Re: Regressed behaviors - biting

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> The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut curious how common this

is?

I think sensory issues like this are very common, although how each child copes

is very individual. I know some people find things for their kids to chew on.

They actually sell things like soft bracelets that the kids can chew on. Other

people probably have more specifics. Chewing gum is an obvious thing to try,

but many teachers won't allow it in class.

Ruth

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I guess I am lucky as in our school they do allow it...I thought it was strange as when I grew up we could not be caught chewing gum...I remember the math teacher making the kid wear it on his nose. But 's teachers allow him too as they know it helps him. He loves to fiddle with paperclips ...but puts them in his mouth.

At home, he lays on his bed. After school he takes a nap. And, he loves to take a warm shower....it helps him sleep too.

jan

Exercise is another good thing. My son is now going to the Y 3x a week to work out...he loves it.

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: r_woman2 <me2ruth@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Regressed behaviors - biting Date: Friday, April 17, 2009, 4:33 PM

>> The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut curious how common this is? I think sensory issues like this are very common, although how each child copes is very individual. I know some people find things for their kids to chew on. They actually sell things like soft bracelets that the kids can chew on. Other people probably have more specifics. Chewing gum is an obvious thing to try, but many teachers won't allow it in class.Ruth

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I think it is common...we have a girl in school who punches her chin or points at herself and pokes herself....my son goes to his room and sleeps ...he is so exhausted from school and if he is really stressed he just wants to be left alone.

Try to find something your child can bite...even a baby teething ring. Try taking her for a fast walk....or bike ride...

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: susanonderko <susanonderko@...>Subject: ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting Date: Friday, April 17, 2009, 4:16 PM

We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is biting me more(soft bites of course).The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as a way to cope with anxiety. What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting?The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut curious how common this is? Pam

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Thanks all! It is reassuring to have this group! I quess it is common. The wierd

thing is that the motion of my hands is what is freaking her out. Just normal

motion. She says I am wierd and then wants to bite me. Very strange. She was

never

a biter before. Anxiety overload I quess.

Thanks again! Pam

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Any child under a lot of stress may have regressive behavior, it could be biting, wetting the bed, etc. The difference is that AS have a lesser tolerance level to stress, and the younger they are the less coping skills are present.We parents must identify what are the elements triggering the stress and slowly teach them how to manage them, (and if possible changing the environment contributing to stress). It is really difficult and every day is quite different but I am convinced that we can help (reading and learning are as fundamental as getting away from Negative school systems). Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeedFrom: "susanonderko" Date: Fri, 17 Apr 2009 20:16:07 -0000< >Subject: ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is biting me more(soft bites of course). The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as a way to cope with anxiety. What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting? The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut curious how common this is? Pam

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Thanks! My daughter's verbal skills are so superior that I am

losing focus that she is a little girl. She is just being pushed to

keep up in a competitive school district and can't cope.

Thanks everyone!!

Pam

- In , ACuitino@... wrote:

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> Any child under a lot of stress may have regressive behavior, it could be

biting, wetting the bed, etc. The difference is that AS have a lesser tolerance

level to stress, and the younger they are the less coping skills are present.

> We parents must identify what are the elements triggering the stress and

slowly teach them how to manage them, (and if possible changing the environment

contributing to stress).

> It is really difficult and every day is quite different but I am convinced

that we can help (reading and learning are as fundamental as getting away from

Negative school systems).

> Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed

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> ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting

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> We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed

behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is

biting me more(soft bites of course).

>

> The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her

about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as

> a way to cope with anxiety.

>

> What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to

> have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting?

>

> The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut curious how common this

is?

>

> Pam

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I just have one question??? what do I have to look forward too!! my son is just turning 6 and I have had a long road to get this far and I am scared of what might be out there in the future!katie

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> Any child under a lot of stress may have regressive behavior, it could be biting, wetting the bed, etc. The difference is that AS have a lesser tolerance level to stress, and the younger they are the less coping skills are present.

> We parents must identify what are the elements triggering the stress and slowly teach them how to manage them, (and if possible changing the environment contributing to stress).

> It is really difficult and every day is quite different but I am convinced that we can help (reading and learning are as fundamental as getting away from Negative school systems).

> Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed

>

> ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting

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> We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is biting me more(soft bites of course).

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> The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as

> a way to cope with anxiety.

>

> What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to

> have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting?

>

> The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut curious how common this is?

>

> Pam

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I would say from 1-8 were pretty difficult for us, especially when school started. But things have improved greatly (he's 12 now) so never give up hope! My best advice is keep doing a collection of things to help your son. There isn't one single intervention, medication, or accommodation in school, that just changes everything. Once I adjusted to the fact that we were trying to make Dylan's life better...he'd never be the kid I thought I wanted him to be...that helped a lot. And it also helped me see all of the great things he already had inside of him instead of focusing on his struggles all of the time. Getting therapy for myself to deal w/ the grief and struggles and also to learn how to effectively parent him was one of the best decisions I've ever made with anything related to his Aspergers.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: katie fletcher <katedarrell@...> Sent: Sunday, April 19, 2009 8:28:45 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting

I just have one question??? what do I have to look forward too!! my son is just turning 6 and I have had a long road to get this far and I am scared of what might be out there in the future!katie>> Any child under a lot of stress may have regressive behavior, it could be biting, wetting the bed, etc. The difference is that AS have a lesser tolerance level to stress, and the younger they are the less coping skills are present.> We parents must identify what are the elements triggering the stress and slowly teach them how to manage them, (and if possible changing the environment contributing to stress). > It is really difficult and every day is quite different but I am convinced that we can help (reading and learning are as fundamental as getting away from Negative school systems). > Sent from my

BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed> > ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting> > > We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is biting me more(soft bites of course).> > The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as > a way to cope with anxiety. > > What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to > have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting?> > The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut

curious how common this is? > > Pam>

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On Dec 17, 3:19am, katie fletcher wrote:

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} I just have one question??? what do I have to look forward too!! my son is =

} just turning 6 and I have had a long road to get this far and I am scared o=

} f what might be out there in the future!

I'm afraid that's a question nobody can answer. :-( Every child is

different and every outcome is different. I think you will find a

lot of problems do get better. Then perhaps they're replaced with

different problems. :-\ But seriously, I think most of us can

expect to see our children go through growth and improvement over

time, with help.

Willa

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Thank you so much its nice to know there is a way to deal with all this! >> Any child under a lot of stress may have regressive behavior, it could be biting, wetting the bed, etc. The difference is that AS have a lesser tolerance level to stress, and the younger they are the less coping skills are present.> We parents must identify what are the elements triggering the stress and slowly teach them how to manage them, (and if possible changing the environment contributing to stress). > It is really difficult and every day is quite different but I am convinced that we can help (reading and learning are as fundamental as getting away from Negative school systems). > Sent from my

BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed> > ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting> > > We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is biting me more(soft bites of course).> > The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as > a way to cope with anxiety. > > What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to > have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting?> > The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut

curious how common this is? > > Pam>

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I know it's hard not to be scared of the future. But I think you are probably lucky that your son is being diagnosed so young. You will have more time to work with him, get help, counseling etc., before he is farther along in school. You will have a lot of things in place for him from the beginning. That can only be good for him.

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Suzanne

suzmarkwood@...>> Any child under a lot of stress may have regressive behavior, it could be biting, wetting the bed, etc. The difference is that AS have a lesser tolerance level to stress, and the younger they are the less coping skills are present.> We parents must identify what are the elements triggering the stress and slowly teach them how to manage them, (and if possible changing the environment contributing to stress). > It is really difficult and every day is quite different but I am convinced that we can help (reading and learning are as fundamental as getting away from Negative school systems). > Sent from my

BlackBerry® smartphone with SprintSpeed> > ( ) Regressed behaviors - biting> > > We are in a high anxiety cycle. Does your child, mine is 11 have any regressed behaviors when under high stress? Mine is very stressed from school and is biting me more(soft bites of course).> > The behavior method that curbs this is reducing stress and talking to her about why she is biting. Then she may just bite herself as > a way to cope with anxiety. > > What in the world is going on? How common is it in the AS community to > have a child under alot of stress, regress into biting?> > The source of the stress has to be reduced, I was jsut

curious how common this is? > > Pam>