Re: School Crisis: Help !!

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> Ruth,�

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> No, I didn't contact the step-mom...she wanted him to serve time...family life

is not the greatest!!! So, I don't call ...I don't want to make things harder on

my student...if you know what I am trying to say....sad but true.

Jan, you wouldn't make things harder, you would make them better because the

parents would be more informed and would know there was someone at school doing

nice things for their daughter. If you are not contacting the parent directly,

that means you are taking the word of school administrators/teachers--you should

know from this list that that is not necessarily reliable. I know they say all

kinds of things at my child's school about me that aren't true. And I can't get

any of the teachers to talk to me--I'm sure for similar reasons as to what you

are feeling. So, they will never get to know me and never know that all the

gossip is not true. It is sad when parents have to wait until observations from

the autism team or whatever to find out what is going on at school with their

child.

I guess I'm just venting though... Just my two cents, I guess.

Ruth

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Tamaoki wrote: My son went through a period like this.

We are at the same place. School provide Home instruction is not working out. My

daughter is so low, everything is triggering an emotional raction. I don't want

to get into the details you get the picture. I may be doing more harm than good

having the school come to our house. I should call it quits. Let her regress and

recover

from the stress. She needs hugs and warm milk. Good medical

treatment (medication) once she can cope with the idea of it.

I am not going back. She said today crying I can't believe

I spent all those years their without a friend.

Gosh, heartbreaking. We have options though. The homeschoolers

have created a culture that is accepted. What a blessing.

She can regain her dignity and confidence.

We may have a private school that is more geared to LD's

that she may like. It seeemed still to have a full

load. She is not in any state for such challenging work.

I enjoyed reading your story. You found a place of peace

all the noise we all experience with public school

is quiet. How wonderful.

Pam

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> The solution for us was to make a decision that he would never have to go back

to that kind of school setting. We ultimately to put him in a private school

that specialized in AS. This school has been just wonderful for him. He is a

completely different person than he was a couple of years ago. He has friends,

good friends. He is happy, more confident. The classes are very small and highly

structured. The kids there have similar learning styles, but have a wide range

of interests.

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> Maybe your daughter will be willing to try going to a new school if she

thought of it as a place to make a fresh start, in a place with no bullies, with

students that were just like her & would want to be her friend.

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> When he was at home and not going to school, we tried working with tutors from

the school district, but he refused to cooperate. We went through several

tutors. They would come once or twice and then stop showing up. I think he had

maybe 10 hours of instruction for the whole semester. The school district didn't

really have a plan for him. They just decided to wait and see, and then maybe

put him in the ED classes at another high school. I took him for outings on the

weekend to get him out of the house & to try to make him laugh a little. I tried

teaching him things on my own, with mixed results. I told him over & over that

the problem wasn't with him - the problem was with the school not matching his

learning style.

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> I considered online schooling, and tried one course, but he refused to do the

work & in his state he really wasn't able to do the work. I also looked at a

homeschooling group that met once a week for classes, but they were reluctant to

accept a new student after their classes had started. Then I found the private

school that was perfect for him. I enrolled him using my own funds, and then

after a couple of months when everyone could see that he was actually going to

school every day and seemed happy there, the school district picked up the bill.

We also started some anti-anxiety medication, which helped I think as he started

at this new school.

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