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From: pattykal <pattykal@...>Subject: ( ) Son has Asperger's Date: Tuesday, June 2, 2009, 9:17 AM

My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's. I don't know how to help him as a parent. Social interactions are a particular concern. And how do we help with his lack of awareness of other people's needs or feelings? Any suggestions from parents who have been there would be greatly appreciated. Also, do you know of any good books that teach parents how to help their child? Thanks, Patty

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Patty, how old is your son? I can suggest some children's books for little

ones...

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> My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's. I don't know how to help him as a

parent. Social interactions are a particular concern. And how do we help with

his lack of awareness of other people's needs or feelings?

> Any suggestions from parents who have been there would be greatly appreciated.

Also, do you know of any good books that teach parents how to help their child?

Thanks, Patty

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My 9 yr. old son has Asperger, and has been diagnosed since 6 yrs.We have had tremendous highs and lows, he whole family.Things eventually get sooooooo much better.Each child is different, you have to treat each symptom.From: pattykal <pattykal@...>Subject: ( ) Son has Asperger's Date: Tuesday, June 2, 2009, 12:17 PM

My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's. I don't know how to help him as a parent. Social interactions are a particular concern. And how do we help with his lack of awareness of other people's needs or feelings?

Any suggestions from parents who have been there would be greatly appreciated. Also, do you know of any good books that teach parents how to help their child? Thanks, Patty

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For the last couple of years, I've been breaking down even the smallest situations and explaining what's happening to Dylan step-by-step since he has trouble reading social cues. He's actually somewhat interested in what I tell him and I can tell he files it away somewhere for future use. And he's much better at picking up social cues now (he's 12, mild Aspergers) so I think it helps.

"Over-optimism is waiting for you ship to come in when you haven't sent one out."

From: pattykal <pattykal@...> Sent: Tuesday, June 2, 2009 11:17:06 AMSubject: ( ) Son has Asperger's

My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's. I don't know how to help him as a parent. Social interactions are a particular concern. And how do we help with his lack of awareness of other people's needs or feelings? Any suggestions from parents who have been there would be greatly appreciated. Also, do you know of any good books that teach parents how to help their child? Thanks, Patty

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How old is your son?

If you haven't heard this yet, there's a saying that if you meet one person with

AS, you've met one person with AS. In other words, you can't generalize too much

about likes/dislikes, strengths/weaknesses because everyone with AS is just a

little bit different. So what works for my son may not work for yours. I just

try to work with my son's strengths to overcome his weaknesses so he can be an

independent adult and to make sure that his home is a stress free zone.

There are a lot of books and websites with advice, but the trick seems to be to

find the advice that will fit your son's personality and interests. You can also

check the archives of this group and other to see what has been

recommended in the past. I've gotten a lot of great advice from parents in

groups, plus some local support groups I've found.

Give yourself and your family some time to come to terms with this diagnosis.

For now, I'd recommend reading and learning as much as you can. As a parent, you

are going to have to figure out how to advocate for him especially at school.

Take things step by step, little by little. And when you have something to

celebrate or when you get frustrated or stuck - visit this group and share. All

of us here have been in your situation.

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Hi Patty,

welcome to our group! Where do you live? How old is your ds? To help with social skills, many people look for a social skill group. These are often put together by speech therapists but I've seen them with therapists as well. You might also like the material found here --> www.socialthinking.com There are tons of books and sites anymore. That is just one that I like.

Roxanna

Autism Happens

( ) Son has Asperger's

My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's. I don't know how to help him as a parent. Social interactions are a particular concern. And how do we help with his lack of awareness of other people's needs or feelings?

Any suggestions from parents who have been there would be greatly appreciated. Also, do you know of any good books that teach parents how to help their child? Thanks, Patty

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The ones I have for my son would be too young for him then, but there's a lot

out there, you just have to find it :) Search for social stories, making

friends, getting along with others, etc. on Amazon.com. I like amazon, because

it will then find others on those topics and 'reccommend' them to you in the

future.

But for social interactions and awareness of others, I am constantly prompting

my son and pointing things out to him. It's second nature to me now, for

example, to see a child who's crying and tell my son, that child is upset! I'm

always pointing out the feelings and labeling them for him. He has the basics

down somewhat now, but more subtle cues will be harder. I'm waiting for the day

he turns and says 'I know Mom!' with attitude :)

Same for social interactions, he needs to be prompted with specific steps to

follow. Say hello, ask to join in, etc. Last weekend was the very first time

I've heard him initiate play with a peer...I was overjoyed almost to tears!

TJ

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a parent. Social interactions are a particular concern. And how do we help with

his lack of awareness of other people's needs or feelings?

> > > Any suggestions from parents who have been there would be greatly

appreciated. Also, do you know of any good books that teach parents how to help

their child? Thanks, Patty

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Again, WOW! Your son sounds so much like mine. I am glad you are

here… and look forward to hearing more about you and your son!

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Subject: Re: ( ) Son has Asperger's

Thanks for the words of encourage. I knew

something was different about my son from a very young age, he's 10 now. He so

marches to his own drum and doesn't care what anyone else thinks (or maybe I

should say he is not very aware of what others think). And yet he's acutely

sensitive to anything he perceives as kids teasing or picking on him and gets

very upset. And he has a tough time letting go of things once he's upset. I

worry so much about him getting hurt by others because he doesn't present

himself well and doesn't realize how he sounds to others. He's a sweet, bright,

loving child and it's so hard to see him struggle.

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ds = dear son (dh = dear husband, dd = dear daughter)

A social skill group is usually for your ds and other kids who need to work on social skills. So you would drop him off for an hour and he could work on things under the guidance of a speech therapist (usually.) If you dig up your local autism group, they can usually tell you where to find a group or a therapist who does the groups.

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Autism Happens

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