Re: Re: A day with the TSS

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Well, I did report it...and they will be speaking to him. But I already know they will be giving him a second chance. They said ...this guy is good for him...he is young and musckles and my son identifies with him ...which is true....but I am going to speak with him myself...I have to get up the nerve....but I have to do this...I have to tell him how UNHAPPY I have been and how I feel about the whole situation.

And, if it doesn't change then I need to change his TSS or Agency if I have to. It is my son that is priority. Not the TSS or the AGENCY....as his BSC told me...I am the consumer and the consumer is RIGHT..so I guess I have to stand up for what is right. And, it is not right what he is doing and I need to point this out to him....tell him in a nice way...I am on to his game...I know he has a lot on his plate but when he is working...he needs to be working ...not running his errands, or teaching his son's baseball game or on his cell.

Actually he needs to get his ACT together. His wife who is a teacher at the school I work in (great...I never met her ..she is new) can't just stop class to speak on the cell phone...so he needs to learn this. And, he does work with an autistic child....so he may be able to get away with things with this child but my child reports everything. It is a whole different story. And, it maybe okay with the other child...but this doesn't work for my son. I don't need him coming home totally depressed and let down.

It is not correct or ethical or businesslike...very unprofessional....now pray for me that I have the nerve and guts to speak my mind.

Thanks for the input.

Jan

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From: tdhssp <johnvel@...>Subject: ( ) Re: A day with the TSS Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes! Do report this to the supervising agency! Ugh, that makes me so angry... it is exactly as you said, that person used you and your son to be paid for working as a community aide, but instead did his own errands. Something similar happened to us: My son went out with a young lady who was hired as his CA. They went to the Mall (one store) and returned. I was billed the traveling expense! Situations like this are not okay. Even our older children recognized what was going on and my eldest remarked sarcastically, "If you pay me, I'll do that with (brother) too."To top this off, I also work as a community and respite aide. I would never ever take advantage of a family like this. Aides are to be there for the child. If it is a CA outing, it should be something that allows the child to participate in his/her surroundings by teaching how to interact with people and surrounding appropriately

and by having fun!Call the organization and report this. They will speak with the aide and likely give him a second chance. I suppose it will be up to you whether or not you wish to keep him on after this. Certainly I would be feeling 'used' so you may want to break free completely and hopefully someone new is available.>> Hi everyone.... just was so mad that I had to share my story....> > My son has a TSS (therapeutic staff support)...a person who works > with my son on some of his issues...gets him out in the > community... etc.etcc> Well, my son is all excited...he says he is going out for the day > with his TSS...they are going to lunch and to the batting cages....he > says they are

going to scranton.... asks me how far that is blah blah. > Now I asked him to come at 10:30 am because I have to go to get a cat > scan...no problem...get my son up ...rush around, take the dogs > out....no TSS...so my son calls him...he is on his way ...in fact, he > says just wait outside and he'll pick him right up...it is now > 10:45 ..10:50. So he pulls in and tells me they are going to > town, eat lunch and maybe the movies...but they'll be back by 2. > Hmmmmmmm!??/ Takes 45 min. to get to town,.. .and 45 min. > back ....okay...so they leave...my son calls me at noon..they are at > the mall...wow they added on. So, I am thinking i have time...I do my > errands. Took longer ...I go into A.C. 's needs some wire for > beading...let me call them...oh, they are on 33 by the theatre..oh, I > am thinking they are going to the

movies...no they are on their way > home...so I speak to the TSS and he acts all nervous that I won't be > home when they get there. I said I am on my way...I get home at > 2:05 ...they are there...finally at 2:30 he drops my son off and > takes off. He calls me from his cell and tells me how good my son > was. Well, my son goes in the 'hang out" room and looks depressed. I > ask if something is wrong...no.. ..later I go in..he still looks bored > and depressed... I said what is the matter..no one around...NO. ...so I > leave him alone as he seems not to want to be bothered.... so I am > beading and the next thing I know he crawls in the room and crawls > onto my bed and lays there next to me....I look at him and say...come > on it is okay...you can talk to me.....then he opens up...> > we went to the mall and all we did is go to 2 stores that

he wanted > to go to...I said what 2 stores...he says the tuxedo store....because > 3 of the guys forgot to return the ties (he just got married) and the > the Apple store ...he wanted them to download something onto his > apple phone...and then they went to a FYE (CD music store)...and then > they came home. I said I thought you were going out to eat...he said > we went thru Burger Kings' drive thru....> > My son who is always forgetful... had taken his bat and glove without > even being told...he remembered all on his own....> > Now isnt' that something... here the guy was suppose to be helping my > son instead my son comes home even more depressed. He told the BSC > (case manager) yeah he took me to do his errands. Nice huh??? And he > gets paid for that!!! > > Boy am I going to call the director tomorrow at 9

am> > Am I right or what? Boy our kids get slammed in more than one way!!!> > Jan>

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I wish I could be your moral support..........I feel it hard to speak up sometimes too,, but if it is for your child´s sake you just have to. You are the lion mother,dont forget:)--- Den fre 2008-08-29 skrev rushen janice <jrushen@...>:Från: rushen janice <jrushen@...>Ämne: Re: ( ) Re: A day with the TSSTill: Datum: fredag 29 augusti 2008 17.21

Well, I did report it...and they will be speaking to him. But I already know they will be giving him a second chance. They said ...this guy is good for him...he is young and musckles and my son identifies with him ...which is true....but I am going to speak with him myself...I have to get up the nerve....but I have to do this...I have to tell him how UNHAPPY I have been and how I feel about the whole situation.

And, if it doesn't change then I need to change his TSS or Agency if I have to. It is my son that is priority. Not the TSS or the AGENCY....as his BSC told me...I am the consumer and the consumer is RIGHT..so I guess I have to stand up for what is right. And, it is not right what he is doing and I need to point this out to him....tell him in a nice way...I am on to his game...I know he has a lot on his plate but when he is working...he needs to be working ...not running his errands, or teaching his son's baseball game or on his cell.

Actually he needs to get his ACT together. His wife who is a teacher at the school I work in (great...I never met her ..she is new) can't just stop class to speak on the cell phone...so he needs to learn this. And, he does work with an autistic child....so he may be able to get away with things with this child but my child reports everything. It is a whole different story. And, it maybe okay with the other child...but this doesn't work for my son. I don't need him coming home totally depressed and let down.

It is not correct or ethical or businesslike. ..very unprofessional. ...now pray for me that I have the nerve and guts to speak my mind.

Thanks for the input.

Jan

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From: tdhssp <johnvelshaw (DOT) ca>Subject: ( ) Re: A day with the TSS Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes! Do report this to the supervising agency! Ugh, that makes me so angry... it is exactly as you said, that person used you and your son to be paid for working as a community aide, but instead did his own errands. Something similar happened to us: My son went out with a young lady who was hired as his CA. They went to the Mall (one store) and returned. I was billed the traveling expense! Situations like this are not okay. Even our older children recognized what was going on and my eldest remarked sarcastically, "If you pay me, I'll do that with (brother) too."To top this off, I also work as a community and respite aide. I would never ever take advantage of a family like this. Aides are to be there for the child. If it is a CA outing, it should be something that allows the child to participate in his/her surroundings by teaching how to interact with people and surrounding appropriately

and by having fun!Call the organization and report this. They will speak with the aide and likely give him a second chance. I suppose it will be up to you whether or not you wish to keep him on after this. Certainly I would be feeling 'used' so you may want to break free completely and hopefully someone new is available.>> Hi everyone.... just was so mad that I had to share my story....> > My son has a TSS (therapeutic staff support)...a person who works > with my son on some of his issues...gets him out in the > community... etc.etcc> Well, my son is all excited...he says he is going out for the day > with his TSS...they are going to lunch and to the batting cages....he > says they

are

going to scranton.... asks me how far that is blah blah. > Now I asked him to come at 10:30 am because I have to go to get a cat > scan...no problem...get my son up ...rush around, take the dogs > out....no TSS...so my son calls him...he is on his way ...in fact, he > says just wait outside and he'll pick him right up...it is now > 10:45 ..10:50. So he pulls in and tells me they are going to > town, eat lunch and maybe the movies...but they'll be back by 2. > Hmmmmmmm!??/ Takes 45 min. to get to town,.. .and 45 min. > back ....okay...so they leave...my son calls me at noon..they are at > the mall...wow they added on. So, I am thinking i have time...I do my > errands. Took longer ...I go into A.C. 's needs some wire for > beading...let me call them...oh, they are on 33 by the theatre..oh, I > am thinking they are going to the

movies...no they are on their way > home...so I speak to the TSS and he acts all nervous that I won't be > home when they get there. I said I am on my way...I get home at > 2:05 ...they are there...finally at 2:30 he drops my son off and > takes off. He calls me from his cell and tells me how good my son > was. Well, my son goes in the 'hang out" room and looks depressed. I > ask if something is wrong...no.. ..later I go in..he still looks bored > and depressed... I said what is the matter..no one around...NO. ...so I > leave him alone as he seems not to want to be bothered.... so I am > beading and the next thing I know he crawls in the room and crawls > onto my bed and lays there next to me....I look at him and say...come > on it is okay...you can talk to me.....then he opens up...> > we went to the mall and all we did is go to 2 stores that

he wanted > to go to...I said what 2 stores...he says the tuxedo store....because > 3 of the guys forgot to return the ties (he just got married) and the > the Apple store ...he wanted them to download something onto his > apple phone...and then they went to a FYE (CD music store)...and then > they came home. I said I thought you were going out to eat...he said > we went thru Burger Kings' drive thru....> > My son who is always forgetful... had taken his bat and glove without > even being told...he remembered all on his own....> > Now isnt' that something... here the guy was suppose to be helping my > son instead my son comes home even more depressed. He told the BSC > (case manager) yeah he took me to do his errands. Nice huh??? And he > gets paid for that!!! > > Boy am I going to call the director tomorrow at 9

am> > Am I right or what? Boy our kids get slammed in more than one way!!!> > Jan>

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Jan,

Good for you!! And maybe once this guy realizes that you are on too him, then he will start doing what he is paid to do. The agency has to know that you can switch if this guy doesn't straighten up.

I would just have a friendly chat with him. You don't have to be confrontational with him.

Start out by saying along the lines of "I can just imagine how busy you must have been the other day, buy (son's name) was really upset that he thought you two were going to be doing these things." Can you tell me what happened so that I understand from your point of view?" This way you aren't confronting him but letting him know that you are aware and that if plans are made, then that is what is going to be done. You can also explain how upset your son gets even with you guys, if plans are changed and he doesn't have enough time to process it.

If he is such a nice guy, then you guys want to be on the same team working together to benefit your child. Just my thoughts, but your son's interests come first and keep his face in the back of your mind when you start the conversation. Hope this helps Jan.

Sue

From: tdhssp <johnvelshaw (DOT) ca>Subject: ( ) Re: A day with the TSS Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes! Do report this to the supervising agency! Ugh, that makes me so angry... it is exactly as you said, that person used you and your son to be paid for working as a community aide, but instead did his own errands. Something similar happened to us: My son went out with a young lady who was hired as his CA. They went to the Mall (one store) and returned. I was billed the traveling expense! Situations like this are not okay. Even our older children recognized what was going on and my eldest remarked sarcastically, "If you pay me, I'll do that with (brother) too."To top this off, I also work as a community and respite aide. I would never ever take advantage of a family like this. Aides are to be there for the child. If it is a CA outing, it should be something that allows the child to participate in his/her surroundings by teaching how to interact with people and surrounding appropriately

and by having fun!Call the organization and report this. They will speak with the aide and likely give him a second chance. I suppose it will be up to you whether or not you wish to keep him on after this. Certainly I would be feeling 'used' so you may want to break free completely and hopefully someone new is available.>> Hi everyone.... just was so mad that I had to share my story....> > My son has a TSS (therapeutic staff support)...a person who works > with my son on some of his issues...gets him out in the > community... etc.etcc> Well, my son is all excited...he says he is going out for the day > with his TSS...they are going to lunch and to the batting cages....he > says they are

going to scranton.... asks me how far that is blah blah. > Now I asked him to come at 10:30 am because I have to go to get a cat > scan...no problem...get my son up ...rush around, take the dogs > out....no TSS...so my son calls him...he is on his way ...in fact, he > says just wait outside and he'll pick him right up...it is now > 10:45 ..10:50. So he pulls in and tells me they are going to > town, eat lunch and maybe the movies...but they'll be back by 2. > Hmmmmmmm!??/ Takes 45 min. to get to town,.. .and 45 min. > back ....okay...so they leave...my son calls me at noon..they are at > the mall...wow they added on. So, I am thinking i have time...I do my > errands. Took longer ...I go into A.C. 's needs some wire for > beading...let me call them...oh, they are on 33 by the theatre..oh, I > am thinking they are going to the

movies...no they are on their way > home...so I speak to the TSS and he acts all nervous that I won't be > home when they get there. I said I am on my way...I get home at > 2:05 ...they are there...finally at 2:30 he drops my son off and > takes off. He calls me from his cell and tells me how good my son > was. Well, my son goes in the 'hang out" room and looks depressed. I > ask if something is wrong...no.. ..later I go in..he still looks bored > and depressed... I said what is the matter..no one around...NO. ...so I > leave him alone as he seems not to want to be bothered.... so I am > beading and the next thing I know he crawls in the room and crawls > onto my bed and lays there next to me....I look at him and say...come > on it is okay...you can talk to me.....then he opens up...> > we went to the mall and all we did is go to 2 stores that

he wanted > to go to...I said what 2 stores...he says the tuxedo store....because > 3 of the guys forgot to return the ties (he just got married) and the > the Apple store ...he wanted them to download something onto his > apple phone...and then they went to a FYE (CD music store)...and then > they came home. I said I thought you were going out to eat...he said > we went thru Burger Kings' drive thru....> > My son who is always forgetful... had taken his bat and glove without > even being told...he remembered all on his own....> > Now isnt' that something... here the guy was suppose to be helping my > son instead my son comes home even more depressed. He told the BSC > (case manager) yeah he took me to do his errands. Nice huh??? And he > gets paid for that!!! > > Boy am I going to call the director tomorrow at 9

am> > Am I right or what? Boy our kids get slammed in more than one way!!!> > Jan>

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Sue,

Thanks! It worked.... did not tell all of the truth...he did ask him where he wanted to go and they did look in the book store and music store....but his TSS sorta did not tell all the truth either....he said they were in the tuxedo store for 5 min. and I highly doubt it...but I think we worked it out ...and he knows that was disappointed and that he can't just go off and do this thing....I do like him....and he is a good person overall and has good ideas...and my son does talk to him.

I just learned he was over the neighbors house and the two older boys got drunk...so at least I know my son talks to his TSS and they spoke about the problems it could cause. OH boy...I guess I am getting into the teenage years.

Ugh! And I know my son is easily influenced by others so I told him he is not allowed over there because they are not supervised.

Jan

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From: tdhssp <johnvelshaw (DOT) ca>Subject: ( ) Re: A day with the TSS Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes! Do report this to the supervising agency! Ugh, that makes me so angry... it is exactly as you said, that person used you and your son to be paid for working as a community aide, but instead did his own errands. Something similar happened to us: My son went out with a young lady who was hired as his CA. They went to the Mall (one store) and returned. I was billed the traveling expense! Situations like this are not okay. Even our older children recognized what was going on and my eldest remarked sarcastically, "If you pay me, I'll do that with (brother) too."To top this off, I also work as a community and respite aide. I would never ever take advantage of a family like this. Aides are to be there for the child. If it is a CA outing, it should be something that allows the child to participate in his/her surroundings by teaching how to interact with people and surrounding appropriately

and by having fun!Call the organization and report this. They will speak with the aide and likely give him a second chance. I suppose it will be up to you whether or not you wish to keep him on after this. Certainly I would be feeling 'used' so you may want to break free completely and hopefully someone new is available.>> Hi everyone.... just was so mad that I had to share my story....> > My son has a TSS (therapeutic staff support)...a person who works > with my son on some of his issues...gets him out in the > community... etc.etcc> Well, my son is all excited...he says he is going out for the day > with his TSS...they are going to lunch and to the batting cages....he > says they are

going to scranton.... asks me how far that is blah blah. > Now I asked him to come at 10:30 am because I have to go to get a cat > scan...no problem...get my son up ...rush around, take the dogs > out....no TSS...so my son calls him...he is on his way ...in fact, he > says just wait outside and he'll pick him right up...it is now > 10:45 ..10:50. So he pulls in and tells me they are going to > town, eat lunch and maybe the movies...but they'll be back by 2. > Hmmmmmmm!??/ Takes 45 min. to get to town,.. .and 45 min. > back ....okay...so they leave...my son calls me at noon..they are at > the mall...wow they added on. So, I am thinking i have time...I do my > errands. Took longer ...I go into A.C. 's needs some wire for > beading...let me call them...oh, they are on 33 by the theatre..oh, I > am thinking they are going to the

movies...no they are on their way > home...so I speak to the TSS and he acts all nervous that I won't be > home when they get there. I said I am on my way...I get home at > 2:05 ...they are there...finally at 2:30 he drops my son off and > takes off. He calls me from his cell and tells me how good my son > was. Well, my son goes in the 'hang out" room and looks depressed. I > ask if something is wrong...no.. ..later I go in..he still looks bored > and depressed... I said what is the matter..no one around...NO. ...so I > leave him alone as he seems not to want to be bothered.... so I am > beading and the next thing I know he crawls in the room and crawls > onto my bed and lays there next to me....I look at him and say...come > on it is okay...you can talk to me.....then he opens up...> > we went to the mall and all we did is go to 2 stores that

he wanted > to go to...I said what 2 stores...he says the tuxedo store....because > 3 of the guys forgot to return the ties (he just got married) and the > the Apple store ...he wanted them to download something onto his > apple phone...and then they went to a FYE (CD music store)...and then > they came home. I said I thought you were going out to eat...he said > we went thru Burger Kings' drive thru....> > My son who is always forgetful... had taken his bat and glove without > even being told...he remembered all on his own....> > Now isnt' that something... here the guy was suppose to be helping my > son instead my son comes home even more depressed. He told the BSC > (case manager) yeah he took me to do his errands. Nice huh??? And he > gets paid for that!!! > > Boy am I going to call the director tomorrow at 9

am> > Am I right or what? Boy our kids get slammed in more than one way!!!> > Jan>

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Jan,

I'm glad that you were able to work it out. It's a really good thing when our kids feel free to talk to someone outside of the family, especially when it is someone who understands Asperger's and can help the child "see" the bad choices.

Age 13 is supposed to be the worst but at least you have the support systems set in place. How is your BSC? Do they work with you? I know we now have an amazing BSC who has so much insight and our new TSS is also wonderful. I think once we get these behavior charts (next week) set in place, it will really help Gage to see both the good and bad choices. At least I hope so.

Sue

From: tdhssp <johnvelshaw (DOT) ca>Subject: ( ) Re: A day with the TSS Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes! Do report this to the supervising agency! Ugh, that makes me so angry... it is exactly as you said, that person used you and your son to be paid for working as a community aide, but instead did his own errands. Something similar happened to us: My son went out with a young lady who was hired as his CA. They went to the Mall (one store) and returned. I was billed the traveling expense! Situations like this are not okay. Even our older children recognized what was going on and my eldest remarked sarcastically, "If you pay me, I'll do that with (brother) too."To top this off, I also work as a community and respite aide. I would never ever take advantage of a family like this. Aides are to be there for the child. If it is a CA outing, it should be something that allows the child to participate in his/her surroundings by teaching how to interact with people and surrounding appropriately

and by having fun!Call the organization and report this. They will speak with the aide and likely give him a second chance. I suppose it will be up to you whether or not you wish to keep him on after this. Certainly I would be feeling 'used' so you may want to break free completely and hopefully someone new is available.>> Hi everyone.... just was so mad that I had to share my story....> > My son has a TSS (therapeutic staff support)...a person who works > with my son on some of his issues...gets him out in the > community... etc.etcc> Well, my son is all excited...he says he is going out for the day > with his TSS...they are going to lunch and to the batting cages....he > says they are

going to scranton.... asks me how far that is blah blah. > Now I asked him to come at 10:30 am because I have to go to get a cat > scan...no problem...get my son up ...rush around, take the dogs > out....no TSS...so my son calls him...he is on his way ...in fact, he > says just wait outside and he'll pick him right up...it is now > 10:45 ..10:50. So he pulls in and tells me they are going to > town, eat lunch and maybe the movies...but they'll be back by 2. > Hmmmmmmm!??/ Takes 45 min. to get to town,.. .and 45 min. > back ....okay...so they leave...my son calls me at noon..they are at > the mall...wow they added on. So, I am thinking i have time...I do my > errands. Took longer ...I go into A.C. 's needs some wire for > beading...let me call them...oh, they are on 33 by the theatre..oh, I > am thinking they are going to the

movies...no they are on their way > home...so I speak to the TSS and he acts all nervous that I won't be > home when they get there. I said I am on my way...I get home at > 2:05 ...they are there...finally at 2:30 he drops my son off and > takes off. He calls me from his cell and tells me how good my son > was. Well, my son goes in the 'hang out" room and looks depressed. I > ask if something is wrong...no.. ..later I go in..he still looks bored > and depressed... I said what is the matter..no one around...NO. ...so I > leave him alone as he seems not to want to be bothered.... so I am > beading and the next thing I know he crawls in the room and crawls > onto my bed and lays there next to me....I look at him and say...come > on it is okay...you can talk to me.....then he opens up...> > we went to the mall and all we did is go to 2 stores that

he wanted > to go to...I said what 2 stores...he says the tuxedo store....because > 3 of the guys forgot to return the ties (he just got married) and the > the Apple store ...he wanted them to download something onto his > apple phone...and then they went to a FYE (CD music store)...and then > they came home. I said I thought you were going out to eat...he said > we went thru Burger Kings' drive thru....> > My son who is always forgetful... had taken his bat and glove without > even being told...he remembered all on his own....> > Now isnt' that something... here the guy was suppose to be helping my > son instead my son comes home even more depressed. He told the BSC > (case manager) yeah he took me to do his errands. Nice huh??? And he > gets paid for that!!! > > Boy am I going to call the director tomorrow at 9

am> > Am I right or what? Boy our kids get slammed in more than one way!!!> > Jan>

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Yeah,,,,I think we kind of worked it out..he is good but he has too much on his plate and we jsut need to fine tune him.....of course he denied spending a lot of time at the 2 stores....I believe my son more...and my son doesn't really like the mall excpet to go to EB GAMES and he didn't want to go in there becuase he didn't have enough money and he knew if he went in he would want to buy a game. His tss made some excuses but i think he realizes now ...that I am on to him....kind of sad. This guy is young, just married, has a 2 month old baby and and 9 year old son from another woman and is going to college to get his teaching certificate. And, he is constantly on his phone. We'll see....I know they don't want to get rid of him because young guys are hard to come by....sad! But if it comes down to it...I will meet them or go with them to

supervise and watch myself. But I wanted the time off ....and it is good for DAvid to be with others w/out me.

likes hanging with his friends but I told him if there is any liquor...I want him home. I beleive he will too as he has so many fears....he won't even go in the car with jake because he is afraid. I guess their fears do have a hidden blessing (LOL). Kids at the lake were smoking weed and he came home last summer...he didn't want to be there. I have also frightened him by saying ...he can't do either with the medicine he is on....it works for now. And, he says...mom, I'm not stupid....these 2 boys won't go any where near drugs so that is good!!!!

Oh, life...it can be such fun! Thanks for being here for me. I truly am grateful!!!

Jan

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From: tdhssp <johnvelshaw (DOT) ca>Subject: ( ) Re: A day with the TSS Date: Friday, August 29, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes! Do report this to the supervising agency! Ugh, that makes me so angry... it is exactly as you said, that person used you and your son to be paid for working as a community aide, but instead did his own errands. Something similar happened to us: My son went out with a young lady who was hired as his CA. They went to the Mall (one store) and returned. I was billed the traveling expense! Situations like this are not okay. Even our older children recognized what was going on and my eldest remarked sarcastically, "If you pay me, I'll do that with (brother) too."To top this off, I also work as a community and respite aide. I would never ever take advantage of a family like this. Aides are to be there for the child. If it is a CA outing, it should be something that allows the child to participate in his/her surroundings by teaching how to interact with people and surrounding appropriately

and by having fun!Call the organization and report this. They will speak with the aide and likely give him a second chance. I suppose it will be up to you whether or not you wish to keep him on after this. Certainly I would be feeling 'used' so you may want to break free completely and hopefully someone new is available.>> Hi everyone.... just was so mad that I had to share my story....> > My son has a TSS (therapeutic staff support)...a person who works > with my son on some of his issues...gets him out in the > community... etc.etcc> Well, my son is all excited...he says he is going out for the day > with his TSS...they are going to lunch and to the batting cages....he > says they are

going to scranton.... asks me how far that is blah blah. > Now I asked him to come at 10:30 am because I have to go to get a cat > scan...no problem...get my son up ...rush around, take the dogs > out....no TSS...so my son calls him...he is on his way ...in fact, he > says just wait outside and he'll pick him right up...it is now > 10:45 ..10:50. So he pulls in and tells me they are going to > town, eat lunch and maybe the movies...but they'll be back by 2. > Hmmmmmmm!??/ Takes 45 min. to get to town,.. .and 45 min. > back ....okay...so they leave...my son calls me at noon..they are at > the mall...wow they added on. So, I am thinking i have time...I do my > errands. Took longer ...I go into A.C. 's needs some wire for > beading...let me call them...oh, they are on 33 by the theatre..oh, I > am thinking they are going to the

movies...no they are on their way > home...so I speak to the TSS and he acts all nervous that I won't be > home when they get there. I said I am on my way...I get home at > 2:05 ...they are there...finally at 2:30 he drops my son off and > takes off. He calls me from his cell and tells me how good my son > was. Well, my son goes in the 'hang out" room and looks depressed. I > ask if something is wrong...no.. ..later I go in..he still looks bored > and depressed... I said what is the matter..no one around...NO. ...so I > leave him alone as he seems not to want to be bothered.... so I am > beading and the next thing I know he crawls in the room and crawls > onto my bed and lays there next to me....I look at him and say...come > on it is okay...you can talk to me.....then he opens up...> > we went to the mall and all we did is go to 2 stores that

he wanted > to go to...I said what 2 stores...he says the tuxedo store....because > 3 of the guys forgot to return the ties (he just got married) and the > the Apple store ...he wanted them to download something onto his > apple phone...and then they went to a FYE (CD music store)...and then > they came home. I said I thought you were going out to eat...he said > we went thru Burger Kings' drive thru....> > My son who is always forgetful... had taken his bat and glove without > even being told...he remembered all on his own....> > Now isnt' that something... here the guy was suppose to be helping my > son instead my son comes home even more depressed. He told the BSC > (case manager) yeah he took me to do his errands. Nice huh??? And he > gets paid for that!!! > > Boy am I going to call the director tomorrow at 9

am> > Am I right or what? Boy our kids get slammed in more than one way!!!> > Jan>