9 yr old ASPIE son was pushed by teacher

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My son was pushed by his teacher Monday. We had a snow day yesterday. I am

attending a meeting with the teacher and principal this morning. My son is home

with me. I am just wondering if I should call the police or have someone else

come as a witness or what I should do. My son is honest to a fault...and will

not even question punishment. he'll come home and tell me he's grounded if he

has a really bad day. I believe him 100%. He said they were moving desks and he

was going to help 2 other boys. His teacher told him he wasn't needed a few

times but he wanted to help. She grabbed his wrist and shoved him backward. He

fell into a chair. This was the email I sent to his teacher.

Hi Marie. I have a few things to ask you about. Jayden said he was teased

today by Sydney. I asked him if he told you. He said he did and you told him

she was not teasing him. I asked him what happened and he told me she was

repeatedly sticking her tongue out at him. He sees it as teasing. I can

definately see it as a form of teasing. He's easily set off and you know this.

Do you have a different version?

Also, according to what you wrote in his book, he didn't do any work as required

today except for his bell work. Why didn't anything come home? You can not

expect his behavior plan to work if you do not implement it. We talked about

this before break at our last meeting. It's no longer a Jayden problem. It is

a Marie problem. He can not be punished for your inconsistencies. I have not

seen work come home yet. not once. Yet many days you say he refused to work.

I don't get it. The plan is pretty simple. He gets one reminder. If he

refuses, the work goes in his folder.

The last and biggest problem. Please explain to me what happened in your room

today. Why did you grab Jayden by the wrist and push him backwards, causing him

to fall into your chair? I was very shocked during our conversation on the way

to see his counselor today. I spoke to Sandy and she is supposed to call me

back tomorrow. You didn't mention any of this when I was IN YOUR ROOM today. I

heard that he had a bad day from another little girl who was in the hall.

I am really disappointed. I thought we all had a common goal but I see now all

you are doing is biding time until Jayden is no longer in your room. I am hurt

and angry that my child had to endure this all year. I will be thankful when

this year is done.

Wind

(I also sent copies to the superintendent, principal, special ed director,

school counselor and school social worker.)

This was sent to the princiapl with a copy going to all the others, minus the

teacher.

Hi Sandy. I emailed Marie asking about the behavior plan and also the other

incidences that happened in her room today. I told Jayden that I talked to you

and that he needed to tell you what happened and he does not feel comfortable

doing so. He'd prefer to tell Mrs. Bond and Mrs. Horton. I hope this will be

ok. I'd rather the facts, as he perceives them, be told to someone he feels

comfortable talking to so that they get out. He tends to clam up when speaking

to you as is typical with Asperger's.

Here is what Jayden told me. First he said he doesn't like any of the teachers

at school because now Mrs. Dunham hates him. I asked him why. He told me about

Sydney teasing him by sticking her tongue out at him first and said Mrs. Dunham

said she wasn't teasing him. I asked why he thought that meant she hated him.

He said because she grabbed him and pushed him. I asked him where she grabbed

him. He told me she grabbed his wrist and pushed him back. he fell into her

chair. I asked why. He said because he wanted to help her move a desk and she

told him no a few times. Even if she told him 100 times, there is no reason to

grab him or push him. NONE! It's bad enough that he has been getting punished

all year for her inconsistencies but now she is grabbing him and pushing him?

That's simply unacceptable! I have other people who Jayden has told this to as

witnesses also. I am shocked, hurt and disgusted that I am entrusting my child

to the school system every day. He deserves a lot better then what he's gotten

from his education this year.

I will be waiting to hear from you tomorrow morning regarding this.

Wind