Re: Troubled Asperger Teen

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He should be placed in a residential program far from home. You must search for references and visit the place first. I sent my AS daughter to one one these programs when she was 12, she did not have any substance abuse issue but most of the girls did have that problem. She just could not function because of depression, OCD, etc related to AS, she was there for 1+ year. No cure but she could function better. She is 18 now, a typical AS with OCD, sensory and temper control issues, etc. in College just finished freshman year, placed in the "Dean's List with Distinction"(she was hiding it from me and I open letter by mistake)she is living in campus, otherwise she would not be doing so well in school. She did suffer a lot when she was far from us but she admits it was the best place for her at that time. Good luckAnaSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeedFrom: "emerson5314" Date: Mon, 08 Jun 2009 01:45:59 -0000< >Subject: ( ) Troubled Asperger Teen My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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He is in schools, sees a counselor there & he lives at home.  My brother (is father) is a retired police officer,  He grounded him, so he smoked in the house with the whole family there!!!  Some of the kids aren't bad kids, but others are.  Since he never had friends, he doesn't really want to take them away.  He's told him he couldn't go out so he brought his friends home.  Which at least is better so he can keep an eye on him.  But he doesn't always come home from school on time & he's always getting into some kind of trouble.  It all started within the last couple of months but has gotten progressively worse over the last few weeks.  He does excellent in school though :-).  Thanks for the advice!

( ) Troubled Asperger Teen

Date: Sunday, June 7, 2009, 9:45 PM

My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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Thank you for the advice...it's something my brother has been thinking about.  I'm happy to hear how well your daughter is doing. 

( ) Troubled Asperger Teen

My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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I wondered how would an AS child cope without their family

they seem so vulnerable and so easily frightened by anything

new. How was it she didn't have panic attacks etc. My daughter

can't manage a sleepover. What qualities helped your daughter

cope.

Pam

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> He should be placed in a residential program far from home. You must search

for references and visit the place first. I sent my AS daughter to one one these

programs when she was 12, she did not have any substance abuse issue but most of

the girls did have that problem. She just could not function because of

depression, OCD, etc related to AS, she was there for 1+ year. No cure but she

could function better. She is 18 now, a typical AS with OCD, sensory and temper

control issues, etc. in College just finished freshman year, placed in the

" Dean's List with Distinction " (she was hiding it from me and I open letter by

mistake)she is living in campus, otherwise she would not be doing so well in

school. She did suffer a lot when she was far from us but she admits it was the

best place for her at that time. Good luck

> Ana

> Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed

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> ( ) Troubled Asperger Teen

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> My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he

started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble.

He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have

any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes

him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do

next.

>

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Ana,

Great News about the Deans list for you and your dd! YEAH!

Roxanna

Autism Happens

( ) Troubled Asperger Teen

My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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I still beleive it is the kids he is hanging with...yeah...we all want friends...but those are not the type of friends he needs. If his dad is retired...can he pick him up from school????

Where is he getting the money for drugs? Is he on any type of medication? Maybe his dad could give him a tour of a prison...or detention center...or even a psych. ward where kids OD...or how about everyone watching a real show on Drugs and what they do..one that is very very graphic...I saw this video on the internet on what Meth does and OMG it was disgusting...they need to see the reality of it all....

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: emerson5314 <ria5314aol (DOT) com>Subject: ( ) Troubled Asperger Teen Date: Sunday, June 7, 2009, 9:45 PM

My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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Hi, I would have dad look into what programs the local mental health providers

have. If the school has a health center, they maybe can tell him. But there

are usually lots of programs for substance abuse in youth. Dad could ask them

about how to get his son help when son doesn't want it! When dad punishes him,

does he obey the punishment or does he ignore and just go on and does as he

pleases?

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> My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he

started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble.

He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have

any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes

him.....it

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He obeys punishment to a degree.  His Dad told him he couldn't go hang out with his friends, so he brought them home to hang out at his house!!!  He refuses to go to counseling other than the required counseling at school.

( ) Re: Troubled Asperger Teen

Hi, I would have dad look into what programs the local mental health providers have. If the school has a health center, they maybe can tell him. But there are usually lots of programs for substance abuse in youth. Dad could ask them about how to get his son help when son doesn't want it! When dad punishes him, does he obey the punishment or does he ignore and just go on and does as he pleases?

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> My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hangin

g out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it

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It was really hard for her but it was the only way at that point. The school was not providing any real solution for her. She was in bad shape when she went to the residential place, it had been a very slow deterioration. she did not comb her hair at all by then since she could not tolerate the touching, she did not want to wear deodorant, it took more than one hour to get her to go to school, she was sick a lot (to avoid going to school), no homework, spelling and handwritting became worse than ever, she did not tell me about the teasing that went on but I knew. It was pure torture. Isolation in school, etc.

At the residential place she went there were other girls with different issues, I believe she may have been the only one with Asperger (and the youngest one).

It was the first time ever she was far from us and she resisted until the end. We did not get to talk to her for several weeks, they have schooling in the facility but the main emphasis was counseling and life skills teaching.

After 13 months she came back home, she was functioning and we did homeschooling since we did not have the right school for her. After that we found a small private school with good teachers and good spiritual values. Th

e students were very caring and accepted and respected her.

She is a typical AS right now and the battle continues but she can manage living far from us, sharing spaces with other people, and to learn is her therapy.

She still has depression, a few panic attacks, dealing with temper issues and trying to control them the best she can.

Unfortunately she refuses counseling and any medication, but I am not giving up yet since I believe it can help her somehow.

Hope this helps somebody,

Ana

( ) Troubled Asperger Teen

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> My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He

gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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TKS!!

It is so difficult to manage her emotional issues! I am doing what I can to convince her to go for meds. unfortunately everytime I touch the subject she becomes upset. OCD is really an obstacle in our lives right now.

God bless you

Ana

( ) Troubled Asperger Teen

My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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I wish there were an easy way to deal with the med issue. My now 20 yo started refusing meds in middle school, just when it would have helped him the most. He does ok now, but would do better with meds. One thing we did get past is meds for sleep issues. He finally admitted it was a problem and agreed to see the doc about meds for sleeping. But that's it.

Roxanna

Autism Happens

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My 17 yr. old nephew never really socialized or had any friends. Last year he started hanging out with a group of kids. Now he's always getting into trouble. He gets drunk, smokes pot & just doesn't listen to his father. Does anyone have any advice on how to discipline him. It seems that however my brother punishes him.....it doesn't help. Things just get worse, we are afraid of what he may do next.

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