RE: Re: Son's in college but doesn't go to class

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If I could only afford MIT....

Roxanna

Autism Happens

( ) Re: Son's in college but doesn't go to class

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> Vanderbilt University is also starting a similar program for 2010. But only for 9 students...and did you see that this one in Texas has lost their funding? Sad. Sounded great.

I wouldn't hold myself just to colleges that have official programs. Some have good disability offices that can accommodate your child if you can give them specific needs to work with. Unfortunately, there is not much to do except visit the schools and start talking.

I know MIT has a good program (if you have a very academic child!), and I know someone up in the ivy league school in New Hampshire (sorry forget which one it is) that found a good fit--that student was NLD).

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From what was said at a conference, it came about because Dr.

Millie Gore approached the Dean about starting a program. The Dean

happened to have a grandson or nephew (can’t remember) with Asperger’s

so he gave Dr. Gore $100,000 and a house to fund the program for a year I

think. After that, she is on her own to raise funds.

Tonya

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Subject: ( ) Re: Son's in college but doesn't go to class

Do you or others on list know about any similar

programs? After reading this I am psched to approach a local private university

that is trying to be somewhat of local autism resource center. They would be a

perfect fit for this...and they most likely have more money than state

universities...so, I have contacted the person on the link, any one with more

info about how they worked this please share your info!

Thanks

SUe in TN

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> Midwestern State University (Texas) has a program specifically for

> individuals with Autism/Asperger's. Maybe you can take some ideas from it.

> http://education.mwsu.edu/asp/

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> Tonya

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> It could be he is not ready for college yet. He may need a few more years

> before he can commit to college. Not everyone is ready to go to college

> after high school. He may need a few years to just work a job and think

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> mature before he is ready to commit.

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> College is not the right route for everyone. Talk to him about his job

> goals and see if they can be met in a career tech type setting. Or if he

> can get a mentor in the field he wants and go straight to work.

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> Talk to the disability office. See if you can figure out what the problem

> is with going to class. If he feels he is defeated before he starts, then

> he might balk at even trying. What does he need to be successful in the

> classes he is in?

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> It may be this is not the right college. Is it too large? He might do

> better in a smaller setting. Could he attend a junior college first and

get

> his basics out of the way in a smaller setting?

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> You mentioned depression - is he taking meds for his depression? I would

> probably start there and get that under control, then fan out and figure

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> what the problem is. And enlist his help in finding solutions. Without his

> cooperation, you won't get anywhere. Make a plan with baby steps and work

> with him to get him to follow through. But make sure this is something he

> really wants to do. It is really hard to know what to suggest without

> knowing why he isn't following through...but these are some ideas.

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Roxanna

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> Hi, I'm a mom who's dumbfounded as to what to do or how to help our ds. He

> says he wants to go to college. He chose his classes which are just 2 this

> quarter but then he doesn't go to class. He go sometimes to the tutor. He

> has the depression to deal with and also avoidance issues but .... he goes

> off to class supposedly and when he comes home he acts and talks like he's

> been in class and everything is ok. Only when I contact the instructor do

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> find out he has not been in class and not always meeting with the tutor.

> When we talk we don't get answers that hellp. We go over and over the need

> to be honest with us.

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> I just wondered if anyone was dealing with similar difficulties with a son

> or daughter?

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> We're just about to tell him to forget college. Why put himself and us too

> through it if he's not willing to go.

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> Appreciate the time to share here. Thanks

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> Ginny

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I’ve heard Mason at Austin, TX has a good program

too.

Tonya

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Subject: Re: ( ) Re: Son's in college but doesn't go to

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If I could only afford MIT....

Roxanna

Autism Happens

( ) Re: Son's in college but doesn't go to class

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> Vanderbilt University is also starting a similar program for 2010. But

only for 9 students...and did you see that this one in Texas has lost their

funding? Sad. Sounded great.

I wouldn't hold myself just to colleges that have official programs. Some have

good disability offices that can accommodate your child if you can give them

specific needs to work with. Unfortunately, there is not much to do except

visit the schools and start talking.

I know MIT has a good program (if you have a very academic child!), and I know

someone up in the ivy league school in New Hampshire (sorry forget which one it

is) that found a good fit--that student was NLD).

We found the real 'Hotel California' and the 'Seinfeld' diner.

What will you find? Explore

WhereItsAt.com.

[Guest guest]

All colleges, or at least all publicly funded colleges, are required to have a “disabilities” department. But, the student must advocate for themselves which is a huge concern for us as our son will enter college this fall. He will continue to live at home with his dad and go to a junior college. He has done a “social understanding” group for the last three years at an organization that works with individuals on the spectrum. They started a program this year to help these kids transition into college. They also work with them on learning independent living skills. The program is individualized to each person’s needs. We are going to have Tyler do this. We will also have him meet with the disabilities office at school but I don’t think he will utilize that like he should as he just doesn’t self-advocate.

On 5/19/09 12:35 PM, " r_woman2 " <me2ruth@...> wrote:

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> I have a very non-gifted child, LOL, who actually would have a lot of difficulty with an academic class. But, with the right supports could do it. What I really want is a place for him to live apart from us, and learning skills of independence so he can be on his own. These programs seem to offer that, but I will check with the local disability offices. With TX and Vanderbilt, they got a particular house and put the individuals together for mentoring/coaching in academic and lifeskills.

Another idea I had would be to look for colleges that are highly rated for accommodating disabilities in general, just to give yourself a starting point of where to start looking for accommodating colleges. My husband is blind and we went to Univ. of TX at Austin. They had great accommodations for my husband. They had a whole office with a more or less full-time hired staff person just for blind people, and they really didn't have all that many blind people. They would help with paperwork and coordinate equipment (readers and such). I found out later that that univ is highly rated for disability accommodation. We're not to that point so I haven't asked (and it looks like my aspie may not meet their academic requirements!), but I wouldn't be surprised to find out they don't have something for aspies or wouldn't try to accommodate somehow. I'm not saying I recommend that univ in particular (it is very hard academically--I don't know if I would go there again myself if I had it to do over), but just to say again that I wouldn't limit myself to places with programs already in place. There seems to be somewhat of an increase in some colleges trying to help these kids be successful in college. After all, with the right accommodations, some of these kids could be some of their most promising students, I think.

Ruth