Re: 9 yr old ASPIE son was pushed by teacher

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Holy crap!!!

You did and said it perfectly.

Hugs to you and your son.

Keep us posted.

Robin

From: mommy2threeintheup <mommy2threeintheup@...>Subject: ( ) 9 yr old ASPIE son was pushed by teacher Date: Wednesday, April 22, 2009, 7:21 AM

My son was pushed by his teacher Monday. We had a snow day yesterday. I am attending a meeting with the teacher and principal this morning. My son is home with me. I am just wondering if I should call the police or have someone else come as a witness or what I should do. My son is honest to a fault...and will not even question punishment. he'll come home and tell me he's grounded if he has a really bad day. I believe him 100%. He said they were moving desks and he was going to help 2 other boys. His teacher told him he wasn't needed a few times but he wanted to help. She grabbed his wrist and shoved him backward. He fell into a chair. This was the email I sent to his teacher.Hi Marie. I have a few things to ask you about. Jayden said he was teased today by Sydney. I asked him if he told you. He said he did and you told him she was not teasing him. I asked him what happened and he told me she was repeatedly sticking her tongue out at him.

He sees it as teasing. I can definately see it as a form of teasing. He's easily set off and you know this. Do you have a different version?Also, according to what you wrote in his book, he didn't do any work as required today except for his bell work. Why didn't anything come home? You can not expect his behavior plan to work if you do not implement it. We talked about this before break at our last meeting. It's no longer a Jayden problem. It is a Marie problem. He can not be punished for your inconsistencies. I have not seen work come home yet. not once. Yet many days you say he refused to work. I don't get it. The plan is pretty simple. He gets one reminder. If he refuses, the work goes in his folder.The last and biggest problem. Please explain to me what happened in your room today. Why did you grab Jayden by the wrist and push him backwards, causing him to fall into your chair? I was very shocked during our conversation on the

way to see his counselor today. I spoke to Sandy and she is supposed to call me back tomorrow. You didn't mention any of this when I was IN YOUR ROOM today. I heard that he had a bad day from another little girl who was in the hall.I am really disappointed. I thought we all had a common goal but I see now all you are doing is biding time until Jayden is no longer in your room. I am hurt and angry that my child had to endure this all year. I will be thankful when this year is done.Wind(I also sent copies to the superintendent, principal, special ed director, school counselor and school social worker.)This was sent to the princiapl with a copy going to all the others, minus the teacher.Hi Sandy. I emailed Marie asking about the behavior plan and also the other incidences that happened in her room today. I told Jayden that I talked to you and that he needed to tell you what happened and he does not feel comfortable

doing so. He'd prefer to tell Mrs. Bond and Mrs. Horton. I hope this will be ok. I'd rather the facts, as he perceives them, be told to someone he feels comfortable talking to so that they get out. He tends to clam up when speaking to you as is typical with Asperger's.Here is what Jayden told me. First he said he doesn't like any of the teachers at school because now Mrs. Dunham hates him. I asked him why. He told me about Sydney teasing him by sticking her tongue out at him first and said Mrs. Dunham said she wasn't teasing him. I asked why he thought that meant she hated him. He said because she grabbed him and pushed him. I asked him where she grabbed him. He told me she grabbed his wrist and pushed him back. he fell into her chair. I asked why. He said because he wanted to help her move a desk and she told him no a few times. Even if she told him 100 times, there is no reason to grab him or push him. NONE! It's bad enough that he has been

getting punished all year for her inconsistencies but now she is grabbing him and pushing him? That's simply unacceptable! I have other people who Jayden has told this to as witnesses also. I am shocked, hurt and disgusted that I am entrusting my child to the school system every day. He deserves a lot better then what he's gotten from his education this year.I will be waiting to hear from you tomorrow morning regarding this. Wind

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Oh, BTW, how many inches did you get. I had heard it was snowing up north

We got the same storm but it was only rain and a little sleetty. Hope it melts

soon.

Vickie

> >

> > My son was pushed by his teacher Monday. We had a snow day yesterday. I am

attending a meeting with the teacher and principal this morning. My son is home

with me. I am just wondering if I should call the police or have someone else

come as a witness or what I should do. My son is honest to a fault...and will

not even question punishment. he'll come home and tell me he's grounded if he

has a really bad day. I believe him 100%. He said they were moving desks and he

was going to help 2 other boys. His teacher told him he wasn't needed a few

times but he wanted to help. She grabbed his wrist and shoved him backward. He

fell into a chair. This was the email I sent to his teacher.

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi Marie. I have a few things to ask you about. Jayden said he was teased

today by Sydney. I asked him if he told you. He said he did and you told him

she was not teasing him. I asked him what happened and he told me she was

repeatedly sticking her tongue out at him. He sees it as teasing. I can

definately see it as a form of teasing. He's easily set off and you know this.

Do you have a different version?

> >

> > Also, according to what you wrote in his book, he didn't do any work as

required today except for his bell work. Why didn't anything come home? You

can not expect his behavior plan to work if you do not implement it. We talked

about this before break at our last meeting. It's no longer a Jayden problem.

It is a Marie problem. He can not be punished for your inconsistencies. I have

not seen work come home yet. not once. Yet many days you say he refused to

work. I don't get it. The plan is pretty simple. He gets one reminder. If he

refuses, the work goes in his folder.

> >

> > The last and biggest problem. Please explain to me what happened in your

room today. Why did you grab Jayden by the wrist and push him backwards,

causing him to fall into your chair? I was very shocked during our conversation

on the way to see his counselor today. I spoke to Sandy and she is supposed to

call me back tomorrow. You didn't mention any of this when I was IN YOUR ROOM

today. I heard that he had a bad day from another little girl who was in the

hall.

> >

> > I am really disappointed. I thought we all had a common goal but I see now

all you are doing is biding time until Jayden is no longer in your room. I am

hurt and angry that my child had to endure this all year. I will be thankful

when this year is done.

> >

> > Wind

> >

> > (I also sent copies to the superintendent, principal, special ed director,

school counselor and school social worker.)

> >

> > This was sent to the princiapl with a copy going to all the others, minus

the teacher.

> >

> > Hi Sandy. I emailed Marie asking about the behavior plan and also the other

incidences that happened in her room today. I told Jayden that I talked to you

and that he needed to tell you what happened and he does not feel comfortable

doing so. He'd prefer to tell Mrs. Bond and Mrs. Horton. I hope this will be

ok. I'd rather the facts, as he perceives them, be told to someone he feels

comfortable talking to so that they get out. He tends to clam up when speaking

to you as is typical with Asperger's.

> >

> > Here is what Jayden told me. First he said he doesn't like any of the

teachers at school because now Mrs. Dunham hates him. I asked him why. He told

me about Sydney teasing him by sticking her tongue out at him first and said

Mrs. Dunham said she wasn't teasing him. I asked why he thought that meant she

hated him. He said because she grabbed him and pushed him. I asked him where

she grabbed him. He told me she grabbed his wrist and pushed him back. he fell

into her chair. I asked why. He said because he wanted to help her move a desk

and she told him no a few times. Even if she told him 100 times, there is no

reason to grab him or push him. NONE! It's bad enough that he has been getting

punished all year for her inconsistencies but now she is grabbing him and

pushing him? That's simply unacceptable! I have other people who Jayden has

told this to as witnesses also. I am shocked, hurt and disgusted that I am

entrusting my child to the school system every day. He deserves a lot better

then what he's gotten from his education this year.

> >

> > I will be waiting to hear from you tomorrow morning regarding this.

> >

> > Wind

> >

>

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Your e-mails are great and I would only involve the police if you are not satisfied with the out come to your meeting . you e-mails are very good and to the point . I went through this with my daughters kindergarten teacher (there was no shoving ) but bidding time till emaleigh was out of her class . Stand your ground and make sure you bring someone with you to be a wittiness to the meeting . Good luck with your meeting and keep us all posted .

From: mommy2threeintheup <mommy2threeintheup@...> Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 8:21:26 AMSubject: ( ) 9 yr old ASPIE son was pushed by teacher

My son was pushed by his teacher Monday. We had a snow day yesterday. I am attending a meeting with the teacher and principal this morning. My son is home with me. I am just wondering if I should call the police or have someone else come as a witness or what I should do. My son is honest to a fault...and will not even question punishment. he'll come home and tell me he's grounded if he has a really bad day.. I believe him 100%. He said they were moving desks and he was going to help 2 other boys. His teacher told him he wasn't needed a few times but he wanted to help. She grabbed his wrist and shoved him backward. He fell into a chair. This was the email I sent to his teacher.Hi Marie. I have a few things to ask you about. Jayden said he was teased today by Sydney.. I asked him if he told you. He said he did and you told him she was not teasing him. I asked him what happened and he told me she was repeatedly sticking her tongue out at him. He

sees it as teasing. I can definately see it as a form of teasing. He's easily set off and you know this. Do you have a different version?Also, according to what you wrote in his book, he didn't do any work as required today except for his bell work. Why didn't anything come home? You can not expect his behavior plan to work if you do not implement it. We talked about this before break at our last meeting. It's no longer a Jayden problem. It is a Marie problem. He can not be punished for your inconsistencies. I have not seen work come home yet. not once. Yet many days you say he refused to work. I don't get it. The plan is pretty simple. He gets one reminder. If he refuses, the work goes in his folder.The last and biggest problem. Please explain to me what happened in your room today. Why did you grab Jayden by the wrist and push him backwards, causing him to fall into your chair? I was very shocked during our conversation on the way

to see his counselor today. I spoke to Sandy and she is supposed to call me back tomorrow. You didn't mention any of this when I was IN YOUR ROOM today. I heard that he had a bad day from another little girl who was in the hall.I am really disappointed. I thought we all had a common goal but I see now all you are doing is biding time until Jayden is no longer in your room. I am hurt and angry that my child had to endure this all year. I will be thankful when this year is done.Wind(I also sent copies to the superintendent, principal, special ed director, school counselor and school social worker.)This was sent to the princiapl with a copy going to all the others, minus the teacher.Hi Sandy. I emailed Marie asking about the behavior plan and also the other incidences that happened in her room today. I told Jayden that I talked to you and that he needed to tell you what happened and he does not feel comfortable doing

so. He'd prefer to tell Mrs. Bond and Mrs. Horton. I hope this will be ok. I'd rather the facts, as he perceives them, be told to someone he feels comfortable talking to so that they get out. He tends to clam up when speaking to you as is typical with Asperger's.Here is what Jayden told me. First he said he doesn't like any of the teachers at school because now Mrs. Dunham hates him. I asked him why. He told me about Sydney teasing him by sticking her tongue out at him first and said Mrs. Dunham said she wasn't teasing him. I asked why he thought that meant she hated him. He said because she grabbed him and pushed him. I asked him where she grabbed him. He told me she grabbed his wrist and pushed him back. he fell into her chair. I asked why. He said because he wanted to help her move a desk and she told him no a few times. Even if she told him 100 times, there is no reason to grab him or push him. NONE! It's bad enough that he has been getting

punished all year for her inconsistencies but now she is grabbing him and pushing him? That's simply unacceptable! I have other people who Jayden has told this to as witnesses also. I am shocked, hurt and disgusted that I am entrusting my child to the school system every day. He deserves a lot better then what he's gotten from his education this year.I will be waiting to hear from you tomorrow morning regarding this. Wind

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not sure exactly how much snow we got that day but it was enough to close school.

From: Vickie Boehnlein <baneline@...>Subject: ( ) Re: 9 yr old ASPIE son was pushed by teacher Date: Wednesday, April 22, 2009, 3:40 PM

Oh, BTW, how many inches did you get. I had heard it was snowing up north We got the same storm but it was only rain and a little sleetty. Hope it melts soon. Vickie> >> > My son was pushed by his teacher Monday. We had a snow day yesterday. I am attending a meeting with the teacher and principal this morning. My son is home with me. I am just wondering if I should call the police or have someone else come as a witness or what I should do. My son is honest to a fault...and will not even question punishment. he'll come home and tell me he's grounded if he has a really bad day. I believe him 100%. He said they were moving desks and he was going to help 2 other boys. His teacher told him he wasn't needed a few times but he wanted to help. She grabbed his wrist and shoved him backward. He fell into a chair. This was the email I sent to

his teacher.> > > > > > > > Hi Marie. I have a few things to ask you about. Jayden said he was teased today by Sydney. I asked him if he told you. He said he did and you told him she was not teasing him. I asked him what happened and he told me she was repeatedly sticking her tongue out at him. He sees it as teasing. I can definately see it as a form of teasing. He's easily set off and you know this. Do you have a different version?> > > > Also, according to what you wrote in his book, he didn't do any work as required today except for his bell work. Why didn't anything come home? You can not expect his behavior plan to work if you do not implement it. We talked about this before break at our last meeting. It's no longer a Jayden problem. It is a Marie problem. He can not be punished for your inconsistencies. I have not seen work come home yet. not once. Yet many days you say he refused to

work. I don't get it. The plan is pretty simple. He gets one reminder. If he refuses, the work goes in his folder.> > > > The last and biggest problem. Please explain to me what happened in your room today. Why did you grab Jayden by the wrist and push him backwards, causing him to fall into your chair? I was very shocked during our conversation on the way to see his counselor today. I spoke to Sandy and she is supposed to call me back tomorrow. You didn't mention any of this when I was IN YOUR ROOM today. I heard that he had a bad day from another little girl who was in the hall.> > > > I am really disappointed. I thought we all had a common goal but I see now all you are doing is biding time until Jayden is no longer in your room. I am hurt and angry that my child had to endure this all year. I will be thankful when this year is done.> > > > Wind> > > > (I also sent copies

to the superintendent, principal, special ed director, school counselor and school social worker.)> > > > This was sent to the princiapl with a copy going to all the others, minus the teacher.> > > > Hi Sandy. I emailed Marie asking about the behavior plan and also the other incidences that happened in her room today. I told Jayden that I talked to you and that he needed to tell you what happened and he does not feel comfortable doing so. He'd prefer to tell Mrs. Bond and Mrs. Horton. I hope this will be ok. I'd rather the facts, as he perceives them, be told to someone he feels comfortable talking to so that they get out. He tends to clam up when speaking to you as is typical with Asperger's.> > > > Here is what Jayden told me. First he said he doesn't like any of the teachers at school because now Mrs. Dunham hates him. I asked him why. He told me about Sydney teasing him by sticking her

tongue out at him first and said Mrs. Dunham said she wasn't teasing him. I asked why he thought that meant she hated him. He said because she grabbed him and pushed him. I asked him where she grabbed him. He told me she grabbed his wrist and pushed him back. he fell into her chair. I asked why. He said because he wanted to help her move a desk and she told him no a few times. Even if she told him 100 times, there is no reason to grab him or push him. NONE! It's bad enough that he has been getting punished all year for her inconsistencies but now she is grabbing him and pushing him? That's simply unacceptable! I have other people who Jayden has told this to as witnesses also. I am shocked, hurt and disgusted that I am entrusting my child to the school system every day. He deserves a lot better then what he's gotten from his education this year.> > > > I will be waiting to hear from you tomorrow morning regarding this. > >

> > Wind> >>