymore i want to give up sometimes myself but i know that is not the answer either. i feel like sometimes i am losing everything right before my eyes and just dont know how to fight for things anymore. sherryFrom: jrushen <jrushen > Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 6:23:42 PMSubject: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at 3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made, homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my head. Son got in trouble for call ex-girlfriend. ..fat.... went ot fix it...got no lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well ...fighting us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the hexx..... I give up.

[Guest guest]

I can hear how hard you are working at keeping your family functional. My answer

to everything is does he have an IEP? You are working so hard in the school and

at home to keep order. The school

could be such a help to you. Few are though. I don't know if it is good luck or

not, but when my daughter gets stressed

she shuts down and then I catch up on my life. These kids just can't keep up

with a typical school day and then we end up being their life aide in all they

do. Yet we are suppose to have other responsibilities too. I really think for my

daughter she needs

to do 1/2 of what everyone else does otherwise life is total chaos,

anxiety and stress. This is very hard for us to accept and very difficult for

the school to accept too. And we all want our kids to be employed one day and

independent so we are all scaffolding them. Some days are too much. If too many

days are too much something

has to be changed.

Pam

In , " jrushen " <jrushen@...> wrote:

>

> yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my

meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my

husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have

absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at

3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by

husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made,

homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start

spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my

head.

>

> Son got in trouble for call ex-girlfriend...fat....went ot fix it...got no

lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know

he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail

that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well

....fighting us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too

angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg

what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his

French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the

hexx.....

>

> I give up.

>

[Guest guest]

thank you...he is so behind on work...and working full time in school myself...I find i can't keep up....so many things bombarding me...I am lucky i am dressed when i walk out the door. and I am so OCD that this is really affecting me...but I guess since i am so depressed that i just let it go...my house is a mess from top to bottom and i don't know where to start ...so i don't. why bother. When I clean and put everything away on Saturday...by Sunday morning it looks like I did Nothing....my son walks thru the room and it becomes a disaster and my husband is the same......shoes everywhere...i trip over them...crumbs on counter and table...coats on chairs...beds unmade...towels and clothes dropped everywhere and his play room has video games all over out ot the case, paper clips all twisted and undone ...soda glassed here and there and I walk in from

work and want to CRY!

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: ACuitino@... <ACuitino@...>Subject: Re: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast Date: Wednesday, April 22, 2009, 6:59 PM

Do not even think on giving up, you are your children's protector, refuge, only source of unconditional love. When you feel despair try to find the answer beyond yourself.I know how you feel, and if things get extremely difficult to manage I suggest you find a good residential program for your child, the farther away the better. It helped in my case. It will not "cure" your child but, depending on the program, it will teach him life skills, improve his self esteem, management of difficult situations etc.If you go this way, make sure you first visit the place and find out as much as possible about it.My AS d was in a place like that for more than a year and I do not regret it. She was 12 by then.God bless you

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From: Sherry Burford Date: Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:35:49 -0700 (PDT)< >Subject: Re: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast

omg, i know the feeling,and there is never enough time for anything, and when i take the time i feel guilty as if i should be doing something more important. where to start where to go, i just dont know anymore i want to give up sometimes myself but i know that is not the answer either. i feel like sometimes i am losing everything right before my eyes and just dont know how to fight for things anymore. sherry

From: jrushen <jrushen (DOT) com> Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 6:23:42 PMSubject: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast

yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at 3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made, homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my head.Son got in trouble for call ex-girlfriend. ..fat.... went ot fix it...got no lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well ...fighting

us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the hexx.....I give up.

[Guest guest]

Yeah...he has an IEP...still not totally finalized from Sept...ha ha and I work for the same district. We did a FBA in March and I still have not seen the BP. We had speech testing and they didn't test him for Pragmatics...so then they did that...still have not seen that...omg ....I can go on and on.

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope">> yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at 3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made, homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my head.> > Son got in trouble for call

ex-girlfriend. ..fat.... went ot fix it...got no lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well ...fighting us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the hexx.....> > I give up.>

[Guest guest]

>

> Yeah...he has an IEP...still not totally finalized from  Sept...ha ha and I

work for the same district.  We did a FBA in March and I still have not seen the

BP. We had speech testing and they didn't test him for Pragmatics...so then they

did that...still have not seen that...omg ....I can go on and on.

Jan, your life is mine. I think all 4 members of our family have executive

dysfunction of various types and degrees, and it is so hard to hold it together.

I often feel overwhelmed.

I have some concrete pieces of advice.

Sounds like your son needs homework reduction on his IEP. That should be a

quick and easy fix. Just for ideas, my son gets " shortened assignments by 20

percent without eliminating skills " .

Also, I routinely take vacation and sick days off of work to catch up on things

while my kids and husband are out of the house. Yes, it affects my career

opportunities, but I made a decision that my family was going to come before

career and I don't regret it at all. It is the only way I can stay sane.

People may be critical about it, but they don't know what I'm dealing with, so I

let it go.

My third comment is that I get the feeling from your e-mails that there is a

problem making tweaks in your son's IEP--some kind of procedural snaffu. For

example, I think you should be able to call a quick IEP meeting with the bare

essential people to get a quick change such as the homework reduction. You

shouldn't have to wait for the next big meeting. Maybe this is something you

could discuss with the SPED director that you talk to?

Lastly, I think you need the same thing I am also lacking at this moment. That

is having someone at the school that is an overall coordinator for your son.

From talking to other parents regarding my request for high school IEP ideas,

I'm finding that many people don't have to be constantly calling/e-mailing all

the teachers trying to hold everything together. Instead the school has someone

coordinating all that. Sounds like a dream, doesn't it. Maybe your son already

has a resource teacher who is supposed to be doing this, but maybe needs to be

pushed a little to be a little more helpful to you?

Hugs, Jan--hang in there! Take it a step at a time and it will work out.

Ruth

[Guest guest]

Ruth,

My son has a Case Manager....but of course, she is overwhelmed too. She too was angry and upset that the art teacher and both French and Spanish teachers did not contact her about my son failing. He just refused to do the work...he didn't get it...overwhelmed...too many projects and I think he didn't see the point!!!!

We have a meeting coming up on May 7th to go over all this stuff and then a meeting on May 21st to go over transitions. I do know the Spec. Ed. supervisor in the Jr. Hi...and of course...if all fails I contact the Supt. of Sped ....she is so "for the kids".

thanks....I am going to ask for 1. smaller bus to leave later 2. no academic class last period and 3. reduced homework.

Thank for you in put...I am trying to hang in there....

I love all you guys....

I got the hug

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: r_woman2 <me2ruth@...>Subject: ( ) Re: rollercoster on the downhill...fast Date: Thursday, April 23, 2009, 7:34 AM

>> Yeah...he has an IEP...still not totally finalized from Sept...ha ha and I work for the same district. We did a FBA in March and I still have not seen the BP. We had speech testing and they didn't test him for Pragmatics.. .so then they did that...still have not seen that...omg ....I can go on and on.Jan, your life is mine. I think all 4 members of our family have executive dysfunction of various types and degrees, and it is so hard to hold it together. I often feel overwhelmed.I have some concrete pieces of advice.Sounds like your son needs homework reduction on his IEP. That should be a quick and easy fix. Just for ideas, my son gets

"shortened assignments by 20 percent without eliminating skills".Also, I routinely take vacation and sick days off of work to catch up on things while my kids and husband are out of the house. Yes, it affects my career opportunities, but I made a decision that my family was going to come before career and I don't regret it at all. It is the only way I can stay sane. People may be critical about it, but they don't know what I'm dealing with, so I let it go.My third comment is that I get the feeling from your e-mails that there is a problem making tweaks in your son's IEP--some kind of procedural snaffu. For example, I think you should be able to call a quick IEP meeting with the bare essential people to get a quick change such as the homework reduction. You shouldn't have to wait for the next big meeting. Maybe this is something you could discuss with the SPED director that you talk to?Lastly, I think you need the same thing I am

also lacking at this moment. That is having someone at the school that is an overall coordinator for your son. From talking to other parents regarding my request for high school IEP ideas, I'm finding that many people don't have to be constantly calling/e-mailing all the teachers trying to hold everything together. Instead the school has someone coordinating all that. Sounds like a dream, doesn't it. Maybe your son already has a resource teacher who is supposed to be doing this, but maybe needs to be pushed a little to be a little more helpful to you?Hugs, Jan--hang in there! Take it a step at a time and it will work out.Ruth

[Guest guest]

i am trying...i feel so tired and alone...although i have all you guys...it has been a strange year and the girls were something else....i pray that 8th grade will be better and he will be more mature.

it is so hard becuase my son can be so mean to me...tells me he hates me...than i have to work with the school ..who is so late in doing anything....and teachers, and the public.Ugh.

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: ACuitino@... <ACuitino@...>Subject: Re: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast Date: Wednesday, April 22, 2009, 6:59 PM

Do not even think on giving up, you are your children's protector, refuge, only source of unconditional love. When you feel despair try to find the answer beyond yourself.I know how you feel, and if things get extremely difficult to manage I suggest you find a good residential program for your child, the farther away the better. It helped in my case. It will not "cure" your child but, depending on the program, it will teach him life skills, improve his self esteem, management of difficult situations etc.If you go this way, make sure you first visit the place and find out as much as possible about it.My AS d was in a place like that for more than a year and I do not regret it. She was 12 by then.God bless you

Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed

From: Sherry Burford Date: Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:35:49 -0700 (PDT)< >Subject: Re: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast

omg, i know the feeling,and there is never enough time for anything, and when i take the time i feel guilty as if i should be doing something more important. where to start where to go, i just dont know anymore i want to give up sometimes myself but i know that is not the answer either. i feel like sometimes i am losing everything right before my eyes and just dont know how to fight for things anymore. sherry

From: jrushen <jrushen (DOT) com> Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 6:23:42 PMSubject: ( ) rollercoster on the downhill...fast

yesterday I felt so High and today so very low. Am I bi-polar? I am taking my meds. but all I do is cry and cry and cry. i am so tired...tired of fighting my husband, my son and the school....just tired. I just may call in sick...I have absolutely no time to make calls...need to make so many...and when I get home at 3:30 he is waling in the door and then followed by TSS....followed by husband...2 hours goes by and nothing is done...house is a mess, calls not made, homework to be done, emails to be written...on and on and on and on till I start spinning out of control like now and crawl in bed and pull the covers over my head.Son got in trouble for call ex-girlfriend. ..fat.... went ot fix it...got no lunch....and then missed part of math and is having a quiz tomorrow and I know he is going to fail...and a quiz on friday on sentences and I know he will fail that too....he got a 78 on his science test because he didn't study well ...fighting

us all night and then had a fight with x-girlfriend and was too angry to do well. At least his teacher is letting him re-take the test....omg what a great teacher. His art grade has not been fixed from the F and his French grade for this report card is a 30 becuase she didn't fix it...what the hexx.....I give up.