Re: Re: my son that is 13--I can totally relate--been there!!

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From EXTREMELY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, here is what we just did for this with our now 14 year old----upped his anti-depressant, upped his ADHD medication, and he just started a new medication (added to his 'cocktail') for mood swings and depression. He is already on .25 mg of risperdahl three times a day. Anyway, you are describing him to a T!!!! He could not remember a thing; now, he is appearing and acting NORMAL (if that is possible)................it is weird.

GLAD TO HEAR OTHER PEOPLE ARE EXPERIENCING WHAT WE DID AT PUBERTY----------did not realize that it was for more than him, so thank you for the confidence / reassurance this morning!! I love knowing it is part of AS / part of him, and not him alone!!! Somehow, that helps me to be realistic and honest about what is happening for him (or something like that).

Ruthie

From: madideas@...Date: Tue, 6 May 2008 09:14:49 -0400Subject: Re: ( ) Re: my son that is 13

Hi ,

It sounds like you want to start a visual schedule like you had before and this time, it's not working. The people who are supposed to help you have kept you on a waiting list for over a year? Is that not ridiculous? Can you find somewhere else to go and get some help? Ask around and see. You can't sit around waiting for years when the problem is happening right now.

I'm not sure why the visual schedule is not working now. I think that is the key - try to figure out what is not working for your ds. Does he think it's too babyish? Does he get confused? Does he just not want to follow through? Once you figure out why he isn't using the schedule, you can hopefully fix what isn't working. In general, I would use a visual and written schedule for his age. He may prefer the words only, I don't know! So do what he prefers - ask him. I would also walk him through the schedule step by step until I saw that he could do it on his own. If that bugs him to have you standing around, then encourage him to do a good job on his own so you can stop monitoring him. Sometimes that is a big piece of encouragement! Then praise each step he does on his own!!!

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( ) Re: my son that is 13 Date: Wednesday, April 23, 2008, 8:11 PM

What kind of problems is he having getting back on the schedule?I find visual schedules work best , posted in high visibility areas.Hilery>> i have a son that is 13 he was diagonsed when he was 12 before that he > was diagonsed adhd im having problems getting him back on his routine > whe had it on paper for a long time then he remembered it and so we > took the paper out and now that he is going through pupority he cant > seem to get in the swing of his daily routine could any one help please > also the sleep thing his meds had to be changed and now he isnt > sleeping well at all the doc said he would suggest melatonia i havent > went to get it yet they tried clonidine last week and he was over > emotional so bad i had them take him off of that>

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Hey, My son is 10 1/2 - he is extremely tired lately - how do I know what is tiredness, what is AS, and what is early puberty? What do I do for that? I am very concerned. He takes meds. I will ask his doctor too. ShaunaBRYAN DOLEZAL <DOLEZAL123@...> wrote: From EXTREMELY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, here is what we just did for this with our now 14 year old----upped his anti-depressant, upped his ADHD medication, and he just started a new

medication (added to his 'cocktail') for mood swings and depression. He is already on .25 mg of risperdahl three times a day. Anyway, you are describing him to a T!!!! He could not remember a thing; now, he is appearing and acting NORMAL (if that is possible)................it is weird. GLAD TO HEAR OTHER PEOPLE ARE EXPERIENCING WHAT WE DID AT PUBERTY----------did not realize that it was for more than him, so thank you for the confidence / reassurance this morning!! I love knowing it is part of AS / part of him, and not him alone!!! Somehow, that helps me to be realistic and honest about what is happening for him (or something like that). Ruthie From: madideaszoominternet (DOT) netDate: Tue, 6 May 2008 09:14:49 -0400Subject: Re: ( ) Re: my son that is 13 Hi , It sounds like you want to start a visual schedule like you had before and this time, it's not working. The people who are supposed to help you have kept you on a waiting list for over a year? Is that not ridiculous? Can you find somewhere else to go and get some help? Ask around and see. You can't sit around waiting for years when the problem is happening right now. I'm not sure why the visual schedule is not working now. I think that is the key - try to figure out what is not working for your ds. Does he think it's too babyish? Does he get confused? Does he just not want to follow through? Once you

figure out why he isn't using the schedule, you can hopefully fix what isn't working. In general, I would use a visual and written schedule for his age. He may prefer the words only, I don't know! So do what he prefers - ask him. I would also walk him through the schedule step by step until I saw that he could do it on his own. If that bugs him to have you standing around, then encourage him to do a good job on his own so you can stop monitoring him. Sometimes that is a big piece of encouragement! Then praise each step he does on his own!!! RoxannaAutism Happens ( ) Re: my son that is 13 Date: Wednesday, April 23, 2008, 8:11 PM What kind of problems is he having getting back on the schedule?I find visual schedules work best , posted in high visibility areas.Hilery>> i have a son that is

13 he was diagonsed when he was 12 before that he > was diagonsed adhd im having problems getting him back on his routine > whe had it on paper for a long time then he remembered it and so we > took the paper out and now that he is going through pupority he cant > seem to get in the swing of his daily routine could any one help please > also the sleep thing his meds had to be changed and now he isnt > sleeping well at all the doc said he would suggest melatonia i havent > went to get it yet they tried clonidine last week and he was over > emotional so bad i had them take him off of that> Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now. No

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Being extremely tired could be puberty, getting poor quality sleep or even depression. Definitely ask the doc for a good check up and try to figure out what it is. Then you will know how to "attack" the problem.

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( ) Re: my son that is 13 Date: Wednesday, April 23, 2008, 8:11 PM

What kind of problems is he having getting back on the schedule?I find visual schedules work best , posted in high visibility areas.Hilery>> i have a son that is 13 he was diagonsed when he was 12 before that he > was diagonsed adhd im having problems getting him back on his routine > whe had it on paper for a long time then he remembered it and so we > took the paper out and now that he is going through pupority he cant > seem to get in the swing of his daily routine could any one help please > also the sleep thing his meds had to be changed and now he isnt > sleeping well at all the doc said he would suggest melatonia i havent > went to get it yet they tried clonidine last week and he was over > emotional so bad i had them take him off of that>

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