Re: How would you have handled this situation at school?

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NO teacher, special ed or otherwise should be discussing ANY child in public! I

had to deal with a middle school V.P. when my son was threatened by another

child. When my son said that the campus supervisor asked the child about the

threat the child " did not remember making the threat. " V.P. told me that is

probably true since the child has Tourette's. What business did he have telling

me some other child's diagnosis, and did this mean the entire world knew my son

was a troublemaker (we did not get an official AS diagnosis for several more

years although my son was receiving a lot of services for other problems). I

went home, tried to call the Principal who was still not back at the school so I

sent him an e-mail. I also sent a letter to the district's superintendent and

cc'ed every member of the board. V.P. is no longer in the district.

Also, if you did not know this lady at this late time in the term, was she an

actual spec ed teacher or a spec ed aide? If she was an aide, she had no

business talking to you about your child in the first place.

Talk to your Principal immediately this morning and let them know about your

concerns. Privacy is a big issue and the district can have major liability

issues if this is not handled immediately and properly.

Debbi in SO CA

Mom to (my AS child) 19

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> At pick up time after school, my son was waiting with a woman I havent' see

before. She introduced herself as a spec. ed teacher and that she was helping my

son with his day as he was having problems. She began speaking to me--very

loudly and then went on to talk about my son's day. I stopped her as this was

pick up time and there were loads of parents around. Is she frickin dense or

what?? I told her this was a private matter and should be treated like one. We

walked away from the crowds and I told her she was very innapropriate to speak

so loudly about such a personal matter. She apologized, but I really think she

did it only because she thought she should. She didn't really seem to get it. We

did discuss some personal things and I know had I said nothing, she would have

kept going on in front of all the parents.

>

> Why the hell should I have to explain tact to a special ed teacher? So, do I

drop it so that she doesn't let this get in the way of doing right by my son?

Or, should I say something to someone higher up? To me, this is no different

than my doctor talking about my test results in a busy waiting room--SHUT UP,

RIGHT!!!

>

> What's your input?

>

[Guest guest]

Did she get it when you told her? Did she apologize to you? How did she seem to react to you after you told her ....how is she now, how is she with your son? Has this happened again since then?

I think if she realized what she did and apologized and was working well with my son...I would not say anything....but I would record it in a log book...date/time/what was said, when and where. And, then if it happens again, I would go to her boss and the Asst. Superintendent of Sped. You don't want to ruin the relationship your child has with the teacher....but I would not let it happen again.

jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: daffymom <daffymom@...>Subject: ( ) Re: How would you have handled this situation at school? Date: Friday, April 17, 2009, 9:57 AM

NO teacher, special ed or otherwise should be discussing ANY child in public! I had to deal with a middle school V.P. when my son was threatened by another child. When my son said that the campus supervisor asked the child about the threat the child "did not remember making the threat." V.P. told me that is probably true since the child has Tourette's. What business did he have telling me some other child's diagnosis, and did this mean the entire world knew my son was a troublemaker (we did not get an official AS diagnosis for several more years although my son was receiving a lot of services for other problems). I went home, tried to call the Principal who was still not back at the school so I sent him an e-mail. I also sent a letter to the district's superintendent and cc'ed every member of the board. V.P. is no longer in the district.Also, if you did not know this lady at this late time in the term, was she an actual spec ed teacher or a

spec ed aide? If she was an aide, she had no business talking to you about your child in the first place. Talk to your Principal immediately this morning and let them know about your concerns. Privacy is a big issue and the district can have major liability issues if this is not handled immediately and properly.Debbi in SO CAMom to (my AS child) 19>> At pick up time after school, my son was waiting with a woman I havent' see before. She introduced herself as a spec. ed teacher and that she was helping my son with his day as he was having problems. She began speaking to me--very loudly and then went on to talk about my son's

day. I stopped her as this was pick up time and there were loads of parents around. Is she frickin dense or what?? I told her this was a private matter and should be treated like one. We walked away from the crowds and I told her she was very innapropriate to speak so loudly about such a personal matter. She apologized, but I really think she did it only because she thought she should. She didn't really seem to get it. We did discuss some personal things and I know had I said nothing, she would have kept going on in front of all the parents. > > Why the hell should I have to explain tact to a special ed teacher? So, do I drop it so that she doesn't let this get in the way of doing right by my son? Or, should I say something to someone higher up? To me, this is no different than my doctor talking about my test results in a busy waiting room--SHUT UP, RIGHT!!!> > What's your

input?>

[Guest guest]

I agree. Did they forget to teach tact in her training?! Your child has rights to privacy. Every office is big on this and the school should be no different.

Lori

Mother of Tyler,19:ADHD

Mother of Korby,16:ODD

Aunt/Guardian of Cole,9:AS

From: lovetoeatchocolatecake <lovetoeatchocolatecake@...>Subject: ( ) How would you have handled this situation at school? Date: Thursday, April 16, 2009, 9:33 PM

At pick up time after school, my son was waiting with a woman I havent' see before. She introduced herself as a spec. ed teacher and that she was helping my son with his day as he was having problems. She began speaking to me--very loudly and then went on to talk about my son's day. I stopped her as this was pick up time and there were loads of parents around. Is she frickin dense or what?? I told her this was a private matter and should be treated like one. We walked away from the crowds and I told her she was very innapropriate to speak so loudly about such a personal matter. She apologized, but I really think she did it only because she thought she should. She didn't really seem to get it. We did discuss some personal things and I know had I said nothing, she would have kept going on in front of all the parents. Why the hell should I have to explain tact to a special ed teacher? So, do I drop it so that she doesn't let

this get in the way of doing right by my son? Or, should I say something to someone higher up? To me, this is no different than my doctor talking about my test results in a busy waiting room--SHUT UP, RIGHT!!!What's your input?------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

Does your ds have an IEP? I would be more upset that they are giving him help in class without discussing the problem(s) with me first. If he doesn't have an IEP already, this is a good time to request one. If he does, then call an IEP meeting and ask to discuss what is going on at school. At that time, you can state again that you prefer to discuss his needs in private. But obviously something is going on and they feel he needs more supports. You should know what is going on and be part of the process in making decisions.

It's not even just the lack of privacy involved but how in the world do you discuss and digest important information while standing in a pick up line? I can imagine horns honking and kids running everywhere. How rude!

Roxanna

"Suppose you were an idiot. And suppose you were a member of Congress. But I repeat myself." ~ Mark Twain

( ) How would you have handled this situation at school?

At pick up time after school, my son was waiting with a woman I havent' see before. She introduced herself as a spec. ed teacher and that she was helping my son with his day as he was having problems. She began speaking to me--very loudly and then went on to talk about my son's day. I stopped her as this was pick up time and there were loads of parents around. Is she frickin dense or what?? I told her this was a private matter and should be treated like one. We walked away from the crowds and I told her she was very innapropriate to speak so loudly about such a personal matter. She apologized, but I really think she did it only because she thought she should. She didn't really seem to get it. We did discuss some personal things and I know had I said nothing, she would have kept going on in front of all the parents. Why the hell should I have to explain tact to a special ed teacher? So, do I drop it so that she doesn't let this get in the way of doing right by my son? Or, should I say something to someone higher up? To me, this is no different than my doctor talking about my test results in a busy waiting room--SHUT UP, RIGHT!!!What's your input?

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